Depression thread continued...

[Mr Redknapp]

Exercise IS great for your health & mental function.

As for the other fcker, do what he said you'd done: Ignore him...and laugh about him in front of anyone that will listen. We can all do without liars.

Gave him the benefit of the doubt mate..he's clearly more bothered about saving face. He can't get in touch now haha

Had a good month until this afternoon..clearly toxic if he can't be arsed to front up

 

[70s traveller]

Gave him the benefit of the doubt mate..he's clearly more bothered about saving face. He can't get in touch now haha

Had a good month until this afternoon..clearly toxic if he can't be arsed to front up

He probably did you a favour by copping out, it's his loss. Is he waiting for you to plead with him - for his own mental comfort

 

[Deleted member 57491]

I know it's cliche but I find excercise does wonders for your health.

If anyone remembers the "mate" who shoved me over has told at least one mutual friend that he didn't shove me that hard (think I wrote I'm here the night it happened) my glasses flew off and think I got bruised that night. Hes had a month to apologise and i gave him the benefit of the doubt. Oh and he told her he's been texting me and I've been ignoring him...totally lying. Blocked him on FB.

Yeah mate back to gym and running from tomorrow. I’ve been off work since April too which hasn’t helped. A bad breakup and I’ve spiralled further out of control but I suppose everyone goes through it but when ya in the mindset ya feel like no one else has

 

[Mr Redknapp]

He probably did you a favour by copping out, it's his loss. Is he waiting for you to plead with him - for his own mental comfort

Do you think that's what he's doing? thinking I would be so desperate for his company I will accept his behaviour? been out with many different people the last 6 weeks and exercising hard.

Yeah mate back to gym and running from tomorrow. I’ve been off work since April too which hasn’t helped. A bad breakup and I’ve spiralled further out of control but I suppose everyone goes through it but when ya in the mindset ya feel like no one else has

The mind is a funny thing like it can make you feel that you are the only person in the world that has went through this situation.. but it doesn't make what you are going through any less important.

 

[Roker SOL]

It's been a while since I've posted. An update.

I did my Kilimanjaro trip six weeks ago and despite a fall and a knackered tendon, it was a massive lift.

I'd been invited to do a talk on mental health. I'm looking forward to it.

But literally two hours after a practice presentation run with my line manager, she contacted me again to say I was to be moved to a different part of the business.

It took a bit to sink in, but if you've mild Autism then change imposed upon you is not easy to take. I initially blamed myself, thinking I'd done something wrong.

My line manager is known as a stickler for the rules. But it was her two days later who talked to me and said not to take it personally. For the first time ever, I reached out and held her hand. The reason was simple in that she herself was being moved to a different part of the business to me. She was able to empathise - big deal to an Autist. I'm to be reassigned a new line manager. The mental health first aider also instilled the belief in me I was able to cope with the change.

However, I already know a couple of people on the new team. The person I know the best has sought to reassure me as has also the mental health first aider. Another member of the new team is also neurodiverse.

I've made a point of pissing off on my own the last two days to compute and find some mindfulness moments. Today I succeeded. It felt good.

There is an advantage in that it might make my return to a disability readjustment team easier. I feel that to my true home.

But I admit the change is still unnerving and I'll be glad when it's over.

There's an outside chance the move might be cancelled as another team member who has been told he's staying wants to move. But I think the move is a done deal.

It would be easier if I knew who my new manager was as soon as possible, so I could settle in more easily.

The irony is I nearly joined the new team voluntarily 8 months ago. That said, we all still book the same desks so I'd still see my old friends.

But I've made a point of introducing myself to the new team.

 

[Deleted member 57491]

Do you think that's what he's doing? thinking I would be so desperate for his company I will accept his behaviour? been out with many different people the last 6 weeks and exercising hard.

The mind is a funny thing like it can make you feel that you are the only person in the world that has went through this situation.. but it doesn't make what you are going through any less important.

