Marriage

Guinness Guzzler said:
Must admit I've gone off the idea of marriage. Neither me nor the missus are religious so we don't feel that we need to get married for that reason.

I used to want to get married and then I thought "why"? To prove to each other that we're committed? Well we've had a kid together so that's quite a decent commitment already. To give ourselves a memorable wedding day? Not worth it for the hassle of organising it and paying thousands of pounds for. To have the same surname? Could do that by deed poll if it was a big thing. Half the time the lass wants it but equally I think a lot of it is done for the families; I'm sure my parents and hers would love a nice wedding and to tell people that one of their kids is married. I don't see the benefit of it personally. Cost a lot, be a pain in the arse to plan and then, if you do split up (which can always happen even to a strong relationship) you have to give her half of what you own. Fuck that.
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There is no need.

I agree marriage is an outdated institution because when the going gets tough most people split. A bit of paper and a day out won't change people's attitudes.

HellsBells said:
Even though I'm married, I kind of agree with that. I don't get why people get married only to have a massive do. Just have a do anyway.

I do however understand why people who want kids together get married as it gives both sides (regardless of what the blokes say) some legal protection, as well as the kids themselves.
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This is the only reason to bother IMHO. Unless people want a big party and be the centre of attention for one day in their lives.
 


Harry Angstrom said:
There is no need.

I agree marriage is an outdated institution because when the going gets tough most people split. A bit of paper and a day out won't change people's attitudes.


This is the only reason to bother IMHO. Unless people want a big party and be the centre of attention for one day in their lives.
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Its not so much when the going gets tough, its when a third party is involved, most of the time anyway.

Epping said:
what about giving half to her

he might have to anyway if together long enough and a kid on the scene
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The key is to marry someone with more money than yourself :cool:
 
Epping said:
what about giving half to her

he might have to anyway if together long enough and a kid on the scene
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Doubt I would. I'd have to pay child support of course (and I'd happily do so) but I've never seen anything suggesting she'd have any right to more than that. We don't live together so doubt she could claim anything at all off me above the child support
 
Guinness Guzzler said:
Doubt I would. I'd have to pay child support of course (and I'd happily do so) but I've never seen anything suggesting she'd have any right to more than that. We don't live together so doubt she could claim anything at all off me above the child support
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If you're married your assets would be split if you got divorced wouldn't they?
 
I don't fancy it to be honest. I see it as just trouble waiting to happen but our lass and girls want it to, so no doubt will happen at some point.
 
Guinness Guzzler said:
Doubt I would. I'd have to pay child support of course (and I'd happily do so) but I've never seen anything suggesting she'd have any right to more than that. We don't live together so doubt she could claim anything at all off me above the child support
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ah dont live together then suppose it brings a whole new equation to it. so you have a kid, talked about marriage but dont live together. not prying but odd setup
 

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