Must be commonI might be. I know my dad went on to produce his much wanted male child after the utter disappointment of fathering three female children.
It's the expectation that's changed
He wasn’t a nice man although i was weirdly still upset when my mam causally dropped into a telephone conversation that my dad was dead, such in such in the post office had told her. I’m still quite baffled by my reaction
Our family had a similar situation with my Dad
I wouldn’t be having it either. Some people are just shitty, that’s the bald truth.
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Agree mate and social media has a lot todo with some of the ego problem's today.
That’s true mate my first year was with the junior leaders, which give us a head start before joining the Regular Army, the new recruits hated us as we were already miles ahead of them in both fitness and military knowledge
Social media has a lot to answer for
For any younguns out there worried about school.
What is it really all about and why so much stress about qualifications???
I was born in the late 60’s loved school as I could play football and meet with my mates left school with very average results.
Joined junior Army at 16 and wow what a life done 6 years was class
Never claimed a penny in benefits in my life.
Just took my early retirement at 55 and would not change a thing.
So anyone getting worked up about school and exams just do your thing work he’d be a decent person and you be ok.
I am looking forward to mounting your mam Amber,don’t you worry,she is in safe hands with me,I promise to be gentle
Sounds to me like you have and are raising two thoroughly decent nice( very underrated trait in my opinion) humans. You should be proud of that. Really proud. They both sound super motivated too which is fab. Yes I know we want to give our kids everything and that includes money but some of us can’t, so what we give them is our time and love and we listen. You give that too. I think being listened to was the thing I wished I’d had from my childhood, I often felt lost amongst the drama of every day life. I don’t know if that makes sense. I spent a lot of time at my mate’s house and her Mam always sat and chatted with me and I went home with a little boost. So I make the time to sit down and listen to my kids, like really listen, no telly on, no distractions, just talking. Mind my son can talk underwater so it’s not difficult! I don’t have money to give them, so my son, like my daughter did, works part time. I can say it’s brought him on in leaps and bounds and has made him appreciate the things he gets.Decent advice.
The most important thing of all is being content.
Met up with my Newport Mate after the game yesterday for a few pints before coming home. Lovely to take time and reflect. We are both from poor working class backgrounds and both have done OK with our lives.
I am currently struggling mentally being a Dad and giving up work at the same time.
A lifetime of stressful jobs and was time to get out. The problem I am going through is I want to give my both lads everything. A Dad’s thing and no doubt some historical issues compensating for the fact that I wasn’t given anything in monetary terms.
I could have carried on a few more years, would like nothing more than supporting my kids financially even more. They never ask for Nowt thus probably my past playing games in my daft head.
Eldest at Uni. Been home this week and worked 5 early shifts at Tesco’s on overtime and made some decent money. Ffs how proud I was.
Youngest at 6th form wants to get into aviation, real passion for it. Sorted work experience out at 2 airports on his own, one doing it in his holidays.
Why do I feel so guilty about it, because I do?
I keep torturing myself on having enough money to Service after hanging up my boots this year. I think I am ok but equally I know my past is now kicking me in the head.
My Mate said to me yesterday that I was well liked as a boss, always decent and fair. To be honest I choked up a bit (soft twat). So you keep going kid, be mighty proud for coming through a tough childhood and being content is a good thing, a very good thing, just keep telling yourself that when you are having a shite one.
Always talk to the dog because they understand
xxHe was but he was vile to my mam, I learnt things in my 30s that had gone on which I wished I hadn’t to be honest.He was still your Dad. Probably like me I wish things would have been better.
Still stand by his grave. He didn’t do nothing wrong, well apart from an affair but we never did anything together apart from when I was really young he took me fishing and I loved it. Ironically last week with my dog in the middle of the fields I thought of him and really missed him.
The “generation” thing. Let’s not punish ourselves too much Mate.
I guess we have a few skeletons
Well said and I talk all my problems through with my dog as well. She never judgesSounds to me like you have and are raising two thoroughly decent nice( very underrated trait in my opinion) humans. You should be proud of that. Really proud. They both sound super motivated too which is fab. Yes I know we want to give our kids everything and that includes money but some of us can’t, so what we give them is our time and love and we listen. You give that too. I think being listened to was the thing I wished I’d had from my childhood, I often felt lost amongst the drama of every day life. I don’t know if that makes sense. I spent a lot of time at my mate’s house and her Mam always sat and chatted with me and I went home with a little boost. So I make the time to sit down and listen to my kids, like really listen, no telly on, no distractions, just talking. Mind my son can talk underwater so it’s not difficult! I don’t have money to give them, so my son, like my daughter did, works part time. I can say it’s brought him on in leaps and bounds and has made him appreciate the things he gets.
Please stop beating yourself up. You obviously have a great relationship with your kids and believe me that’s worth more than money. Anyway, like me you have a third child( the dog) so you must be alright
He was but he was vile to my mam, I learnt things in my 30s that had gone on which I wished I hadn’t to be honest.
She hated him, and rightly so, so feeling upset by his death was almost disloyal and I wasn’t able to say. I didn’t want to hurt her.
omg I’m a mood hoover!! Sorry
Ahh what would we do without them! I talk her ear off! She just looks at me with those massive googlers and I’m convinced sometimes she sighsWell said and I talk all my problems through with my dog as well. She never judges
Was involved in a case once where someone had lied about their degree to get a promotion. The NHS didn't fuck around: sacked them, went after them for civil recovery of all the salary paid since they were appointed (not the difference between old job and new, the lot), and worked with the police to bring a criminal prosecution.
For a full 22 year service, the pension is excellent
