Kent_Mackem
Striker
None of this is meant to be accusing towards anybody else. Just stating what happened with me.
When I split with my missus everything we decided afterwards was with the children in mind. We just agreed to share the care and cost of the boys 50:50. No need for solicitors or child maintenance.
My ex-missus was proper pissed off when I left her. It took a good while for her to come round to the fair sharing, with accusations of “you abandoned us” etc. I decided to sit tight and let the dust settle. I could easily have just picked up the boys up from school anytime I wanted. Although I cried myself to sleep each night for a year, time heals and she realises I looked after her and the boys even when we’d split.
We get along OK now and the boys are really happy (we check regularly by talking to them, teachers and parents of friends - important).
Children adapt so long as there is no rancour between the parents, and they have finely tuned antennae. The parents will always be parents even if they are no longer together. Everything should be done with the children in mind. Pissing away 5 large to solicitors for doing next to nothing, when that money could go to pay Uni fees or similar, can always be avoided if the grown ups are grown ups when there are children in the room.
That said, I wouldn’t wish a divorce on my worst enemy. I hope it doesn’t happen to anybody else.
When I split with my missus everything we decided afterwards was with the children in mind. We just agreed to share the care and cost of the boys 50:50. No need for solicitors or child maintenance.
My ex-missus was proper pissed off when I left her. It took a good while for her to come round to the fair sharing, with accusations of “you abandoned us” etc. I decided to sit tight and let the dust settle. I could easily have just picked up the boys up from school anytime I wanted. Although I cried myself to sleep each night for a year, time heals and she realises I looked after her and the boys even when we’d split.
We get along OK now and the boys are really happy (we check regularly by talking to them, teachers and parents of friends - important).
Children adapt so long as there is no rancour between the parents, and they have finely tuned antennae. The parents will always be parents even if they are no longer together. Everything should be done with the children in mind. Pissing away 5 large to solicitors for doing next to nothing, when that money could go to pay Uni fees or similar, can always be avoided if the grown ups are grown ups when there are children in the room.
That said, I wouldn’t wish a divorce on my worst enemy. I hope it doesn’t happen to anybody else.