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lambro said:
I think its time for me to get my running shoes out.

Used to run 3 miles a day but life and laziness got in the way to the point where I stopped exercising altogether.

Also going to start going out on Mountain Bikes with my lass.
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Definitely give it a go. Join the running thread in the exercise forum. There's some lovely people on there.
 

lambro said:
To what degree do you find running/exercise helpful in fighting depression?
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doesnt have to be hard excersize even matey.Sitting with my pole in my hand does it for me (make yer own jokes, i cant be arsed) the most excersize i get is pulling my trolley from the car to my peg, setting up and rolling a fag/pouring a coffee.Its more as @becs says getting out of the normal surroundings into the fresh air and giving yourself something to focus on rather than letting your head go off in the direction it wants.
 
efcarentwe said:
Whoever said exercise helps is bang on.

Been home from London properly just under 4 weeks and I've been in the gym six days a week . Do 11k fast walking on incline ( I started doing 6 k) followed by 40 minutes to an hour in the pool. I've lost just over a stone and a half already and feel much better

I've got a decent daily routine up early and bed by 11 so I'm already off that awful night shift body clock . Couldn't give 2 fucks about my ex now either .

I've only drank 3 times in 4 weeks but only once to excess . And cut out crisps and chocolate and takeaways that I munched on working nights

Eat 3 times a day now and still eat well . And allow myself a chippy and roast dinner at the week end.

I'm still taking fluxetine though and will do so for 6 months .

I'll look for s job properly at the end of May once in fully back to my old self .

Having good family support helps big time

Good luck
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correction just under 2 stone lost (26 lb) in just under 4 weeks . I think I've earned a couple of pints in the sun
 
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Feel like a right knob for the reason here but...

I've felt consistently shite most of the time for about 5 months now. I know why, and I feel like I need to get a grip but it stems from me splitting with my ex last June (4 year relationship). It was a mutual thing, and we have no problems with each other. In fact we're absolutely fine, we still text every now and again (not a lot like) and we see each other sometimes too when I'm home from university. The first few months after the split I felt sick for a bit then gradually okay. Started talking to other lasses and what not, enjoyed myself like any normal 19 year old would and I didn't contact my ex...I didn't feel a need to really, although I still care for her a lot. To be honest, getting with other lasses felt was just filling a void and I didn't really enjoy it at all. This got me down.

Then when I was back home on a night out I bumped into the ex and we were with each other all night. Everything just came back to me. We spoke a lot over the Christmas holidays, seen each other and it looked like things could be sorted but it didn't really happen. I was gutted and went back to university feeling awful. We still talk since and still see each other every now and again, chat on the phone etc. When I see her it's as if nothings changed really, and my bad feelings go away. I miss everything about it, and I feel like I've had something ripped out of me. I don't feel like anything is a lost cause though which makes it worse. Being away from home I thought would make things easy but it doesn't at all. I know people would see the simple solution to this would be to cut off all contact and over time I'd be okay. I simply can't do it though. She was my best friend and my world. I care so much about her and I'll always have something for her.

It dominates my thoughts, it's the last thing I think of at night and the first thing I think of the next morning. Motivating myself to do things has become difficult, I've lost a lot of interest in doing things that I like. Things like getting excited for a big night out...I'll still go out but I don't get that buzz you get before a big night out for example. Getting up on a morning feels a bit harder. I have burst into tears a few times when I think about things alone. I compare how I was say a year ago and before that, and how I seemingly didn't have a care in the world to how I feel now. Being around mates does help a lot and I'm thankful that those at home and at university are class...I just haven't really spoken about this to anyone, apart from my ex herself vaguely. It personally find it hard to see me feeling better about myself for the foreseeable. I'm sick of sighing to myself and feeling constantly pissed off.
 
efcarentwe said:
Whoever said exercise helps is bang on.

Been home from London properly just under 4 weeks and I've been in the gym six days a week . Do 11k fast walking on incline ( I started doing 6 k) followed by 40 minutes to an hour in the pool. I've lost just over a stone and a half already and feel much better

I've got a decent daily routine up early and bed by 11 so I'm already off that awful night shift body clock . Couldn't give 2 fucks about my ex now either .

I've only drank 3 times in 4 weeks but only once to excess . And cut out crisps and chocolate and takeaways that I munched on working nights

Eat 3 times a day now and still eat well . And allow myself a chippy and roast dinner at the week end.

I'm still taking fluxetine though and will do so for 6 months .

