Depression thread continued...

[JAZZMANB]

I don't think the percentages are in anyone's favour, not suggesting people haven't made it work online. I bet it was much easier when the dating sites started to meet someone. Think I mentioned before the only real success I had was talking to a lovely Ukrainian lass for about a month last summer

I've used them in the past . Years ago The men women % is always mad but they were doable . Now it's mahh!

 

[Mr Redknapp]

I've used them in the past . Years ago The men women % is always mad but they were doable . Now it's mahh!

I think once the power dynamics were established on dating sites, the authenticity went

 

[DBStar]

I've used them in the past . Years ago The men women % is always mad but they were doable . Now it's mahh!

They are all in the business of selling women's cartoon-like profile pictures to men.

 

[JAZZMANB]

They are all in the business of selling women's cartoon-like profile pictures to men.

Plenty women paying their subs too .

 

[Football Dinosaur]

Anyone else find Christmas and new year really tough?

Yes. Been away this year on a once in a decade holiday. On a beach the day before coming back feeling really down wanting to cry my eyes out. Been down since but could be the weather and post hol blues.


I've had problems in the past but a much better stable 18 months. Don't have an aim or purpose and trying to come up with one to give me focus. Life tends to be tough but getting through and looking at the brightest side is possible each day.

 

[CPLforever]

Just said somewhere else but I am sort of at the moment looking at a mixture of Nihilistim and Existentialism and once we realise life really hasn't any great purpose we can sort of let our souls....and minds rest and just exist, get on with it and accept there is no great purpose we have to fulfill.

 

[lucky]

Yes. Been away this year on a once in a decade holiday. On a beach the day before coming back feeling really down wanting to cry my eyes out. Been down since but could be the weather and post hol blues.


I've had problems in the past but a much better stable 18 months. Don't have an aim or purpose and trying to come up with one to give me focus. Life tends to be tough but getting through and looking at the brightest side is possible each day.

Keep going mate and you do have an aim and purpose and that's to get away again as soon as you can .

Just said somewhere else but I am sort of at the moment looking at a mixture of Nihilistim and Existentialism and once we realise life really hasn't any great purpose we can sort of let our souls....and minds rest and just exist, get on with it and accept there is no great purpose we have to fulfill.

If you need anything please message mate

 

[RossTheNinja]

Just said somewhere else but I am sort of at the moment looking at a mixture of Nihilistim and Existentialism and once we realise life really hasn't any great purpose we can sort of let our souls....and minds rest and just exist, get on with it and accept there is no great purpose we have to fulfill.

I think our purpose is just to be useful. In any tiny way is a win.

Been out of a job for a few months now mind so it's pretty shite at the moment. Stuck for useful stuff to do. Sleep is fucked.

Other than that I'm grand

 

[CPLforever]

Keep going mate and you do have an aim and purpose and that's to get away again as soon as you can .

If you need anything please message mate

I'm sort of ok but wondering what my (or most others to be honest) purpose is. I feel as tho my existence is nothing more than a period of time between being born and dying (existential fatigue) and it wears me out.
But hey. That's probably why I am on a shit load of medication. Thanks for reaching out tho. That does make me feel better.

 

[lucky]

I'm sort of ok but wondering what my (or most others to be honest) purpose is. I feel as tho my existence is nothing more than a period of time between being born and dying (existential fatigue) and it wears me out.
But hey. That's probably why I am on a shit load of medication. Thanks for reaching out tho. That does make me feel better.

Mate I have the most boring life going but I have been bad recently and its really gave me a kick up the arse. I'm sick of waking up each morning and just plodding through life so I've decided I'm gonna do something each day that makes me happy or someone else happy as that makes me happy also.
You a lovely poster mate and if you need anything I'd be more than happy to help in anyway I can .

 

[Az*]

I wouldn’t say I’m depressed but I’ve had a rough few years, the last one especially so snd I think it’s finally taken its toll.

