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Depression thread continued...


EiffelTower said:
Thanks mate. This is how I feel too. Feels like no escape at the moment, getting it all angles from work and being seen as a pain that I am pushing back on 3 nights in Germany followed by 3 nights in Aberdeen the following week with a 3 month old that doesn't sleep, and two toddlers my wife has to manage on zero sleep if I'm away. Get home after work and the wife is knackered, kids playing up so a 2 hour stressful fight into bed followed by a night of minimal sleep then rinse and repeat the next day. I know it gets easier but I'm racked with guilt that I am just trying to survive each day and not fully taking in my two toddlers growing up either as they are amazing and keep me going.

I would love my parents to take them out for the day but there's just no offer and a half arsed how are they text instead that I struggle to respond to. If I turned up at the house with them they'd be fine but I find myself pulling away from doing that out of stubborness. They live 2 minutes away and have seen the 3 month old 6 times in 12 weeks - maybe I'm being over sensitive but when we're up against it it is just minimal effort in my eyes. It's a similar story with my best mate who has kids of a similar age but there's never any effort to take into account our struggles - their parents do everything for them and life is infinitely easier for them so we're made out to be the bad guys if we can't get all 3 somewhere on a Saturday morning and I find myself pulling away from him to avoid this. I'm still not sure if it's me and my deterorating mental health taking these things overly to heart or not but I feel justified in being annoyed. Maybe I'm a tad envious I'm not sure but I don't think it is that. I'm quite a caring person that puts my friends and family first in a lot of situations so I think it just hurts me even more when it is not returned.

Sorry for venting, currently sat in the car park with a coffee for 5 mins of peace before heading back to work. Good to get it off my chest as don't like to burden the wife
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Bit late to the party on this but we have been through the wringer on this as well coming up 2 year now and we only have 1, couldn't imagine having to do it with 2 and travelling for work. My wife also has a career.

People around us just don't "get it", but they're either childless, have parents who are pretty much childminders or their bairns slept right through from an early age.

There's a reason sleep deprevation is used in interrogation/torture... only thing that keeps me sane is humour and those little moments with him where he lights up our day.
 
Parkmaverick said:
Well the pre - Christmas downer has kicked in need to remove myself from Facebook and telly with adverts. Always look forward to Boxing Day and the football but that’s not until the 28th this year. No gigs in December this year so may well be a long month.
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So had to get back on Facebook to announce the death of one of my mates, he’d had a problem with alcohol for a number of years and was in a kind of sheltered accommodation for alcohol/drug addiction. Sadly it seems his body gave up the fight.
 
Parkmaverick said:
So had to get back on Facebook to announce the death of one of my mates, he’d had a problem with alcohol for a number of years and was in a kind of sheltered accommodation for alcohol/drug addiction. Sadly it seems his body gave up the fight.
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So sorry mate ❤️
 
Hendon Mad Frog said:
Bit late to the party on this but we have been through the wringer on this as well coming up 2 year now and we only have 1, couldn't imagine having to do it with 2 and travelling for work. My wife also has a career.

People around us just don't "get it", but they're either childless, have parents who are pretty much childminders or their bairns slept right through from an early age.

There's a reason sleep deprevation is used in interrogation/torture... only thing that keeps me sane is humour and those little moments with him where he lights up our day.
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Thank you both for sharing. I’m in a similar position and have felt done in over the last year. This spell is hard because I feel like I’m in the same position as last year. At the same time I feel very lucky to have my family
 
Hendon Mad Frog said:
Bit late to the party on this but we have been through the wringer on this as well coming up 2 year now and we only have 1, couldn't imagine having to do it with 2 and travelling for work. My wife also has a career.

People around us just don't "get it", but they're either childless, have parents who are pretty much childminders or their bairns slept right through from an early age.

There's a reason sleep deprevation is used in interrogation/torture... only thing that keeps me sane is humour and those little moments with him where he lights up our day.
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When my kids were little we had no support network, so I totally sympathise. While friends of ours were out every Friday & Saturday night while the doting grandparents looked after the kids.

It's probably the No.1 cause behind my divorce.
 
Shady Lane said:
When my kids were little we had no support network, so I totally sympathise. While friends of ours were out every Friday & Saturday night while the doting grandparents looked after the kids.

It's probably the No.1 cause behind my divorce.
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My exes mam and dad were really good with looking after the kids but we relied on them so much during the week for work that we only went out a handful of times together in years. I think it was a major reason we ended up splitting up because we didn't get quality time just the two of us.
 
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