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Hetty said:
Been struggling abit here lately, but as they say things do get better.
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Oh sorry to hear that, anything triggered the downturn or just generall low mood?

Hope you can work through, whatever it is
Gennaro Savastano said:
After a few weeks of trying to be positive and pro active about sorting my life out I have hit a bit of a wall. Overwhelmed by how much I need to do to get back on my feet. I'm missing seeing the kids everyday and anxious about financial stuff.
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It's still early days in this phase, hopefully things will get sorted and you can breathe a bit easier.

If not, you know what you need to do. Talk talk talk, on here to mates, plenty off signposts on here as to where you can go for men's groups. Or get along to your GP, have a word with them.
 
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Hetty said:
Just feels like that i'm not in my body if that makes sense
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Obviously not an expert but I always associate that with "disassociation".

It's a sort of disconnect and can be a very natural response to helping a person cope with stress or trauma or something difficult, in real life, it's not bad for you as such but sometimes indicates a person is not ready yet to deal with what is going on in their life.

It's one of my go to coping methods but of course if it is happening a lot could be more of a serious issue at work.

Please remember I'm not an expert.....far from it, but have had a lot of therapy and intervention in my life.
 
CPLforever said:
Obviously not an expert but I always associate that with "disassociation".

It's a sort of disconnect and can be a very natural response to helping a person cope with stress or trauma or something difficult, in real life, it's not bad for you as such but sometimes indicates a person is not ready yet to deal with what is going on in their life.

It's one of my go to coping methods but of course if it is happening a lot could be more of a serious issue at work.

Please remember I'm not an expert.....far from it, but have had a lot of therapy and intervention in my life.
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Do you ever overthink things even if it's very minor?
 
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Hetty said:
Do you ever overthink things even if it's very minor?
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Oh god yes. To the point where it drives me insane. Mind I think most people do.

The question to ask yourself is how much is it affecting your day to day life. If it is impacting or impending your everday life then it may be time to address the situation.
 
CPLforever said:
Hmmmmmm not sure what I can do about that or what advice to give you. Good luck.
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I'm an overthinker, what works for me is to have a set time in the day I use to overthink. That way, when I have an overthinking moment through the day, I tell myself to leave it till my thinking time, by that point I'm a lot calmer and see things clearer.
 
Springwell Mackem said:
I'm an overthinker, what works for me is to have a set time in the day I use to overthink. That way, when I have an overthinking moment through the day, I tell myself to leave it till my thinking time, by that point I'm a lot calmer and see things clearer.
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I’ve always found if I worry about certain things bad things don’t happen

I get complacent that’s when the 💩💩💩 hits the fan
 
Springwell Mackem said:
I'm an overthinker, what works for me is to have a set time in the day I use to overthink. That way, when I have an overthinking moment through the day, I tell myself to leave it till my thinking time, by that point I'm a lot calmer and see things clearer.
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Great idea
hank williams said:
I’ve always found if I worry about certain things bad things don’t happen

I get complacent that’s when the 💩💩💩 hits the fan
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I always try to say to myself. Stop worrying about things you can't change or have no control over.....doesn't stop me mind.
 
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CPLforever said:
Oh sorry to hear that, anything triggered the downturn or just generall low mood?

Hope you can work through, whatever it is

It's still early days in this phase, hopefully things will get sorted and you can breathe a bit easier.

If not, you know what you need to do. Talk talk talk, on here to mates, plenty off signposts on here as to where you can go for men's groups. Or get along to your GP, have a word with them.
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I've got a decent support network that have rallied round me but I feel like a burden so it's pretty lonely at times. I am coping better than I thought I would but just having a wobble over the last couple of days.
 
I’ve just got absolute brain fog at the minute, will it be a symptom of this you think?

Literally just distracted but no energy to do anything. Can’t focus on anything, time just drifting on and life passing me by

I don’t know how to snap out of it
 
MustardAndOnions said:
I’ve just got absolute brain fog at the minute, will it be a symptom of this you think?

Literally just distracted but no energy to do anything. Can’t focus on anything, time just drifting on and life passing me by

I don’t know how to snap out of it
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I do know what you mean. I suggest that you find something, any small thing that you can do even if it is just a minor task that takes a minute. Do it. Then realise that it is progress. Harder, more complicated stuff can be noted and put on the back burner.
Keep doing any little things that count as progress and pat yourself on the back. Keep grinding away at it and it will get better.
 
This is a tremendous thread and whilst I was loathe to do it, I had to take an immediate break from work to prioritise my mental well being.

Been a struggle for the past 6 months with one thing after another in both work and personal life (things beyond mine or my partners control relating to bereavements and redundancies) that it's felt like I've had to force myself into work and got no enjoyment or fulfillment from the role, feeling like I'm going nowhere.

The last 6 weeks has seen a condensed version of the first 5 months and its just hit the point where I know the slightest thing going wrong at work could lead me to just walk out and not return (this might still happen down the line) and I just can't afford for that at this moment in time.

Got a doctors appointment end of the week to sign me off for stress/depression for the week.

Just having a focus on myself and creating some distance from my work environment.
 
scotch said:
This is a tremendous thread and whilst I was loathe to do it, I had to take an immediate break from work to prioritise my mental well being.

Been a struggle for the past 6 months with one thing after another in both work and personal life (things beyond mine or my partners control relating to bereavements and redundancies) that it's felt like I've had to force myself into work and got no enjoyment or fulfillment from the role, feeling like I'm going nowhere.

The last 6 weeks has seen a condensed version of the first 5 months and its just hit the point where I know the slightest thing going wrong at work could lead me to just walk out and not return (this might still happen down the line) and I just can't afford for that at this moment in time.

Got a doctors appointment end of the week to sign me off for stress/depression for the week.

Just having a focus on myself and creating some distance from my work environment.
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I hope the time off helps you to reset. I am the opposite at the minute. I feel like being at work is the only time I am not thinking about all the bad stuff. I am hoping to get some overtime so that I can both help my financial situation but also just have less time sat alone with too much time to think.
 
MustardAndOnions said:
I’ve just got absolute brain fog at the minute, will it be a symptom of this you think?

Literally just distracted but no energy to do anything. Can’t focus on anything, time just drifting on and life passing me by

I don’t know how to snap out of it
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My brain fog has significantly reduced since taking the omega 3 fish oil supplements.
 
Gennaro Savastano said:
I hope the time off helps you to reset. I am the opposite at the minute. I feel like being at work is the only time I am not thinking about all the bad stuff. I am hoping to get some overtime so that I can both help my financial situation but also just have less time sat alone with too much time to think.
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Can totally see that, and have had a similar scenario to you a few years ago where it took a good few months to come out the otherside.
If anything, that experience has helped me to at least narrow down what/why I'm feeling at the moment and see its not the same.

Thank you for the kind words and hope likewise that things improve for you and you can keep a clear mind :)
 
scotch said:
Can totally see that, and have had a similar scenario to you a few years ago where it took a good few months to come out the otherside.
If anything, that experience has helped me to at least narrow down what/why I'm feeling at the moment and see its not the same.

Thank you for the kind words and hope likewise that things improve for you and you can keep a clear mind :)
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Same to you mate. Lots of good people on this thread who will always try to help so keep posting here if you need to get stuff off your chest.
 
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