Anyone been in an open relationship before?

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Absolutely loads of people here are in open relationships with their missus'

Mind, they are not aware that this is the case.
 
haway said:
I don't mean by this a 'casual' relationship with someone, but a serious one where you're committed to one another but agree each other can sleep with other people sometimes (or together?).

I guess anyone whose done swinging or the like would fall into this.

What are the pros and cons? Strikes me as a pretty sensible way to do a relationship. Not sure why total monogamy is the best way of expressing your love for someone. Surely two grown adults would be capable of separating sex from love?

I know it wouldn't be for everyone, but anyway, does it work?
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I couldn't handle it, but I worked with a married couple 37 years ago and they were experimenting in the swinging scene. Because of the nature of the job, I would work with them separately and they were both totally honest about it and we had some frank discussions about it. They moved on and left sr6 for a top union job in London area and I lost touch after that and have never seen them again.

a cousin down south was married and they were into the swinging scene particularly with a set of neighbours and both couples ended up divorcing and marrying who they were swinging with
 
soapster said:
I couldn't handle it, but I worked with a married couple 37 years ago and they were experimenting in the swinging scene. Because of the nature of the job, I would work with them separately and they were both totally honest about it and we had some frank discussions about it. They moved on and left sr6 for a top union job in London area and I lost touch after that and have never seen them again.

a cousin down south was married and they were into the swinging scene particularly with a set of neighbours and both couples ended up divorcing and marrying who they were swinging with
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How did they feel about it then?
 
haway said:
How did they feel about it then?
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have not seen the couple I worked with for years. Just done a facebook search and nothing coming up. They were relatively just new at it and they had a rule that if they do, they must tell the other first but what I can gather it was swinging with other couples as opposed to "open". They were both well balanced thinking people, but I moved on and so did they so haven't scoobie how things are with them now. the lad was crazy, but very intelligent. He would read the dictionary on a night, jut to ensure he learnt new words, but they were very nice people and would like to get in touch again if I could.

My cousin has been happily married to the "other woman" now for 30 odd years, so I guess by luck he found the best partner.

I say now, I am retired with a pension, house and car and I don't want to be just a retired person. That's what would happen if we got divorced now, so keeping things on the straight line.
 
haway said:
I don't mean by this a 'casual' relationship with someone, but a serious one where you're committed to one another but agree each other can sleep with other people sometimes (or together?).

I guess anyone whose done swinging or the like would fall into this.

What are the pros and cons? Strikes me as a pretty sensible way to do a relationship. Not sure why total monogamy is the best way of expressing your love for someone. Surely two grown adults would be capable of separating sex from love?

I know it wouldn't be for everyone, but anyway, does it work?
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I have dabbled with group stuff with no problems so far. I wouldn't like it done behind my back though and our lass has the same opinion.
 
haway said:
I don't mean by this a 'casual' relationship with someone, but a serious one where you're committed to one another but agree each other can sleep with other people sometimes (or together?).

I guess anyone whose done swinging or the like would fall into this.

What are the pros and cons? Strikes me as a pretty sensible way to do a relationship. Not sure why total monogamy is the best way of expressing your love for someone. Surely two grown adults would be capable of separating sex from love?

I know it wouldn't be for everyone, but anyway, does it work?
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IMO Humans are not monogamist
Love is... well thats an age old one
Love thy neighbour seems to be the way to go
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;)
 
I've got no interest in shagging other lasses, and if our lass got railed off another bloke I'd be gone for good. So no, I haven't.
 
look out piano said:
Nope, if I'm in a relationship I'd hope we would be exclusive to each other. Open relationships are "slippery slope", and as much as I like slippery things I would stop liking them if I knew it had been in someone else's orifices :confused: :lol:.
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Lots of people have this view, but the feeling among proper swingers is that they can completely separate love from sex. It's just something they do for a hobby. Which I still find quite odd mind.

ouro said:
I've got no interest in shagging other lasses, and if our lass got railed off another bloke I'd be gone for good. So no, I haven't.
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I agree if it was with blokes, but if she liked pussy, it's not really a service you could provide her with.
 
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Aye, if she wanted to fiddle about with a tuppence licker I don't think I'd mind, I might suggest it to her. From a safe distance.
 
Dave Herbal said:
Kind of. My ex was bi so I used to let her meet women for her fix of clam jousting. No other men involved though. Haway man, isn't it every man's fantasy?
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In a world without jealousy, emotions and STDs it would be topper Dave marra :lol:

If you can keep those under check more power to you
 
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