DiscoPants86
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Are you?
At a Loss
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Ha'way then reply marra.
SPUFF
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Your right.
Hear of carnage on the a19/a1 daily while im sat in me pj’s but it can be shit at times, though I have the mrs n kids for regular distractions.
dom
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So sad to hear this and I suspect it’s more common than you think.
There are some good suggestions on here but only you can tell which will work for yourself.
Good luck fella.
Chin up mate. POF is your friend for interaction with the fairer sex.
Hopefully there is better times just around the corner Good luck in whatever you do marra.
ChrisAshley
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Sounds eerily similar to my situation. I have no motivation due to having no belief that I will be able to make my life better, stuck in a circle of self pity!
1. Make yourself do some kind of exercise. It sparks up your endorphins and makes you feel healthier and more confident. Running or even walking will do that, but if it is done with others, like 5-a-side, boxing, gym etc. you will gradually build up a social life provided you can have a bit crack with people. If you do Zumba or Salsa you will meet loads of women, and maybe they won't all be old bats.
2. @RichD's recommendation of volunteering will put you in contact with good people. Talk to them and confidence will build.
3. I notice you said 'falling behind your peers'. This is a toxic thought, because you don't know how they feel at their core even though they might seem successful on the surface (married with kids/nice house or car/great career etc.) Think about the things you have, like freedom and the ability to earn a living, rather than the things you don't have. You have the ability to express what is troubling you, which is a damn good start.
Good luck BTW, even though I think most of your postings on football are pants!
And @ChrisAshley , if you believe you can't, you never will. Do 1. or 2. this week. You can, you know.
2. @RichD's recommendation of volunteering will put you in contact with good people. Talk to them and confidence will build.
3. I notice you said 'falling behind your peers'. This is a toxic thought, because you don't know how they feel at their core even though they might seem successful on the surface (married with kids/nice house or car/great career etc.) Think about the things you have, like freedom and the ability to earn a living, rather than the things you don't have. You have the ability to express what is troubling you, which is a damn good start.
Good luck BTW, even though I think most of your postings on football are pants!
And @ChrisAshley , if you believe you can't, you never will. Do 1. or 2. this week. You can, you know.
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Keawyeds
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Find a local pub you like and see if it has a pub quiz. Make yourself go. Even if you play by yourself. Go. If you feel confident, ask if you can join a team.
When I first moved to Westhoughton I didn't know anyone aside from Mrs K's family. I ended up knowing more bar staff than anything else as I'd talk to them. Over time I got friendly with people in the pub and now I have a little circle of friends there too. Quiz night every fortnight is something I look forward to. My best mate lives in Ayrshire so I don't see him that often but we talk a lot. You have to put yourself out there. Not easy, but it'll be worth it.
In terms of a lass, again put yourself out there, even if it just ends up with you getting more mates, that's a plus. If you feel up to it, get yourself on Match.com or something.
That's how I met Mrs K many moons ago.
If it makes you feel any better, I'm not keen on my job, but I have no idea what else I could do. I keep an eye out for other similar jobs elsewhere, but nothing's coming up at the moment.
I honestly have no idea what else I could do because I've never done anything else really. I can't really justify taking a bit pay cut - I'm not on megamoney obviously - but I can't justify going down to say £17K to start something new. I have responsibilities and bills unfortunately!
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Excellent idea...I do work for the local food bank and you do meet lots of decent people,both staff and volunteers..the volunteers normally have a monthly get together..and as has been said it’s very rewarding
WildTurkey
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Can't imagine a fiver will skint many people
D.A
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What have you done about it?
Anyone heard from the lad? I’ve sent him a PM but no response
No, haway @The Rat, speak to us. I know you have your share of people who disagree with you on the forum, but with all the shit going on in Pure Football and Politics at the moment, this thread is a good reminder of how good and caring the majority of people on the forums are and nothing has been deleted from it.
There are a lot of people here who will have been in the same situation you are in and I am sure can genuinely help.
Tried to send this via pm but your inbox is full so I’ll bite the bullet and just post here.
Weve talked about depression before, so I know exactly what you’re going through. Feels like there’s no direction at all. Getting up in the morning can feel like the hardest thing in the world. And not knowing “your place” can be distracting as fuck and not in a Positive way.
All I can say fella, is keep going. You’ve recognised it and made a brave step talking about it on here for a start. Don’t let yourself wallow in it. Get yourself out for a walk if nowt else, see if a friend needs their dog walking or something.
Doesnt help supporting us like but hopefully 3 points tomorrow will give you a lift!
Weve talked about depression before, so I know exactly what you’re going through. Feels like there’s no direction at all. Getting up in the morning can feel like the hardest thing in the world. And not knowing “your place” can be distracting as fuck and not in a Positive way.
All I can say fella, is keep going. You’ve recognised it and made a brave step talking about it on here for a start. Don’t let yourself wallow in it. Get yourself out for a walk if nowt else, see if a friend needs their dog walking or something.
Doesnt help supporting us like
but hopefully 3 points tomorrow will give you a lift!
I’m a bit worried about the lad. Are you able to email him?
Father Jack Hackett
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Hope you're ok mate. There's always someone on here to have a pint with, I'm sure.
Do you go to gigs or anything? Could be a way to meet/mix with people with a common interest and, if nothing else, takes you out of your own head for a couple of hours.
Do you go to gigs or anything? Could be a way to meet/mix with people with a common interest and, if nothing else, takes you out of your own head for a couple of hours.
I’ve offered in the past, but he hasnt taken me up on it. I’m a dick like so probably wise
But I want to tell him why he is wrong about cricket.
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Father Jack Hackett
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I'd be happy to offer as well, as, I'm sure would plenty others.
He made some canny points during the World Cup in the summer iirc, mind.
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