I'll look for s job properly at the end of May once in fully back to my old self .

Having good family support helps big time

Good luck
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inspiring mate, very jealous, keep it up
 
efcarentwe said:
Well I'll try its 6am on a Saturday and I'm about to go the gym rather than Swansea away on the piss. Cheers
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what was your job in London? Just you said you worked night shift down there, which is exactly what I do funnily enough. I reckon it does have an impact to be honest, although I've struggled before I had this job too.

Aye off to the Palace match today, gonna try to stick to the shandy
 
johnson said:
what was your job in London? Just you said you worked night shift down there, which is exactly what I do funnily enough. I reckon it does have an impact to be honest, although I've struggled before I had this job too.

Aye off to the Palace match today, gonna try to stick to the shandy
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I managed a hotel mate but spent most of my time on my arse at a computer . Between being sat down and working nights I put on 4 stone in 3 years .before that I always had a job that kept me active.

I'm gonna try and avoid going back on nights when I get a new job because my health has improved so much In only a month . I liked the job but it's not healthy doing that long term .

Enjoy your pint and hope the Mackems win . Im just going to watch our game Then go and watch the national from my brothers garden . His garden backs onto the course .
 
efcarentwe said:
I managed a hotel mate but spent most of my time on my arse at a computer . Between being sat down and working nights I put on 4 stone in 3 years .before that I always had a job that kept me active.

I'm gonna try and avoid going back on nights when I get a new job because my health has improved so much In only a month . I liked the job but it's not healthy doing that long term .

Enjoy your pint and hope the Mackems win . Im just going to watch our game Then go and watch the national from my brothers garden . His garden backs onto the course .
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Interesting marra, I think you are right

I am gonna follow your posts see how you are doing

I stayed out after match for a few, feel good now obviously, but regretting tomorrow and the next few days when the drink low kicks in, gonna be hell

first drink since the derby but no excuses
 
johnson said:
Interesting marra, I think you are right

I am gonna follow your posts see how you are doing

I stayed out after match for a few, feel good now obviously, but regretting tomorrow and the next few days when the drink low kicks in, gonna be hell

first drink since the derby but no excuses
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The last 5 months I drank a lot to get over my ex but it didn't help at all but I drank on my own away from everyone when I was in London do it made me depressed and think stupid things.

But going out for a drink after the match is sound mate I done it last week after our game with Southampton . The beer fest is horrible though but going out for a social pint after the football is how it should be.

I've just up to watch the late boxing from the states . I could murder a pint now but I'm going to stick to tea . I'll wait til we play burnley next week for a pint .
 
johnson said:
Anyone get big lows after big highs? The derby was an immense day, but due to the come down of joy and drink, struggled this week with a few things. Feel a bit better today, see how it goes.
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I am like this, I look forward to things and once they are over I have a big comedown (similar to when I used to take pills) until I have something else to look forward to.
 
5limJim said:
This book is a must read, it's not in the dreaded self help section, just gives a very personal account of struggles, coping, awareness and insight... Am not doing it justice with this description, but for someone like me that's had and probably will always have depression, low mood, anxiety or whatever, it was a revelation to read and backup things I was going through, the signs... The emotions...

If I coukd buy you all a copy I would... Finding someone... Anyone, to listen, is the most amazing feeling, there's some respite... The skies are less cloudy... And you can actually imagine a Sunderland win! http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/178.../278-1670358-7106715?fp=1&pc_redir=1428228722
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Hopefully I don't get in trouble for linking this, but after a bit of hunting I turned up a file...

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Go for the slow download (no signup), open the rar file with winzip or similar, then use adobe reader or a kindle reader to read the file (2 file versions included).

Agree with the write up, absolutely absorbing book. Incredibly personal but told in a very open way.
 
shogun1904 said:
I am like this, I look forward to things and once they are over I have a big comedown (similar to when I used to take pills) until I have something else to look forward to.
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I sometimes get this. I find it hard to get excited over anything to be honest in the first place, I'm not depressed or anything, I just find it hard to look forward to stuff. It's quite frustrating in all honesty.
 
KST said:
Feel like a right knob for the reason here but...