Cheers mate, just hard isn’t it. Debated ending it a few times over the last few weeks but I do love life just not the one I’m leading at the minute. Highly considering going to the group therapy sessions they host over the beacon

 

[CPLforever]

I know it's cliche but I find excercise does wonders for your health.

If anyone remembers the "mate" who shoved me over has told at least one mutual friend that he didn't shove me that hard (think I wrote I'm here the night it happened) my glasses flew off and think I got bruised that night. Hes had a month to apologise and i gave him the benefit of the doubt. Oh and he told her he's been texting me and I've been ignoring him...totally lying. Blocked him on FB.

Oh bloody hell, back away, you are too good for this. He obviously feels guilty so instead of reaching out and discussing he feels he has to justify his actions.

Feck him I say.

I am in a bit of a feck everybody type of mood today.

Struggling from this myself have done for years but I know a lot of it’s my own doing, tried the medication then end up flushing them after a few days. Any advice?

Stick with the medication. As shitey as it initially makes you feel after 3 or 4 weeks you will feel calmer, more able to cope.

It's been a while since I've posted. An update.

I did my Kilimanjaro trip six weeks ago and despite a fall and a knackered tendon, it was a massive lift.

I'd been invited to do a talk on mental health. I'm looking forward to it.

But literally two hours after a practice presentation run with my line manager, she contacted me again to say I was to be moved to a different part of the business.

It took a bit to sink in, but if you've mild Autism then change imposed upon you is not easy to take. I initially blamed myself, thinking I'd done something wrong.

My line manager is known as a stickler for the rules. But it was her two days later who talked to me and said not to take it personally. For the first time ever, I reached out and held her hand. The reason was simple in that she herself was being moved to a different part of the business to me. She was able to empathise - big deal to an Autist. I'm to be reassigned a new line manager. The mental health first aider also instilled the belief in me I was able to cope with the change.

However, I already know a couple of people on the new team. The person I know the best has sought to reassure me as has also the mental health first aider. Another member of the new team is also neurodiverse.

I've made a point of pissing off on my own the last two days to compute and find some mindfulness moments. Today I succeeded. It felt good.

There is an advantage in that it might make my return to a disability readjustment team easier. I feel that to my true home.

But I admit the change is still unnerving and I'll be glad when it's over.

There's an outside chance the move might be cancelled as another team member who has been told he's staying wants to move. But I think the move is a done deal.

It would be easier if I knew who my new manager was as soon as possible, so I could settle in more easily.

The irony is I nearly joined the new team voluntarily 8 months ago. That said, we all still book the same desks so I'd still see my old friends.

But I've made a point of introducing myself to the new team.

Share your condition, make it clear that sudden changes like this are not condusive to your overall health. If anything it protects you from future shite.

 

[70s traveller]

Do you think that's what he's doing? thinking I would be so desperate for his company I will accept his behaviour? been out with many different people the last 6 weeks and exercising hard.

It crossed my thoughts, he may think he has you on a string that he can reel you in when he wants. Merely from your number of contact attempts.

 

[Roker SOL]

Share your condition, make it clear that sudden changes like this are not condusive to your overall health. If anything it protects you from future shite.

I think the decision is a slam dunk.

But I want to remain in contact with my best buddy in my department too. That is important to my mental health and I'm helping her with a personal situation now.

I originally thought the move was personal due to events two years ago. I as neurodiverse was placed with a neurodiverse manager. When that happens, you either gell or class. The latter happened. I've since learned it wasn't just me.

The whole thing is just strategic as seven others are being moved.

But that doesn't stop me feeling scared.

 

[Mr Redknapp]

It crossed my thoughts, he may think he has you on a string that he can reel you in when he wants. Merely from your number of contact attempts.

