Depression thread continued...

[Raker]

Will do my mate. How are you doing Raker. Hope you are well. X

All good bud cheers

 

[CPLforever]

Hi everyone. Hope we are all keeping ok. I’ve not been on this thread for a while.
Well since starting on lowest dose of citalopram and back to work I was doing ok but started dipping when tablets just weren’t doing it. Now up to maximum dose of tablets and I’m plodding on. Still have my bad days when my temper is bad and I hate myself.

We keep plodding on. Sending love to everyone who is struggling. We will beat the fucker. Love Rhubarb. X

Very timely post Rhubarb. I have been on the low side these past few weeks, still on medication but playing a bit fast and loose with it, not taking it as regularly as I should. Was supposed to go into my job this morning (it's a volunteer job. Been off for a couple of weeks and was feeling as though I couldn'tgo in). Read your post. Give my head a little shake and thought.......make an effort. Had a good day at work. Not too taxing but got me up, washed, out of the house and interacting with people.

 

[70s traveller]

Very timely post Rhubarb. I have been on the low side these past few weeks, still on medication but playing a bit fast and loose with it, not taking it as regularly as I should. Was supposed to go into my job this morning (it's a volunteer job. Been off for a couple of weeks and was feeling as though I couldn'tgo in). Read your post. Give my head a little shake and thought.......make an effort. Had a good day at work. Not too taxing but got me up, washed, out of the house and interacting with people.

First: get back on the med, then get back to doing something - it will make you feel better. Rebuild your self confidence & interact with people it will do you the world of good.

 

[Deleted member 48572]

Just an update from me. Got another month's prescription of Seteraline after they made a huge difference to how I'm feeling. Don't know if they're a long term solution but so far they're working and keeping the very dark thoughts at bay.

Just back on this thread to catch up. Excellent news that mate!

I’ve just been given another month today too. First week I was drowsy and dizzy in parts. It was a weird feeling. This then lifted a bit for the next few weeks after. I still get tired easily mind.

As for my mental health, my anxiety is a lot less but my motivation to do anything has gone downhill. I suspect my anxiety was feeding the motivation to get things done. I still feel very low.

The doctor offered to increase it to 100mg but I declined for now. I’m worried about the side effects and I need to be functional at work.

I’m also waiting to see an endocrinologist about my testosterone levels. Testosterone was at 8 nmol/l and shbg is 43 nmol/l. Looking online, that is very low and could be contributing to my mental health problems too.

 

[S.S.R..]

Anyone else's 'mates' play sad little power games like not bothering to read messages for days at a time and make snide digs?

Think I need to value myself more and make some quality friends. Too many f***ing embittered losers, blatantly terrified when you make progress in life.

Does anyone have a clear set of rules for friendship where if you're not getting a, b or c out of it, you quietly and politely back away? I'm terrible at this kind of stuff.

 

[TAD]

Got to say friends wise I really only spend time with people I want to or do things I'll enjoy. As I've gone through life I've realised certain friendships will be more important at different times and some friends I'll only see a few times a year but I know I could count on them if needed.
What I would say is that I'm guilty of sometimes not responding to texts for a few days. It's not done on purpose. I might receive it when I'm going something and think I'll reply later and then it just slips my mind till I'm next in my texts or something. Doesn't mean I don't care or value the person but sometimes life/crap memory does just get in the way.

 

[S.S.R..]

Aye, I'm not expecting folk to hang on my every word. I've got other friends with very stressful jobs and kids to look after. One pal in particular is just being a dick. The way he goes on and how little I've seen him in the last few years, calling him a pal at this point is stretching it a bit.

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

Another update. Tablets are going well but a couple of things that have set me back. I have found out an old school friend that I went through primary and secondary with has taken his own life. I had only seen him a handful of times since school but it was always nice interactions when we did. From the outside looking it it seemed he had plenty good stuff going on. Good job, married with kids etc and it has hit me hard to be honest. Just how fragile life can be. The incident in Southport is also hitting me hard having kids myself. I think I need to avoid the news for a while.

 

[70s traveller]

Great that your stuff is going well. As your example demonstrates there are always unexpected pitfalls for everyone somewhere that tell you how fragile life can be.
It's best to stay away looking too deeply into the news. Concentrate on your own "lot" and particularly the good things in it

 

[tooliohelmet]

Morning, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but wondering if anyone has any tips on recovery from surgery, obviously not the physical side. Being honest I'm really struggling with the mental side and feel like I'm getting myself down.

I had surgery on my achilles a few weeks ago and things didn't exactly go to plan so at the minute I have open wounds on the back of my leg and no time scale on recovery, they're being really stubborn because they're in a shit place for healing. So I'm worrying about that.

On top of that, I'm in a boot and on crutches and have to keep my leg elevated. So I haven't been able to go anywhere, do anything. I'm working from home so I'm spending 14 hours a day on the settee. It all feels a bit groundhog day.

I've had to postpone a new york trip with my daughter, gigs and trips with my Mrs and feel like I'm letting people down.

Because I can't drive I can't go and get my daughter, she lives with her mam half of the time, so I'm reliant on her dropping her off....so that's sporadic at best.

Just all feels a bit shitty.

 

[70s traveller]

Morning, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but wondering if anyone has any tips on recovery from surgery, obviously not the physical side. Being honest I'm really struggling with the mental side and feel like I'm getting myself down.

I had surgery on my achilles a few weeks ago and things didn't exactly go to plan so at the minute I have open wounds on the back of my leg and no time scale on recovery, they're being really stubborn because they're in a shit place for healing. So I'm worrying about that.