I've felt consistently shite most of the time for about 5 months now. I know why, and I feel like I need to get a grip but it stems from me splitting with my ex last June (4 year relationship). It was a mutual thing, and we have no problems with each other. In fact we're absolutely fine, we still text every now and again (not a lot like) and we see each other sometimes too when I'm home from university. The first few months after the split I felt sick for a bit then gradually okay. Started talking to other lasses and what not, enjoyed myself like any normal 19 year old would and I didn't contact my ex...I didn't feel a need to really, although I still care for her a lot. To be honest, getting with other lasses felt was just filling a void and I didn't really enjoy it at all. This got me down.

Then when I was back home on a night out I bumped into the ex and we were with each other all night. Everything just came back to me. We spoke a lot over the Christmas holidays, seen each other and it looked like things could be sorted but it didn't really happen. I was gutted and went back to university feeling awful. We still talk since and still see each other every now and again, chat on the phone etc. When I see her it's as if nothings changed really, and my bad feelings go away. I miss everything about it, and I feel like I've had something ripped out of me. I don't feel like anything is a lost cause though which makes it worse. Being away from home I thought would make things easy but it doesn't at all. I know people would see the simple solution to this would be to cut off all contact and over time I'd be okay. I simply can't do it though. She was my best friend and my world. I care so much about her and I'll always have something for her.

It dominates my thoughts, it's the last thing I think of at night and the first thing I think of the next morning. Motivating myself to do things has become difficult, I've lost a lot of interest in doing things that I like. Things like getting excited for a big night out...I'll still go out but I don't get that buzz you get before a big night out for example. Getting up on a morning feels a bit harder. I have burst into tears a few times when I think about things alone. I compare how I was say a year ago and before that, and how I seemingly didn't have a care in the world to how I feel now. Being around mates does help a lot and I'm thankful that those at home and at university are class...I just haven't really spoken about this to anyone, apart from my ex herself vaguely. It personally find it hard to see me feeling better about myself for the foreseeable. I'm sick of sighing to myself and feeling constantly pissed off.
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That is a natural reaction. Someone who was part of your life, who was there during the years when you grew into the person you are today is no longer part of it.
In terms of how we react, it can be very similar to losing someone.

To help move on you need to limit the contact with her, by being in constant touch you are reinforcing the link and making it more difficult to let go. If you don't want to see anyone else just now, thats fine, but you can get through it if you want to. You just need to make a concious effort - it won't be easy for the first while, but it does get easier.
 
peil said:
That is a natural reaction. Someone who was part of your life, who was there during the years when you grew into the person you are today is no longer part of it.
In terms of how we react, it can be very similar to losing someone.

To help move on you need to limit the contact with her, by being in constant touch you are reinforcing the link and making it more difficult to let go. If you don't want to see anyone else just now, thats fine, but you can get through it if you want to. You just need to make a concious effort - it won't be easy for the first while, but it does get easier.
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How are you doing, these days, marra?
 
TimBirch said:
How are you doing, these days, marra?
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On the up curve at the moment. Went back on my meds, stopping them wihout speaking to the doc was a bit silly on reflection.

Went through some Mental Health First Aid training through work just over a week ago, so looking to give something back and help others.

Hows you?
 
peil said:
On the up curve at the moment. Went back on my meds, stopping them wihout speaking to the doc was a bit silly on reflection.

Went through some Mental Health First Aid training through work just over a week ago, so looking to give something back and help others.

Hows you?
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I'm fine marra. The wife's still struggling with depression, but with her it never really goes away, it's just a question of how severe it is. W e cope pretty well, mind.
I'm pleased to hear that you're doing better. ;)
 
efcarentwe said:
listen mate don't worry about other people in the gym . My weight 4 weeks ago was at my biggest nearly 20 stone . . I need to lose 5 1/2 stone ( 4 stone left to go ) nobody in my gym looks twice actually I've been complimented as people have noticed my slight loss so far . It's easier said than done but between 13th feb and 9 March I was on self destruct and even thought about killing myself I was that low . I left London and my job for good on March 13th and thought fuck it , time to act now I'd wallowed for 4 months . I haven't looked back. And hopefully I never will .

I know the weight loss will slow down soon and it will get harder for me . But I don't deprive myself stuff you enjoy ( odd pint , chippy) or I'd crack and then binge but set goals and crack on . I listen to podcasts to help cure boredom on the treadmill . It helps big time .

But your right getting the foot on the ladder is difficult I joined this gym 1st feb went once then didn't bother til March 14th.

Good luck
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Glad to see you are doing well mate. Getting to a healthy weight and eating better will help you no end. A few beers and a chippy tea won't hurt aslong as you keep up with the gym.
 
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