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Depression thread continued...

shadowplay said:
'April is the cruellest month, breeding
Lilacs out of the dead land, mixing
Memory and desire, stirring
Dull roots with spring rain.
Winter kept us warm, covering
Earth in forgetful snow, feeding
A little life with dried tubers.'
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Yeah. Or words to that effect.

Genuinely that is perfect. It's why I like the long nights.
 

RossTheNinja said:
I'm stubborn as owt, although am mostly very forgiving of mistakes. But I have cut people off, sometimes rightly, sometimes, I'm not so sure.
I did have a clear the air kind of talk with my mate the other week and felt better for it. A real friend will admit their mistakes. I think it comes down to if they did apologise, would you be able to forgive them?
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So after three weeks of not talking to her, I finally tried to reach out. With me being on the ASD scale, I tried to explain why her actions hurt so much (going behind my back to my line manger rather than coming directly to me - and getting her facts wrong because she chose not to talk to me before contacting my boss). With ASD, a stress event can lead to melt-down or shut-down, which I find horrible when they happen

Her reaction was incredible when she answered. I needed to "drop it, nuff said", because after all it was only work and so why did her actions matter so much? She then said she took it under advisement that I preferred to be approached directly and would remember that in future. She said she'd been "told" to e-mail my line manager, which led to a situation that five weeks later is still rumbling on rather than being settled on the spot. It comes across as though she's making an excuse and did it off her on bat, but I can't prove this.

She now thinks I'm in the wrong (quote, she considers it "drama") for trying to explain why it hurt so much and the effect it had on me (a near ASD shut down) so once again, we have an impasse. She claims she said sorry, something I don't remember and if so, I had to ask for the apology and raising it again was also an issue. Is this a woman thing? 🙂

Any other place she'd had been blackballed by other workmates for her actions. Either she's naive or, alternatively, not the brightest for not getting going behind a workmate's back without going to them first to establish the facts (unless the workmate is deliberately seeking to cause harm and is a cnt of the highest order) is bang out of order. Previous places, I preferred to deal directly with the person who made or didn't make the mistake to establish what happened, a little thing called respect. She has the nickname "Dipsy", noting on a call recently that another manager had to reminder her that when the clocks changed it was for "British Summer Time".

Since the conversation, there has been more silence. I'm not inclined to go back in to try again as I feel I'm wasting my time. It feels as though she's ploughed in, then realising she's made a mistake tried to double down rather than admit she was wrong and make me feel guilty for feeling aggrieved.

That she got her facts wrong is not the issue. We all do that, we're human. It's her actions of going behind my back then her refusal to admit she was wrong that get me.

Someone else who knows her suggested it would be easier for me to be "the bigger man" and do the grovelling. Why when I did nothing wrong? Again, is this a woman thing?
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The other bit that comes across is even with a kid who's mildly ASD, she doesn't understand what the condition is with her blunt handling of me.
 
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Roker SOL said:
So after three weeks of not talking to her, I finally tried to reach out. With me being on the ASD scale, I tried to explain why her actions hurt so much (going behind my back to my line manger rather than coming directly to me - and getting her facts wrong because she chose not to talk to me before contacting my boss). With ASD, a stress event can lead to melt-down or shut-down, which I find horrible when they happen

Her reaction was incredible when she answered. I needed to "drop it, nuff said", because after all it was only work and so why did her actions matter so much? She then said she took it under advisement that I preferred to be approached directly and would remember that in future. She said she'd been "told" to e-mail my line manager, which led to a situation that five weeks later is still rumbling on rather than being settled on the spot. It comes across as though she's making an excuse and did it off her on bat, but I can't prove this.

She now thinks I'm in the wrong (quote, she considers it "drama") for trying to explain why it hurt so much and the effect it had on me (a near ASD shut down) so once again, we have an impasse. She claims she said sorry, something I don't remember and if so, I had to ask for the apology and raising it again was also an issue. Is this a woman thing? 🙂

Any other place she'd had been blackballed by other workmates for her actions. Either she's naive or, alternatively, not the brightest for not getting going behind a workmate's back without going to them first to establish the facts (unless the workmate is deliberately seeking to cause harm and is a cnt of the highest order) is bang out of order. Previous places, I preferred to deal directly with the person who made or didn't make the mistake to establish what happened, a little thing called respect. She has the nickname "Dipsy", noting on a call recently that another manager had to reminder her that when the clocks changed it was for "British Summer Time".

Since the conversation, there has been more silence. I'm not inclined to go back in to try again as I feel I'm wasting my time. It feels as though she's ploughed in, then realising she's made a mistake tried to double down rather than admit she was wrong and make me feel guilty for feeling aggrieved.

That she got her facts wrong is not the issue. We all do that, we're human. It's her actions of going behind my back then her refusal to admit she was wrong that get me.

Someone else who knows her suggested it would be easier for me to be "the bigger man" and do the grovelling. Why when I did nothing wrong? Again, is this a woman thing?
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The other bit that comes across is even with a kid who's mildly ASD, she doesn't understand what the condition is with her blunt handling of me.
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I have to ask, and only if you’re happy to say, but where do you work?

This sounds very much like someone I used to know, like, REALLY close.
 
I'm struggling again. I've had back to back colds since January. As soon as one tails off, I catch another one. I've not had any restful sleep for weeks now. I get up feeling tired and it's a struggle to get going and get out to work on a morning.

