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mackem1989 said:
There’s a few tried
To inbox me but having issues emptying it sorry guys! Appreciate the support
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Good to see you getting loads of support though and hope it helps.

If anything it at least shows you're not on your own and there's loads of people with similar problems that can offer support.

Can be very good as well having the option to air issues that you might not be comfortable with doing so to people you know etc

Glad to hear your doing better today though.
 
It may of been asked or mentioned on here before, so apologies' if it has...

But does anyone have good book recommendations? Like that inspires purpose or getting yourself out of a funk? Few things lately taking its toll?
 
Mackem in Berlin said:
It may of been asked or mentioned on here before, so apologies' if it has...

But does anyone have good book recommendations? Like that inspires purpose or getting yourself out of a funk? Few things lately taking its toll?
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Not a book but can recommend the Calm app. There's various things you can listen to on there. I like the Daily Calm. It's about 10 mins long and is a mix of positive thinking and relaxation/breathing exercises. I usually listen to it in bed to help me relax before I go to sleep.

You do have to pay for it, but I can send you a free 30 day guest pass to try it if you think it would help.
 
Becs said:
Not a book but can recommend the Calm app. There's various things you can listen to on there. I like the Daily Calm. It's about 10 mins long and is a mix of positive thinking and relaxation/breathing exercises. I usually listen to it in bed to help me relax before I go to sleep.

You do have to pay for it, but I can send you a free 30 day guest pass to try it if you think it would help.
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Ah great. Yeah please. Sounds ideal for my commute
 
Mackem in Berlin said:
It may of been asked or mentioned on here before, so apologies' if it has...

But does anyone have good book recommendations? Like that inspires purpose or getting yourself out of a funk? Few things lately taking its toll?
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Depends what your after and what you like. I honestly find self help books and the like utterly shite and uninspiring.

If I wanna be inspired or get a boost then I just think finding some bio on someone who overcome the odds usually does the trick best.

Though I'm much more a glutton for punishment and prefer dark as shit books tbh 🤣
 
Chatty83 said:
Depends what your after and what you like. I honestly find self help books and the like utterly shite and uninspiring.

If I wanna be inspired or get a boost then I just think finding some bio on someone who overcome the odds usually does the trick best.

Though I'm much more a glutton for punishment and prefer dark as shit books tbh 🤣
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I've tried couple novels lately but they didn't do the trick... Bios could be a good shout
 
Hi all. How are we doing? Hope we are all as well as can be.

So after having the dark thoughts and having crisis team out two weeks ago. I’ve been waiting for my days off to go and change medication as I’m on final warning through being off with my mental health.

Just been and have to wean myself off these citalopram for a week then start new medication. It’s going to be rough as I’m not with it lately.

But onwards and upwards.

Sending love to everyone.

Love Rhubarb. And as always I’m here if anyone needs anything. X
 
Hi all,

Just wanted to check in with a positive story and to thank a few on here who sent me some nice messages last year. I don't know if many remember but a year or so back me and my partner were going through a tough time and she eventually came to me and said she didn't love me anymore and wanted us the go our separate ways. We were engaged and 9 months before had booked our wedding. We had 2 young children who were 1 and 4 at the time. Everything i'd been working for for the years prior to build a better life for my family was taken away at that point. My world fell apart, wedding was cancelled and i'd hit rock bottom not knowing how i could still be a dad to my kids or what the future would look like for me/them. I felt like i'd let them down which was the worst of it all for me.

We had a week or 2 of living together but at the time accepting it was short term until we sorted the house out etc. But then we managed to sit down for half an hour to talk and understand what caused these problems. Some things on my side and some things on her side just weren't working. That chat cleared the air and we agreed some changes and agreed to have another go of it but make sure we find time for ourselves away from being mam/dad. Some posters on here sent me some lovely messages at the time and provided some great advice which meant the world to me and gave me hope at a time when i didn't feel there was any.

One poster in particular (i can't remember who!) said to do things which make us both laugh and remember why we got together. That changed things for us as the little time we got together felt more important and enjoyable again.

Anyway, long story short. We have built our relationship back to where we were a few years back and now have a better understanding of what we both need from each other to be happy. Last weekend, she walked in with her engagement ring back on and said she wanted to get married again (not gonna lie, i cried) - but this time she wants a nice small local church wedding (the one we booked before was your typical flashy type which deep down wasn't what she wanted). A couple of phonecalls later we have now paid a deposit to secure our date at the venue she has always wanted. 269 days and counting.

I felt it was important to put this message here as a reminder to those going through tough times that this board and the posters on here can really make a difference. I genuinely thought there was no way back for me and my family, people on here made me believe again. I'm now hoping i can be that person for someone else x
 
Nathan Gunn said:
Hi all,

Just wanted to check in with a positive story and to thank a few on here who sent me some nice messages last year. I don't know if many remember but a year or so back me and my partner were going through a tough time and she eventually came to me and said she didn't love me anymore and wanted us the go our separate ways. We were engaged and 9 months before had booked our wedding. We had 2 young children who were 1 and 4 at the time. Everything i'd been working for for the years prior to build a better life for my family was taken away at that point. My world fell apart, wedding was cancelled and i'd hit rock bottom not knowing how i could still be a dad to my kids or what the future would look like for me/them. I felt like i'd let them down which was the worst of it all for me.

We had a week or 2 of living together but at the time accepting it was short term until we sorted the house out etc. But then we managed to sit down for half an hour to talk and understand what caused these problems. Some things on my side and some things on her side just weren't working. That chat cleared the air and we agreed some changes and agreed to have another go of it but make sure we find time for ourselves away from being mam/dad. Some posters on here sent me some lovely messages at the time and provided some great advice which meant the world to me and gave me hope at a time when i didn't feel there was any.

One poster in particular (i can't remember who!) said to do things which make us both laugh and remember why we got together. That changed things for us as the little time we got together felt more important and enjoyable again.

Anyway, long story short. We have built our relationship back to where we were a few years back and now have a better understanding of what we both need from each other to be happy. Last weekend, she walked in with her engagement ring back on and said she wanted to get married again (not gonna lie, i cried) - but this time she wants a nice small local church wedding (the one we booked before was your typical flashy type which deep down wasn't what she wanted). A couple of phonecalls later we have now paid a deposit to secure our date at the venue she has always wanted. 269 days and counting.

I felt it was important to put this message here as a reminder to those going through tough times that this board and the posters on here can really make a difference. I genuinely thought there was no way back for me and my family, people on here made me believe again. I'm now hoping i can be that person for someone else x
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That's amazing. Too many people are too quick to give up these days. If something's worth fighting for and with a little bit of effort (or alot) things can be turned around..Also highlights how important communication and checking in at regular intervals is.. like a yearly relationship M.O.T
 
Mackem in Berlin said:
That's amazing. Too many people are too quick to give up these days. If something's worth fighting for and with a little bit of effort (or alot) things can be turned around..Also highlights how important communication and checking in at regular intervals is.. like a yearly relationship M.O.T
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Hendon Mad Frog said:
Fantastic news @Nathan Gunn. So many problems can be solved just by sitting down and communicating!
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Thanks both. Must have been a good 3 years since we last sat and chatted like that. A life lesson for us both for sure
 
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