I’m 24 I had a brain bleed and a stroke, I’ve spoken about it before on the smb at length, it’s left me quite severely disabled and completely altered my life. I was managing it mind, just, but I was getting there.
End of 24 my cousin snd one of my best mates/mentors suddenly passed away, September 25 an uncle passed away due to cancer, he got me my first job which imo basically saved me from a life of shi, in late 25 my mam passed suddenly 2days after my birthday. A month after that my fil had a brain bleed and stroke which has basically broken him, he’s lost his memory and has no idea wtf is going on anymore and it feels like I’ve also lost him ya know.

My mams death and fil stroke have really knocked me sideways. I can talk about my mam now without getting all emotional but still struggle a little accepting she’s not here any more.

I’m not really sure what my point is tbh, just need to write it down I suppose…

My hope is that 2026 will be a better year snd my luck will change for the better. Living 300 mile away from my family obviously doesn’t help but I suppose it is what it is.

 

[CPLforever]

You ARE suffering from depression. It's known as reactive depression. You are reacting too and are finding it difficult to bounce back from the terribly sad and tragic things that have been happening to you. And no the bloody wonder. It sounds like one knock after another.

The important thing to do here is look after yourself. Try and keep yourself well. It takes time and I don't think you ever fully recover from the loss of someone close but it's good when you can think about them and smile. Or laugh even if still mixed with tears.

You have done great since your stroke @Az* really working hard on yourself. Keep that up and I know everyone on here is willing you on.

 

[Az*]

You ARE suffering from depression. It's known as reactive depression. You are reacting too and are finding it difficult to bounce back from the terribly sad and tragic things that have been happening to you. And no the bloody wonder. It sounds like one knock after another.

The important thing to do here is look after yourself. Try and keep yourself well. It takes time and I don't think you ever fully recover from the loss of someone close but it's good when you can think about them and smile. Or laugh even if still mixed with tears.

You have done great since your stroke @Az* really working hard on yourself. Keep that up and I know everyone on here is willing you on.

Thanks man, I’m sure I’ll be ok it’s just been a very tough time, fortunately I have a 9 yo son to help keep me going and an under 9’s football team to manage so I have enough to keep me going. I just sometimes wonder if things will get brighter again, I know that life can never be how it was since my stroke, I’ve no movement on my left side basically which makes day to day things a real struggle, even something as simple as opening a tin of soup is like the fking crypton factor tor for me.

I’m not 24 either, that was another typo, I’m double that.

 

[lucky]

I wouldn’t say I’m depressed but I’ve had a rough few years, the last one especially so snd I think it’s finally taken its toll.

I’m 24 I had a brain bleed and a stroke, I’ve spoken about it before on the smb at length, it’s left me quite severely disabled and completely altered my life. I was managing it mind, just, but I was getting there.
End of 24 my cousin snd one of my best mates/mentors suddenly passed away, September 25 an uncle passed away due to cancer, he got me my first job which imo basically saved me from a life of shi, in late 25 my mam passed suddenly 2days after my birthday. A month after that my fil had a brain bleed and stroke which has basically broken him, he’s lost his memory and has no idea wtf is going on anymore and it feels like I’ve also lost him ya know.

My mams death and fil stroke have really knocked me sideways. I can talk about my mam now without getting all emotional but still struggle a little accepting she’s not here any more.

I’m not really sure what my point is tbh, just need to write it down I suppose…

My hope is that 2026 will be a better year snd my luck will change for the better. Living 300 mile away from my family obviously doesn’t help but I suppose it is what it is.

I'm so sorry mate you really been through the shit and if there is anything I can do to help please let me know.
I have stroke like symptoms due to brain injury through alcohol so I know how hard and frustrating at times.
I keep saying I want to be better as in the same as before but I know that's never going to happen so I need to be a new me.
Make yourself a new you and don't focus on what you can't do focus on what you can do and be a better person for it .

 

[Az*]

I'm so sorry mate you really been through the shit and if there is anything I can do to help please let me know.
I have stroke like symptoms due to brain injury through alcohol so I know how hard and frustrating at times.
I keep saying I want to be better as in the same as before but I know that's never going to happen so I need to be a new me.
Make yourself a new you and don't focus on what you can't do focus on what you can do and be a better person for it .

