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MrLarson said:
Have you tried keeping a written record of your episodes? I did it and over the course of a year to 18 months it really helped me narrow down what it was that kept getting me down. Certain patterns kept cropping up, with the same people etc.

Try going over some of the bad things that's happened to you since it started (it'll be hard, I know), it really helps. Honestly.
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This is the problem I have, there are none, as I mentioned in my larger post earlier things have been going really well recently, I have troubles at work, family life etc as everyone does. My problem is being happy, and I'm not lying when I say that. The happier I seem to be the worst the episodes become, my depression and anxiety feeds off my happiness and turns them into worries.
 

hiroftm said:
This is the problem I have, there are none, as I mentioned in my larger post earlier things have been going really well recently, I have troubles at work, family life etc as everyone does. My problem is being happy, and I'm not lying when I say that. The happier I seem to be the worst the episodes become, my depression and anxiety feeds off my happiness and turns them into worries.
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It was the same with me mate, nothing in particular seemed to be wrong but when you try and get literally everything off your chest, it's surprising what things actually crop up out of nowhere that you wouldn't have noticed beforehand
 
hiroftm said:
I think I'm scared of telling my girlfriend more than anything. She doesn't deserve this.
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My wife suffers from severe depression, and borderline personality disorder.
She was open and honest with me from day one, and almost a decade later, we are still together, and have two wonderful sons.
If she's the right one for you she'll understand, but it will be easier for her to know, at least some of it early.

All the best, marra.
 
TimBirch said:
My wife suffers from severe depression, and borderline personality disorder.
She was open and honest with me from day one, and almost a decade later, we are still together, and have two wonderful sons.
If she's the right one for you she'll understand, but it will be easier for her to know, at least some of it early.

All the best, marra.
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Cheers for the advice mate, I appreciate it. I spoke with her but didn't break anything to her just yet. I can't do it over the phone when she is so far away.
 
hiroftm said:
Cheers for the advice mate, I appreciate it. I spoke with her but didn't break anything to her just yet. I can't do it over the phone when she is so far away.
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Is it not likely that your girlfriend has already picked up on some of this but doesn't know where it's coming from? The states you're getting in must be hard to hide from someone so close. She could well be worried that there are problems in your relationship. Get her telt. Can you not get on Skype or something with her?
 
TimBirch said:
My wife suffers from severe depression, and borderline personality disorder.
She was open and honest with me from day one, and almost a decade later, we are still together, and have two wonderful sons.
If she's the right one for you she'll understand, but it will be easier for her to know, at least some of it early.

All the best, marra.
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I think that's what you have to do. Have you told her about your double life as a detectorist yet? ;)
 
shrek said:
Quickly going through my old posts and seen this.

Thank you all for the words at the time, I am still at home, my house is sold and Ive found a new girl who i am extremely happy with!

If you are in a "life is in ruins stage" hold on and keep pushing through it DOES get better!
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And I've gone through mine and found this:
janiep said:
One day it will get better.
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Wise old Janie :p

Delighted you've turned a corner pet. Love a happy ending of a Friday night.
 
Maravilla said:
Know this is a pretty frequently discussed topic on here and a lot of good advice is given so here goes.

Been suffering from depression for years and I'm currently going through one of those stages where I'm just constantly feeling shit no matter what I do and am really struggling to get up in the morning to go to work and can barely go an hour without having a suicidal thought, took an overdose of pills last year but that didn't work and in all honesty I feel like I did around that time, but don't really have the bottle to try owt like that again. Know fine well that I don't help myself in some aspects but just want to get to the point where I can live a relatively normal life.

I'm not especially close to my family and whilst I do love them I can't really bring myself to confide in them, been fucked about and fobbed off at every opportunity by the doctors whenever I go to see them about it, I do know that I can always tell my best friend but I don't want to bother them again with this shit, especially after a little drunken heart-to-heart we had last night, so just thought I'd give this a go.
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Try these mate..the initial response team...03031231145...they'll listen and give great advice, just be completely honest and don't be embarrassed about what you need to say to them, they've heard it all before...good luck.
 
hiroftm said:
I think I'm scared of telling my girlfriend more than anything. She doesn't deserve this.
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You come across as a very caring person who doesn't want to upset the people close to you. There is a counter-argument though, which is that you do deserve to be able to tell someone because you're hurting and need to get better. I'm pleased you're telling us on the SMB and hope you haven't found it too hard to do so: perhaps think about how that might give you strength to tell those close to you.

You say you don't know what is causing your feelings. In case it helps you, my personal experience is that there can be things deep in our past that have damaged us very much but we bury our feelings about them, and do it extremely effectively. However, we can't just magic away bad feelings by will power. They'll pop up, often in the form of what seems like inexplicable depression. This may of course not be relevant for you, but talking about it will help you find the reason.
 
A bit of good news for this thread. I mentioned earlier my mam was seriously ill. She had a brain tumour removed on Thursday and is doing well. Still waiting for results of the biopsy of the tumour but the consultant was optimistic she would make a full recovery. Hope everyone is doing ok.
 
Just read through this entire thread. It is one of the most frightening yet uplifting things I have ever read.

Glad I have never suffered like some on here. But the support of people on here is staggering. And people think this us just about an under achieving football club.
 
shogun1904 said:
A bit of good news for this thread. I mentioned earlier my mam was seriously ill. She had a brain tumour removed on Thursday and is doing well. Still waiting for results of the biopsy of the tumour but the consultant was optimistic she would make a full recovery. Hope everyone is doing ok.
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Pleased for you, marra. Best wishes to your Mam.

jcrossan said:
Just read through this entire thread. It is one of the most frightening yet uplifting things I have ever read.

Glad I have never suffered like some on here. But the support of people on here is staggering. And people think this us just about an under achieving football club.
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No, marra, this board is much, much more than that.
 
This book is a must read, it's not in the dreaded self help section, just gives a very personal account of struggles, coping, awareness and insight... Am not doing it justice with this description, but for someone like me that's had and probably will always have depression, low mood, anxiety or whatever, it was a revelation to read and backup things I was going through, the signs... The emotions...

If I coukd buy you all a copy I would... Finding someone... Anyone, to listen, is the most amazing feeling, there's some respite... The skies are less cloudy... And you can actually imagine a Sunderland win! http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/178.../278-1670358-7106715?fp=1&pc_redir=1428228722
 
5limJim said:
This book is a must read, it's not in the dreaded self help section, just gives a very personal account of struggles, coping, awareness and insight... Am not doing it justice with this description, but for someone like me that's had and probably will always have depression, low mood, anxiety or whatever, it was a revelation to read and backup things I was going through, the signs... The emotions...

If I coukd buy you all a copy I would... Finding someone... Anyone, to listen, is the most amazing feeling, there's some respite... The skies are less cloudy... And you can actually imagine a Sunderland win! http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/178.../278-1670358-7106715?fp=1&pc_redir=1428228722
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Just catching up on this thread, thanks for this. I will check it out.
 
Anyone who needs to talk only a pm away, know what your going though, have came back through the tough side of it and, ended up beating the bastard! Chin up to everyone trust ME it gets better.
 
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