Jason Steele?If in doubt look after number one.
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Jason Steele?If in doubt look after number one.
I totally get that, I'm up in Scotland and have been for years now (with a stint in Belfast too). We're settled here but I still get feelings of wanting to be back in the north-east, usually when I've just visited. Mostly it's missing family, rather than the place. How much of it is that for you? Do you miss the north-east as a place or miss the family you have there? If it's the latter, maybe asking them to visit you more might be a positive step?
I had to actually say to my family, "come and visit more please" - it might be worth doing that if you haven't. It definitely helps marra.Both really mate but probably family more than anything, I’ve spoke to my dad about how I feel he just says wait and see if the homesickness wears off and don’t do anything rash.
Move halfway between the 2?
I moved away from the north east 5 years ago when I was 21 to be with my mrs in the Midlands, I realise now that I was just a kid and I never really thought it through properly. My GF was battling leukaemia at the time and I felt like I had to be there for her and look after her so I moved in with her and her mam and dad. It’s a big house and we don’t tread on each other’s toes, plenty of space etc...
Thankfully these days my mrs is in good health however we still live with her mam and dad although we have started to save a substantial amount of money for a deposit on our own house.
The problem is since Xmas I’ve become really homesick. Every time I return to the north east to see my parents etc... it breaks my heart to leave again. I’ve queried whether my GF will move up with me but she has categorically stated that she will not even entertain the idea.
So I’m kind of stuck in limbo, I’m quite miserable tbf. I count down the days until I’m able to go back home to see my family. I’ve started to think about giving my GF an ultimatum - you can either move up with me or I’ll go by myself. Of course this would break both our hearts.
Anyone ever been in a similar situation?
Maybe the op should get a bairn or two to fix the situation.What ties us exiles to a place once we move. I suppose it's the ties we make, maybe seeing your kids being born and settled where they are, work and career progression. You really sound as if you are on the horns of a dilemma though. I guess sometimes though you have to stick with a decision and tough it out. Any choice like this will involve losses and gains and they will echo down the years. No one can advise you what's right. There is no easy answer. Maybe do a list of strengths weaknesses opportunities and threats of both outcomes. Try and weight each item. Then steel yourself to the fact that every life decision comes at some cost. Good luck
In 5 years time she can give him an ultimatum.Would you miss her marra? Thing is if she moved north with you shel probably have the same feelings as you..homesick as owt..
You nowt better to do!!Good advice, then you can be both miserable and homesick together