Thanks man, appreciated. After my stroke the occupational therapist and physios etc said I should get back into building and creating doses as as it’s a good way to engage my brain/work puzzles out etc so I’ve been doing that a lot with my son, it’s hard to build a 1/350 battleship with one hand but I manage to get there so I’ve got that, I also do karate to try and help build my left knee up and get a lot of help physically and mentally from my instructors and I’m apparently an inspiration to the others so I suppose it’s not all negative.

I’m busy sat building some panzer grenadiers for a vignet I’m doing and building a mk 2 escort rs 1600 I got for Xmas.

I’m just trying to keep busy tbh otherwise I just sleep allday which is no good for me imo.

Thanks again

 

[lucky]

Thanks man, appreciated. After my stroke the occupational therapist and physios etc said I should get back into building and creating doses as as it’s a good way to engage my brain/work puzzles out etc so I’ve been doing that a lot with my son, it’s hard to build a 1/350 battleship with one hand but I manage to get there so I’ve got that, I also do karate to try and help build my left knee up and get a lot of help physically and mentally from my instructors and I’m apparently an inspiration to the others so I suppose it’s not all negative.

I’m busy sat building some panzer grenadiers for a vignet I’m doing and building a mk 2 escort rs 1600 I got for Xmas.

I’m just trying to keep busy tbh otherwise I just sleep allday which is no good for me imo.

Thanks again

Mate they are right you really are an inspiration

 

[Az*]

Btw doses was meant to say models, as in the plastic kits most of us will have built as kids, my eyes are fked, I really need to triple check before I click post….

 

[Shady Lane]

Thanks man, appreciated. After my stroke the occupational therapist and physios etc said I should get back into building and creating doses as as it’s a good way to engage my brain/work puzzles out etc so I’ve been doing that a lot with my son, it’s hard to build a 1/350 battleship with one hand but I manage to get there so I’ve got that, I also do karate to try and help build my left knee up and get a lot of help physically and mentally from my instructors and I’m apparently an inspiration to the others so I suppose it’s not all negative.

I’m busy sat building some panzer grenadiers for a vignet I’m doing and building a mk 2 escort rs 1600 I got for Xmas.

I’m just trying to keep busy tbh otherwise I just sleep allday which is no good for me imo.

Thanks again

Good on you man.

If it's any help my dad had a stroke at 45 and lived until he was 77.

 

[Az*]

Good on you man.

If it's any help my dad had a stroke at 45 and lived until he was 77.

I’m doing ok tbh, lost the use of my left arm below the elbow and my left knee doesn’t really work properly anymore but I come out better than my FIL, although tbf he is 88.

One of the most annoying things is that when in rehab they didn’t do physio on my left arm which resulted in the muscle deteriorating so much my shoulder has slipped out of its socket, there’s basically a gap, it’s called a subluxation iirc, can’t lay down on my left and wear a sling a lot to stop it hd hung and hurting, I’m Also on slow release morphine 24/7 and have been for over 2 years now.. annoying as fuck tbh.

 

[Goat Eyes]

Thanks man, I’m sure I’ll be ok it’s just been a very tough time, fortunately I have a 9 yo son to help keep me going and an under 9’s football team to manage so I have enough to keep me going. I just sometimes wonder if things will get brighter again, I know that life can never be how it was since my stroke, I’ve no movement on my left side basically which makes day to day things a real struggle, even something as simple as opening a tin of soup is like the fking crypton factor tor for me.

I’m not 24 either, that was another typo, I’m double that.

I was going to say! No way you’re 24.

I’ve always read your posts with admiration, how you’ve faced your stroke head on and always came across as a really positive lad. I can only imagine the psychological toll something as severe as a stroke has as well as the physical. My dad has had a stroke and has given up completely on life.

Even your post on here detailing everything else you’ve gone through, has a positive tone to it.

All I’ll say is, depressed or not, you’ve got a class attitude… When your son is older he will remember all the stuff you’ve done whilst struggling and will appreciate every single thing you’ve done with him. Still coaching the footy team, building models etc.

What a bloke!