True.. contacted him the day after and when he replied to me a day later. But left him alone since to give him space. Yes had a month to reach out and just burried his head in the sand and chose self preservation.
I know you only know my side of the story. I have no reason to lie. Wrote what happened here as soon as I got home

Oh bloody hell, back away, you are too good for this. He obviously feels guilty so instead of reaching out and discussing he feels he has to justify his actions.

Feck him I say.

I am in a bit of a feck everybody type of mood today.

Stick with the medication. As shitey as it initially makes you feel after 3 or 4 weeks you will feel calmer, more able to cope.

Share your condition, make it clear that sudden changes like this are not condusive to your overall health. If anything it protects you from future shite.

Just strikes me as immature at best and inconsiderate at worst mate.. blocked him as soon as I found out he was lying and trust was on shaky ground after he shoved me over , it's gone completely imo. What happens if I went back cap in hand and it would happen again like..he's chose pride over friendship.

Cheers mate, just hard isn’t it. Debated ending it a few times over the last few weeks but I do love life just not the one I’m leading at the minute. Highly considering going to the group therapy sessions they host over the beacon

Do what's best for you mate. At least you will be around like minded people.
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[Ciro_DiMarzio]

Struggling from this myself have done for years but I know a lot of it’s my own doing, tried the medication then end up flushing them after a few days. Any advice?

What medication did you try? I've only been taking SSRIs for 7 weeks and the first week was rough but they are helping now. Not a cure by any means but taking the edge off.

Look into psychedelic therapy. It saved and changed my life.

I think too many drugs when I was younger is part of my problems to be fair.

 

[cmmackem]

What medication did you try? I've only been taking SSRIs for 7 weeks and the first week was rough but they are helping now. Not a cure by any means but taking the edge off.


I think too many drugs when I was younger is part of my problems to be fair.

Not at all. When done in a professional/ceremonial setting it is extremely beneficial. They have been used for thousands of years for healing.

 

[70s traveller]

True.. contacted him the day after and when he replied to me a day later. But left him alone since to give him space. Yes had a month to reach out and just burried his head in the sand and chose self preservation.
I know you only know my side of the story. I have no reason to lie. Wrote what happened here as soon as I got home

Just strikes me as immature at best and inconsiderate at worst mate.. blocked him as soon as I found out he was lying and trust was on shaky ground after he shoved me over , it's gone completely imo. What happens if I went back cap in hand and it would happen again like..he's chose pride over friendship.

I have neither seen or picked up any reason to dispute your side or grasp of the logic/actions. Your final para has nailed it. You honoured his choices & became part of his dream world game. You're better off away from people like that

 

[Roker SOL]

True.. contacted him the day after and when he replied to me a day later. But left him alone since to give him space. Yes had a month to reach out and just burried his head in the sand and chose self preservation.
I know you only know my side of the story. I have no reason to lie. Wrote what happened here as soon as I got home

Just strikes me as immature at best and inconsiderate at worst mate.. blocked him as soon as I found out he was lying and trust was on shaky ground after he shoved me over , it's gone completely imo. What happens if I went back cap in hand and it would happen again like..he's chose pride over friendship.


Do what's best for you mate. At least you will be around like minded people.
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This reminds me of the lady schoolfriend I was "meeting up with" around the turn of the year. I'm not going over the whle story again.

Blown out over nothing, blanked my attempts to make the peace then bizarrely for a few weeks her "estranged" son snoops around my social media (using multiple accounts - stupidly using his own name)?

Her claim she'd fallen out with him was a lie to the point I believe a text from him calling her a slapper and a sl*t she'd probably sent to herself.

The point is when I blocked her off for good, she co-opted her son (heavens knows what she said to him) as she was no longer getting the drama and attention she craved. All five of his accounts blocked, plus those of two friends seems to have put this to an end.

People like this have to be cut from your live if you are to move on. As I discovered, you don't need the drama especially if you're not in a good place.

I still think occasionally about what happened, but less so with time. It's more a lesson in life now as the months pass. I need to put myself first and not ruminate on someone who seemingly initiated a fall-out over nothing for kicks.