On top of that, I'm in a boot and on crutches and have to keep my leg elevated. So I haven't been able to go anywhere, do anything. I'm working from home so I'm spending 14 hours a day on the settee. It all feels a bit groundhog day.

All I can suggest is to do what you're medically advised & be patient (as difficult as it seems). I've been there a few times, recovery takes time & comes in carefully (personally) managed stages. Take the postive side of it; you aren't an in-patient where you can't get any sleep either. Patience is the key word

 

[Mackem in Berlin]

Aye, I'm not expecting folk to hang on my every word. I've got other friends with very stressful jobs and kids to look after. One pal in particular is just being a dick. The way he goes on and how little I've seen him in the last few years, calling him a pal at this point is stretching it a bit.

Nothing wrong with cutting ties if this person drains your energy.
I had a mate id knocked about with for 30 plus years since juniors. Long story shot, I bought a nice car, and from then on if ever i mentioned anything with the car in the group chat id get snotty comments from him. SO bitter and jealous.

I rang him said my piece about what i thought of him. Told him not to contact me again and left the group chat. Never looked back. If someone doesnt want the best for you and to see you happy, their arent really your mate

 

[cmmackem]

Look into psychedelic therapy. It saved and changed my life.

 

[CPLforever]

Morning, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but wondering if anyone has any tips on recovery from surgery, obviously not the physical side. Being honest I'm really struggling with the mental side and feel like I'm getting myself down.

I had surgery on my achilles a few weeks ago and things didn't exactly go to plan so at the minute I have open wounds on the back of my leg and no time scale on recovery, they're being really stubborn because they're in a shit place for healing. So I'm worrying about that.

On top of that, I'm in a boot and on crutches and have to keep my leg elevated. So I haven't been able to go anywhere, do anything. I'm working from home so I'm spending 14 hours a day on the settee. It all feels a bit groundhog day.

I've had to postpone a new york trip with my daughter, gigs and trips with my Mrs and feel like I'm letting people down.

Because I can't drive I can't go and get my daughter, she lives with her mam half of the time, so I'm reliant on her dropping her off....so that's sporadic at best.

Just all feels a bit shitty.

Not got much advice except to say it can be an easy slide from a debilitating physical illness to feeling low mentally. So good that you have noticed this is a possibility and you can take steps to prevent further slide whether that be discussing with your doctor and possibly being prescribed a mild anti depressants or rack your brains for sedentary activities. Jigsaws????? They bloody drive me mad mind.

 

[tooliohelmet]

Not got much advice except to say it can be an easy slide from a debilitating physical illness to feeling low mentally. So good that you have noticed this is a possibility and you can take steps to prevent further slide whether that be discussing with your doctor and possibly being prescribed a mild anti depressants or rack your brains for sedentary activities. Jigsaws????? They bloody drive me mad mind.

I don't think I've got the patience for a jigsaw. I've had a better couple of days, the hospital yesterday was quite a positive appointment, the nurse I saw had seen me a few weeks ago and was saying how much it's improved. So for now I feel a bit more positive.

Makes you think how fragile we really are though. I've never had anything go wrong with medical stuff before, just gone in and got fixed. This has been stressful.

Thanks for the reply.

 

[CPLforever]

I don't think I've got the patience for a jigsaw. I've had a better couple of days, the hospital yesterday was quite a positive appointment, the nurse I saw had seen me a few weeks ago and was saying how much it's improved. So for now I feel a bit more positive.

Makes you think how fragile we really are though. I've never had anything go wrong with medical stuff before, just gone in and got fixed. This has been stressful.

Thanks for the reply.

Me neither, the few i have tried to do I have been guilty if thumping the pieces in, force them to fit

So glad to hear things are improving.

 

[70s traveller]

I don't think I've got the patience for a jigsaw. I've had a better couple of days, the hospital yesterday was quite a positive appointment, the nurse I saw had seen me a few weeks ago and was saying how much it's improved. So for now I feel a bit more positive.

Makes you think how fragile we really are though. I've never had anything go wrong with medical stuff before, just gone in and got fixed. This has been stressful.

Thanks for the reply.

Use the word improvement to work with, take the positives & don't get brought down or frustrated with your situation. Take it from me it could always be worse

have been guilty if thumping the pieces in, force them to fit

Only way to do a jiggy ^ Bloody things

 

[Deleted member 57491]

Struggling from this myself have done for years but I know a lot of it’s my own doing, tried the medication then end up flushing them after a few days. Any advice?

 

[Mr Redknapp]

Struggling from this myself have done for years but I know a lot of it’s my own doing, tried the medication then end up flushing them after a few days. Any advice?

I know it's cliche but I find excercise does wonders for your health.

If anyone remembers the "mate" who shoved me over has told at least one mutual friend that he didn't shove me that hard (think I wrote I'm here the night it happened) my glasses flew off and think I got bruised that night. Hes had a month to apologise and i gave him the benefit of the doubt. Oh and he told her he's been texting me and I've been ignoring him...totally lying. Blocked him on FB.

 

[70s traveller]

I know it's cliche but I find excercise does wonders for your health.

If anyone remembers the "mate" who shoved me over has told at least one mutual friend that he didn't shove me that hard (think I wrote I'm here the night it happened) my glasses flew off and think I got bruised that night. Hes had a month to apologise and i gave him the benefit of the doubt. Oh and he told her he's been texting me and I've been ignoring him...totally lying. Blocked him on FB.

Exercise IS great for your health & mental function.

As for the other fcker, do what he said you'd done: Ignore him...and laugh about him in front of anyone that will listen. We can all do without liars.