Is there anything anybody can help with on here mate
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Gennaro Savastano
Midfield
Not really mate just venting. Had a bit of a blowout at the weekend and wasted money I didn't have to spare on stuff I shouldn't have been spending it on. All my own fault on this occasion.Coming to the end of the toughest month of my life so far. Just got to keep trying to sort my life out.
Mate the weekend is gone and it can't be changed so the more you beat yourself up about it will make you feel worse. Focus on this weekend coming up even if it's shit without no football and try and do something that you will enjoy mate.
Pantomime Mackem
Striker
Be kind to yourself. Maybe you did what you did for a reason. Having a very tough month can make us do all kinds of things. Hope things turn a corner
Batdad
Striker
Just gotta keep putting one foot in front of the other mate. Hope things improve soon.
InsomniacAttack
Winger
Aye the beer fear is awful.
I used to hate feeling like that mate , I hadn't even done anything wrong (apart to myself) but would be like I had totally fucked up everything.
Whey
Winger
Yep, can't control it even though I try. I'll have two days of feeling f***ing horrible then one where I'm ok and that'll be the day I start all over again. Wake up and look at bank balance with one eye open dreading looking at transactions in bars I can't remember being in. Wretched
scotch
Striker
To top of the last few weeks, landlady came round to give us 2 months notice of eviction, due to a family member being made homeless, after she left, the wife (no)and i just started laughing, what can we do, what more can go wrong...its literally been one thing after another for the past few weeks.
One positive from this, is that it looks like a return back to the north east (home) might be on the cards for us, course now it means finding a place to rent
One positive from this, is that it looks like a return back to the north east (home) might be on the cards for us, course now it means finding a place to rent
Mate I know its horrible I went through a phase of getting loans from all over the place and not even needing it. Still paying stuff back to this day
. If it wasn't for my wife I'd be dead no ifs or buts, please keep trying mate don't ever give in 
.Where abouts you looking to rent mate and I'll keep my eye open
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scotch
Striker
We're hoping for the south shields area, wife would live the beaches and pier etcMate I know its horrible I went through a phase of getting loans from all over the place and not even needing it. Still paying stuff back to this day
Where abouts you looking to rent mate and I'll keep my eye open
AstroSchwarz
Midfield
Life is just hard isn’t it?
Looking for progression with career but my OCD has been awful for the last couple of years so can’t face up to applying and interviewing.
Doctor has told me to have 6 months of focusing on current job and not overthinking everything but that’s easier said than done isn’t it?
Looking for progression with career but my OCD has been awful for the last couple of years so can’t face up to applying and interviewing.
Doctor has told me to have 6 months of focusing on current job and not overthinking everything but that’s easier said than done isn’t it?
If only it was that simple mate , am sure when you mention mental health the doctors just try to get you out the door as quick as they can .
Gennaro Savastano
Midfield
Kids slept over last night for the first time since I moved out. Was good to have them on Father's day but they have just left and it hurts. Dreading things like their birthdays and Christmas not being there when they wake up.
Hope your alright mate I split from my daughters mam when she was 12 .
Was really hard at first but we are better than ever and it was a lot better than her seeing her mam and dad argue all the time.
She started sleeping at mine the odd time then it turned into 3 nights a week until she moved in permanently
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Gennaro Savastano
Midfield
Hope your alright mate I split from my daughters mam when she was 12 .
Was really hard at first but we are better than ever and it was a lot better than her seeing her mam and dad argue all the time.
She started sleeping at mine the odd time then it turned into 3 nights a week until she moved in permanently
The only positive of the split is that so far she isn't making things difficult with refards to the kids. I hope it stays that way but who knows. In the end we didn't argue but we also barely spoke which is just as bad for the kids to be around.
scotch
Striker
Couldn't agree more, think positive when you can.
Spent yesterday with a horrible feeling of being screwed, just utterly screwed no matter what I do.
So many things that need doing or need to happen amd just need some of them to happen to hopefully get some sort of break next month.
Been feeling down for the last year and a half or so, without really acknowledging it. Mostly to do with career to be honest and how unhappy I am in it.
Felt that my 7.5 year relationship with my fiancée was starting to drift a bit, then started to get suspicions a month ago that she might be cheating on me, which I confirmed 3 nights ago.
Annoying thing is I voiced my concerns at least 3 times, but I was gaslit and told that I had nothing to worry about and that he's probably gay. Well look how that turned out.
We were supposed to go on holiday together on Saturday for a week in Slovenia. Was part of her Christmas present. In the end I've gone by myself and it's been my first full day here today. Felt totally lost all day and my head's in the clouds. Really not enjoying it, which is a shame because from what I've seen today, you can tell it's a beautiful country. And the weather's been great.
I've got to face the music when I come back. Need to get her out the house, which is in my name only, as I bought the house before we met. But 3/4s of the possessions in the house are probably hers. I've even had thoughts of selling the house, because there's too many memories in there, but people in my corner have told me to keep it.
I've booked a GP appointment when I get back. Don't know if I can get hold of a therapist or a councillor somehow. Think that would be useful for me.
Been messaging and chatting to some mates since it all happened, which was very helpful and good to get some perspective. And long overdue as well, because I've not prioritised spending time with them since I've been in my funk.
Can't believe I've ended up in this situation. Thought I had everything sorted, and now it feels like I have to rebuild my life from scratch at 39 (end of the year).
Felt that my 7.5 year relationship with my fiancée was starting to drift a bit, then started to get suspicions a month ago that she might be cheating on me, which I confirmed 3 nights ago.
Annoying thing is I voiced my concerns at least 3 times, but I was gaslit and told that I had nothing to worry about and that he's probably gay. Well look how that turned out.
We were supposed to go on holiday together on Saturday for a week in Slovenia. Was part of her Christmas present. In the end I've gone by myself and it's been my first full day here today. Felt totally lost all day and my head's in the clouds. Really not enjoying it, which is a shame because from what I've seen today, you can tell it's a beautiful country. And the weather's been great.
I've got to face the music when I come back. Need to get her out the house, which is in my name only, as I bought the house before we met. But 3/4s of the possessions in the house are probably hers. I've even had thoughts of selling the house, because there's too many memories in there, but people in my corner have told me to keep it.
I've booked a GP appointment when I get back. Don't know if I can get hold of a therapist or a councillor somehow. Think that would be useful for me.
Been messaging and chatting to some mates since it all happened, which was very helpful and good to get some perspective. And long overdue as well, because I've not prioritised spending time with them since I've been in my funk.
Can't believe I've ended up in this situation. Thought I had everything sorted, and now it feels like I have to rebuild my life from scratch at 39 (end of the year).