You need to do the same. He's history, so move on.

 

[Mr Redknapp]

I have neither seen or picked up any reason to dispute your side or grasp of the logic/actions. Your final para has nailed it. You honoured his choices & became part of his dream world game. You're better off away from people like that

I did kinda snap at the bar staff saying "why did he threaten to kill me then?" and she said back that she didn't know us both an wasn't going to take side I said fair enough. After the dust settled I called her over when I left and had a relaxed chat with her and that's when she told me he was "texting me" and i wasn't responding and i realised i deleted the chat 5 minutes ago and just laughed about it and said it didn't matter, he's part of the reason i stopped drinking too. She pretty much said she hopes we'll sort it but said "no, wish him well but that's it". then said i will be back in the pub even though i'm not drinking

This reminds me of the lady schoolfriend I was "meeting up with" around the turn of the year. I'm not going over the whle story again.

Blown out over nothing, blanked my attempts to make the peace then bizarrely for a few weeks her "estranged" son snoops around my social media (using multiple accounts - stupidly using his own name)?

Her claim she'd fallen out with him was a lie to the point I believe a text from him calling her a slapper and a sl*t she'd probably sent to herself.

The point is when I blocked her off for good, she co-opted her son (heavens knows what she said to him) as she was no longer getting the drama and attention she craved. All five of his accounts blocked, plus those of two friends seems to have put this to an end.

People like this have to be cut from your live if you are to move on. As I discovered, you don't need the drama especially if you're not in a good place.

I still think occasionally about what happened, but less so with time. It's more a lesson in life now as the months pass. I need to put myself first and not ruminate on someone who seemingly initiated a fall-out over nothing for kicks.

You need to do the same. He's history, so move on.

That sounds awful and mate you are so right drama free zone is best, we only have one life and can't be arsed for it. Sounds like she clearly wanted attention having some deep issues, this lad just seems unable to take responsibility for making a mistake which went against the image i've had of him the past year and a bit

you will mate especially when it's very close to it happened and i bet it happens when you're out with friends and you can't shake it off.

 

[70s traveller]

I did kinda snap at the bar staff saying "why did he threaten to kill me then?" and she said back that she didn't know us both an wasn't going to take side I said fair enough. After the dust settled I called her over when I left and had a relaxed chat with her and that's when she told me he was "texting me" and i wasn't responding and i realised i deleted the chat 5 minutes ago and just laughed about it and said it didn't matter, he's part of the reason i stopped drinking too. She pretty much said she hopes we'll sort it but said "no, wish him well but that's it". then said i will be back in the pub even though i'm not drinking

Being the victim in someone else's personal game brings others down, step away from it so you don't find yourself in corners created by others. Drink is also a contributory factor in how a person's mind works negatively.

 

[Roker SOL]

Being the victim in someone else's personal game brings others down, step away from it so you don't find yourself in corners created by others. Drink is also a contributory factor in how a person's mind works negatively.

As I've intimated in the above, this very much so.

 

[Mr Redknapp]

Being the victim in someone else's personal game brings others down, step away from it so you don't find yourself in corners created by others. Drink is also a contributory factor in how a person's mind works negatively.

Definitely, i drank fine that night it was only when i got home in shock and sadness. I want to have a few at the end of the year again like don't need to drink like that anymore

 

[70s traveller]

Definitely, i drank fine that night it was only when i got home in shock and sadness. I want to have a few at the end of the year again like don't need to drink like that anymore

It's always back to my previous comments on other threads, have a drink to socialise but always stay in control. It's about knowing when to say no (to yourself), like everything in life.

 

[Deleted member 57491]

What medication did you try? I've only been taking SSRIs for 7 weeks and the first week was rough but they are helping now. Not a cure by any means but taking the edge off.


I think too many drugs when I was younger is part of my problems to be fair.

Sertaline I think they were, killed my drive and had a constant dry mouth