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well i think most of us would go elsewhere than a message board that tends to bring the WUM's out but if he feels he has no one else to talk to or nowhere else to go then maybe that is why he chose the board.

think a few have had some kind of 'run in' due to his style but i don't think a single one of them will hate him or wish him harm...but some seem genuinely concerned and having been there myself i just hope all is well.
 
chopsfc007 said:
Iv got the same issues its hard to see things improving
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May be hard to see it, but there's always hope. That's the key. You always come across as a good bloke.

I lost the job of a lifetime a month ago, and because of that, decided to move with my girlfriend to a very remote part of Norway. I've got no social life up here. But I know it's just a particular part of my life and things will be different as life goes on. I'm trying to focus on the positives, such as the beautiful nature. Recently got myself a puppy and that has helped a lot. Cutting down on the booze and walking and exercise is the way forward.

All the best to you mate and the OP.
 
The Rat said:
Got to be honest struggling a bit here.

No social group, feel like no mates, or at least not in one place all together.

Back in a mundane job, work from home, so no interaction with anyone. Jobs going nowhere, shite money, feel way behind my peers. But I’ve got no plan of what I wanna do or progress.

Nae Lass, nae plan, nae motivation, absolutely nothing planned till Christmas Day, literally

I’ve thought about many things over years, going to work remotely from abroad which maybe I could do, or all this type of shite, but not sure I’ve got any confidence left to do out.

Im 31 and I just feel like it’s going nowhere and I’m wasting me life and have wasted it so far. But no motivation to do fuck all. Feel totally alone but at the same time finding it hard to motivate to wanna talk to anyone.

Fed up!
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You’re not alone

A lack of regimentation isn’t a good thing

I worked from home for 13 years with the government, left and then started contracting

Was also allowed to work from home, finished contracts and had time in between to do nowt and it’s not all it’s cracked up to be

It’s got fuckall to do with the money and more the fact that when you have choices but no fucker around to exercise those choices and free time with it becomes a bit pointless

I’ve got absolutely no idea how people can simply retire and do nothing all day for 15 to 20 years
 
IF live sunderland join local running club which also has strong social side to it
Sunderland strollers meet ashbrooke cricket club wed night 7
Silky striders meet silky puma centre entrance wed night 6
Sunderland harriers also have a social side and all capabilities , Silksworth ski lodge tues night 645
 
Just seen this. Hope you are ok @The Rat If a natter with some random internet bint would help, drop me a PM. Look after yourself xx
 
The Rat said:
Got to be honest struggling a bit here.

No social group, feel like no mates, or at least not in one place all together.

Back in a mundane job, work from home, so no interaction with anyone. Jobs going nowhere, shite money, feel way behind my peers. But I’ve got no plan of what I wanna do or progress.

Nae Lass, nae plan, nae motivation, absolutely nothing planned till Christmas Day, literally

I’ve thought about many things over years, going to work remotely from abroad which maybe I could do, or all this type of shite, but not sure I’ve got any confidence left to do out.

Im 31 and I just feel like it’s going nowhere and I’m wasting me life and have wasted it so far. But no motivation to do fuck all. Feel totally alone but at the same time finding it hard to motivate to wanna talk to anyone.

Fed up!
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It's all about being happy with yourself more than anything. Because if you are fine with who you are it doesn't matter if you don't socialise at all.

Confidence comes form within and there is no worse voice than your inner critic, but speaking from someone who is in a similar position the only way you can get the happiness you want Ratty, is to put yourself out there and meet people by joining a club or a gym and you will see that there are plenty of good people out there.

You see a gorgeous woman and think "I have to talk to her" then you don't and go home thinking "You daft bastard, you should have said hello" :lol:, plenty of men go through that like.

Negative thoughts are poisonous and only attracts more negativity just look at Pure Football at 5pm today if another 1-1 happens. To sum up there are plenty of loner men out there and some are happy, some are not but it is not unusual to feel like that.
 
Combination of many things.
Pressure, loneliness, low self esteem and more and all bouncing inside that small vegetable matter inside your head. Managing the mind is a skill that can be developed and that surprises people.
One first easy step though is don’t suffer alone. You only have to read the messages on this thread to realise there are some truly wonderful people close by.
Life is tough without doubt and helping others is a class thing to do.
None of you support Swindon therefore you have a decent start already.
 
Hope he’s okay, goodness knows we’ve had our differences but I don’t like reading posts like this and seeing no reply from the poster.
Work can be a big social part of your life, even if it’s just chatting about what was on the tele it’s social interaction, and working from home everyday must be really isolating.
I was away from the gym for 3 months at the end of last year, longest time in 14 years, it was a real struggle to go back but I went and as soon as I did I felt better. For me exercise isn’t just about physical health it’s about emotional health too so those suggesting some sort of exercise are spot on.
Anyway I really hope you are okay x
 
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