This. GPs see people with depression all the time and will know what support is available in your area. Although many SMB posters are very supportive they can't refer you to the appropriate agencies and are rarely medically qualified. GPs can and are. They're the place to start.Just take it with a pinch of salt and remember that people only put the best things on social media. Even my own only shows the fun things I've done. Flicking back through May and I've posted about family day outs, went to a gig, last match of the season, daughters birthday and the Northern Lights. All looks positive and none of the negative stuff I've posted on this thread is on there.
I don't want to nag you again, but you need nagging
Honestly mate you need to find the courage to make that step and contact the GP and free support to see if that helps. Take care pet xx
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Depression thread continued...
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Turner the Cat
Midfield
Hi mate
Just to say I think I can empathise with you as at times I've lived with issues for a long time when I really should have done something about it.
What I would say is you are worth it.
Finally when I got round to taking steps it just lifted my spirits because I was doing something to make myself better. Simply the idea that things might get better because Ive seen a doctor really improved my mental health. Not that it was superficial because it did help as well. Its not the golden bullet as things go up and down but things are much better.
Wishing you the best.
Scootsie
Striker
Mate I was the same. It took me nigh on 10 years of putting it off before I knew I had to speak to my doctor before it got too much for me.
It’s easy for other people to tell you you should do it, but I promise you’ll feel better after that initial conversation and not all help out there will cost you money.
Roker SOL
Winger
I think to clarify and the advice you've been given and make things more succinct.
1) Talk to your GP and perhaps in the short term if you need to take anti-depressants then do so. Anti-depressants aren't my gig as I like a clear head, but them may help you.
2) Don't worry about affording counselling. As about NHS Talking Therapies. Contact them and they'll give you options of online group sessions (everyone is anonymous to everyone else) and if you need it, face-to-face individual counselling. Note that you are asked to try the group sessions first, which are about techniques, but they in themselves are useful too.
In the second instance, it's been about me delevoping strategies to deal with my ASD traits (how to break out of negative self-loathing loops - alexithymia, break hyperfocus on things that are unimportant).
I only experience certain symptoms when I feel I've hurt someone. My normal personality is laid back and easy going, but if someone makes me feel I've wronged them, I automatically blame myself rather than look at the situation as a whole.
An example is the lady I was seeing - I know I keep dwelling in her, but she's a good example of what I do to myself when things go wrong. She took offence at the off-the-cuff remark I made and meant nothing by after initially seeming to accept my initial apology. She basically told me to foxtrot oscar but did it in a way it was not clear it was that remark. I thought and assumed I'd done something far worse and ended up blaming myself for an unspecified event that had never happened, going round in harmful loops becuse of it. I still wonder if she didn't understand the consequences of her actions or did it a way she knew would cause the most harm.
Only once I stepped back, went through all the messages including ones I'd moved to recycling and actually thought through the situation did I realise she'd revisited the original remark and I think at the prompting of a third party. It was only then I realised how pathetic the situation was and took steps to walk away.
I admit I've residual, lingering feelings for her, but I cannot afford to have someone like that in my life again (she has her own issues though she was rarely clear on these and the sheer negativity to men her life especially was wow - ex-partners, male blood relatives, etc. - it was always them, not her, to blame). I need positive people around me.
You yourself will find the right kind of positivity in the people around you is also a big deal.
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Randy Ostrich
Striker
I'm a counsellor. Feel free to send a dm. If nothing else, we'll sort options that won't cost anything
Roker SOL
Winger
@Ciro_DiMarzio , this...I'm a counsellor. Feel free to send a dm. If nothing else, we'll sort options that won't cost anything
Ciro_DiMarzio
Striker
Thanks for tagging me I missed the post initially. I've sent a PM.
Spent all-day Friday trying to drum up the courage to phone to make an appointment for my GP (I realise how silly that is). Rang 3 times and got no answer. Hoping I feel up to trying again tomorrow. Had another crap day yesterday. I think weekends are becoming worse than during the week because atleast at work it gives me something to concentrate on for a bit.
Roker SOL
Winger
You did see my mention of NHS Talking Therapies too?
Ciro_DiMarzio
Striker
Yes mate. I've seen I can refer myself to that or speak to my GP about it. Hopefully I'll get to see a GP this week.
GordonMuchallNo1Fan
Striker
Plenty of them about. One I know very well off here. Awful craic.He sounds like a textbook narcissistic sociopath. Why would any man not want their partner to breastfeed when it's been shown to be better for the baby
I hope your son is doing well, I know the toll it can take when a father doesn't show them any love or support and just tries to parent by psychological aggression and/or violence.
Not a thread for bitchin this though mate.
GordonMuchallNo1Fan
Striker
Nope. It's serious stuff though. Seen it happen with a close family member recently and now again with a friend. Never quite understand it. I'm a qualified mental health first aider and I've had a few people reach out for a chat about this sort of thing. It worries me a lot people behave like this and it's sadly becoming more common. However it's also becoming more common that people are now speaking out about it which is a positive. Had someone from work message me last week saying the advice I gave them was the best advice they've had regarding their similar situation and it's stuck with them ever since. That sort of thing makes you feel canny when trying to help.
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Ive a mate in an absolutely horific situation who im seeing this week. Ill be honest im not looking forward to it.
I feel part of why we are seeing it as more common is because people assume that people with any narcissistic trait are a narcissist, whereas most people show at least one trait. Awareness for it is very high also just now as you say people talk, but also imo because we had two successive PM who probably fit all 9 criteria.
I'm glad people took your advice. I hate when people constantly ask, do nothing or the opposite then are back in the same position. Mind I'm sure we've all done that
70s traveller
Striker
Stress & anxiety can contribute to that, but get it checked for your peace of mind.
chopsfc007
Striker
Aye possibly I got told it might be my asthma but I know it isn't because my inhaler doesn't help.
InsomniacAttack
Winger
I spent 6 years or so trying to sort myself out until I had a complete an utter meltdown and went to see my GP.
SSRIs terrified the life out of me but quite frankly they are the only things that help me. Been on them for about 7 years or so now.
You deserve help. I also felt like I owed it to our lass and the bairn to get myself sorted out (please don't take this the wrong way).
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70s traveller
Striker
I would suggest to have a word with a trained medic who would certainly offer the correct guidance for your case if your inhaler isn't helping.
You did a good thing there helping them
We had leaflets on the mental health hub for a service where domestic violence perpetrators could refer themselves for help. I was talking it over with one of the others on the stand and we wondered how many would sign up to that. Often the perpetrator doesn't believe they have done anything wrong, so they're unlikely to self refer themselves for help.
I wonder what is the split of people who know and people who don't. If I saw them I would take a leaflet and leave it in a place it could be found by a couple of people.
