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You're most welcome Mick.bThank you so much for taking the time to write such heartfelt words. I really appreciate it. The one thing that I have taken from all of this is how much people care. The cards, phone calls, messages from family, friends, acquaintances and even people who I`ve never met have brought me a lot of comfort. I spent half an hour on the day of her funeral at the chapel of rest talking to her about everything and nothing. I did of course tell her how much I am enjoying her book. I told her how much I miss her and that she has been a great Mum to me and how much that I loved her. I think she knew that, even though I didn`t say it a lot. I did tell her in hospital a few weeks before she died. She taught me well and to be respectful and considerate regardless of race, religion or any differences in people and those are lessons I`ve passed on to my kids I hope she will be proud of me and her grandchildren.
I collected her ashes a few days ago and I spoke to her on the drive to my home through Durham passed the church where she married my Dad, passed a couple of places where she had worked, the place where she was born and lived as a child and passed where I went to school and where we all lived as a family. I spoke to her the whole time telling her where we were. The only place I didn`t take her was to M&S for a coffee although I`m sure she`d have loved that.
I went up to Durham Cathedral on Monday to sit and listen to the Holocaust Memorial Service. She knew how I loved history and knew how I`d sit and listen to people talking about their experiences. I gave her a lot of thought as I sat and listened and when I walked around the cathedral afterwards.
It`s a tough time and it`s hit me hard but I do value what I had so much and she has made me a big part of what I am today so I have a lot to be thankful for.
Thank you again for what you have said. SMB is a great place for banter, debate, general chat about this and that but also a wonderful place to share experiences like this so thankyou for your kind words.
Thank you Becs. I`m sorry to hear about your Dad. My Mum wasn`t really into football like I was but she always checked the scores and always mentioned it when I visited, usually commiserating in recent years but she shared my joy when we had the good times especially when heading off to Wembley.
I think a lot of the shock I`m feeling is the fact that she`s been through so much and seemed to be through the other end, to be taken after that is hard to take. Even the pneumonia that she was being treated for this time seemed on it`s way out to the extent she was expecting to be coming home in a couple of days. I spoke to the sister and doctor on the ward last week and they explained what had happened. She`d been up and waiting for her breakfast when she slipped away suddenly. At least I can take comfort from the fact that she was expecting me in to see her that day, as I did every day and that she was coming home soon. She wasn`t sitting feeling herself declining and slipping away. She was full of hope and didn`t suffer but I just wish more than anything we had just a little bit more time when she could have enjoyed a new lease of life after her heart operation in December. I am grateful for having her as my Mum and will always love her and just writing about this is helping. Thank you for listening.
Lovely words, btw.
Just reading your post, indicates how special your Mam was to you, and how much she influenced your life, in a very good and positive way, and I have no doubt whatsoever, she'll be very proud of you and the grandkids.
I'm sure your Mam would've loved a coffee in M&S (I was in the H/pool store having a coffee with my Mam, yesterday)
I'm pleased you were able to post about your feelings of sadness (something I'm not good at doing) and I'm also glad, you've found some comfort, from peoples responses to your post, on here.
You sound like a good bloke, with excellent values, and that's testament to the way, your Mam brought you up.
I wish you and your family well for the future.