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Neither - just tragically sad that they believed that was the only way they could relief from the torment in their head and very difficult for those who were left behind who will always wonder what if.
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I would imagine, those that commit suicide are neither selfish nor brave, nor weak.
I just think they've got to a point in their lives where they cannot see any other way out of their problems, other than to end their lives.
I really don't think that they even consider the implications of their actions, and how it will impact on loved ones they leave behind.
They seem to be totally focused on finding a way out of their torment.
It's often been stated, that the hours before somebody ends their life, that they seem totally relaxed and happy, giving no outward clues, that they'll be soon ending their life.
I think the appearance of seeming to be happy, is that they have come to terms with bringing about an end to their torment.
2 people in my year went through with it not long after leaving school, 1 was having problems in the army and the other jumped off a viaduct for reasons unknown although it sounded like he just gave up on life. Its very very sad.Neither. People who do it are mentally broken beyond the comprehension of us who don’t have these urges. Who are we to say what they should and shouldn’t do. People suffering terminal illness and won’t come back from the brink of say their cancer is killing them and will want to be out of that misery. People who can’t see a way out or simply not want to carry on fighting it wanting peace will feel just as justified to make that decision too I’d imagine. Tragic is the only way I can imagine it being. Fortunately I know nobody that has succeeded.
It's neither because the person is (in my opinion) not thinking in a rational way so is not making a 'conscious' decision. Sadly, it's the only way out for them and they probably don't consider others or 'think' that what they are doing is best for all.Selfish or brave?
I've always thought it was really brave but just heard a friend of the family has done it (and left behind two little uns) and I can see why some would class it as a selfish act now.
Selfish or brave?
I've always thought it was really brave but just heard a friend of the family has done it (and left behind two little uns) and I can see why some would class it as a selfish act now.
Ive known two people who committed suicide and imo it was neither selfish or brave but incredibly sad
That’s my contribution to the thread over and out
One of my old mates tried to commit suicide in front of me and another guy, no need for that comment I've experienced it first hand, I knew it was just a cry for help but it was 50/50 whether he survived. Nothing brave about it at all so I don't know why you would even say that.
Selfish 100% my dad did it when I was 8 and it killed me, still love him but he took the easy way out.
Me anarlNeither brave nor selfish. It simply is. When your brains out of kilter that much that it seems the only option, as daft as it may seem to us or me when i`m ok it seems like the most rational thing in the world.
And as someone who has had family do it the mess left behind is horrendous, not just the phsyical mess of stuff to sort out but the emotional mess heartbreak and unanswered questions
Agreed GGI'd never say its brave personally, but that's not a criticism of people who have taken their own lives because I know they won't be in the right state of mind, our brains can do fucked up things to us. If you were thinking straight, I'd say it's braver to tackle whatever is getting you that depressed and keep going until you beat it, not take an option that ends your life and passes pain onto others. You can't call it cowardly or selfish either though, its just people who have been pushed further than they can take.
One thing I am glad about with modern society is that people are starting to feel more comfortable with discussing their feelings, hopefully giving a chance for people to intervene and get them help. There's loads of people happy to help, you just need to look on the depression thread on here to see that, there's loads of lads and lasses who don't know you, but if you needed it they'd go out of their way to meet up with you, talk things through and try to help, it's genuinely the best thing on this board, and people like that are all over, just need to be honest and open up
Exactly what my post is about mate, we need to improve our communication channels for those who are struggling.It feels very selfish when it happens, the people left behind with questions, guilt and why, is my experience.
I felt angry strangely that it happened to a family member, the family would have supported him had they known something was wrong.
But when it settles the thought that someone wants to end it all, surely means that they are not in any position to think of anyone else, just the pain they feel.
I’m not it the least trying to say I know the answers but having been involved in other mates who have broke down and asked for help, it’s startling and very upsetting to hear people speak about “bad thoughts” being the answer.
I’m so proud I got someone to seek medical help and supported him for months until the medication kicked in and he started to feel better, he’s still here with his wife and kids and the thoughts are no longer in his head.
I fully admit I was a “man up” person about 10 years ago, no longer.
Talking to people as a bloke is very difficult, I’m very guilty of this, I love to listen but never ever share my problems.
I’m trying to change.
That's really sad.Friend of mine took his life recently, his funeral is on Friday. Really popular lad, life and soul of the party, been to a few home and away games with him with the jarra branch and a stag do, you would never have thought he had issues. He used to sing “I love my life!” He had a young daughter similar to mine.
I wasn’t a close friend but it has taken my by surprise, someone so full of life can be so tormented inside.