One thing after another keeps happening. A few weeks ago, I noticed water coming through the utility room ceiling and then discovered the toilet had been slowly leaking from the inlet valve for some time and the floorboards around the toilet were soaking wet.

My washing machine broke down and was beyond economical repair, so I had to buy a new one.

A load of warning lights came on my car dashboard and that was costly to get repaired.

I've had to pay for new glasses and contact lenses as my prescription changed. Both the glasses and the contact lenses have been wrong so far. It's been a month since my eye test and I'm still wearing my old glasses and contact lenses. I'm sick of going back to the opticians.

The same thing has happened on the other toilet now. I noticed mould on the kitchen ceiling and discovered the toilet above the kitchen has the same fault and has been slowly leaking for some time, so now I've got that to sort out.

Something has happened with the front door. It's really difficult to lock now and frustrating when I'm trying to leave but the door won't lock.

Then just little things. I opened a drawer yesterday and the front fell off, so I've got that to fix and countless other little things like that need doing.

I'm just fed up.
 
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Becs said:
I'm struggling again. I've had back to back colds since January. As soon as one tails off, I catch another one. I've not had any restful sleep for weeks now. I get up feeling tired and it's a struggle to get going and get out to work on a morning.

One thing after another keeps happening. A few weeks ago, I noticed water coming through the utility room ceiling and then discovered the toilet had been slowly leaking from the inlet valve for some time and the floorboards around the toilet were soaking wet.

My washing machine broke down and was beyond economical repair, so I had to buy a new one.

A load of warning lights came on my car dashboard and that was costly to get repaired.

I've had to pay for new glasses and contact lenses as my prescription changed. Both the glasses and the contact lenses have been wrong so far. It's been a month since my eye test and I'm still wearing my old glasses and contact lenses. I'm sick of going back to the opticians.

The same thing has happened on the other toilet now. I noticed mould on the kitchen ceiling and discovered the toilet above the kitchen has the same fault and has been slowly leaking for some time, so now I've got that to sort out.

Something has happened with the front door. It's really difficult to lock now and frustrating when I'm trying to leave but the door won't lock.

I'm just fed up.
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Life seems to do that. Throw everything at you at the same time. I've been floored with various colds/chest infections since the start of February. It's absolutely tiresome.

Fingers crossed things improve for you soon.
 
Becs said:
I'm struggling again. I've had back to back colds since January. As soon as one tails off, I catch another one. I've not had any restful sleep for weeks now. I get up feeling tired and it's a struggle to get going and get out to work on a morning.

One thing after another keeps happening. A few weeks ago, I noticed water coming through the utility room ceiling and then discovered the toilet had been slowly leaking from the inlet valve for some time and the floorboards around the toilet were soaking wet.

My washing machine broke down and was beyond economical repair, so I had to buy a new one.

A load of warning lights came on my car dashboard and that was costly to get repaired.

I've had to pay for new glasses and contact lenses as my prescription changed. Both the glasses and the contact lenses have been wrong so far. It's been a month since my eye test and I'm still wearing my old glasses and contact lenses. I'm sick of going back to the opticians.

The same thing has happened on the other toilet now. I noticed mould on the kitchen ceiling and discovered the toilet above the kitchen has the same fault and has been slowly leaking for some time, so now I've got that to sort out.

Something has happened with the front door. It's really difficult to lock now and frustrating when I'm trying to leave but the door won't lock.

Then just little things. I opened a drawer yesterday and the front fell off, so I've got that to fix and countless other little things like that need doing.

I'm just fed up.
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Seems like your not far off that Michael Douglas film Falling Down ,I will keep an eye out in the Echo for you if you go on a rampage.
All seriousness am so sorry mate and if there is anything I can help with please let me know 👍.
 
Becs said:
I'm struggling again. I've had back to back colds since January. As soon as one tails off, I catch another one. I've not had any restful sleep for weeks now. I get up feeling tired and it's a struggle to get going and get out to work on a morning.

One thing after another keeps happening. A few weeks ago, I noticed water coming through the utility room ceiling and then discovered the toilet had been slowly leaking from the inlet valve for some time and the floorboards around the toilet were soaking wet.

My washing machine broke down and was beyond economical repair, so I had to buy a new one.

A load of warning lights came on my car dashboard and that was costly to get repaired.

I've had to pay for new glasses and contact lenses as my prescription changed. Both the glasses and the contact lenses have been wrong so far. It's been a month since my eye test and I'm still wearing my old glasses and contact lenses. I'm sick of going back to the opticians.

The same thing has happened on the other toilet now. I noticed mould on the kitchen ceiling and discovered the toilet above the kitchen has the same fault and has been slowly leaking for some time, so now I've got that to sort out.

Something has happened with the front door. It's really difficult to lock now and frustrating when I'm trying to leave but the door won't lock.

Then just little things. I opened a drawer yesterday and the front fell off, so I've got that to fix and countless other little things like that need doing.

I'm just fed up.
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I've found that when you get one negtive thing it quickly becomes three together but it will improve. Try not to let it get you down too much it WILL improve. The sun coming out is probably to blame.

The sun coming out is probably to blame.
 
Becs said:
I'm struggling again. I've had back to back colds since January. As soon as one tails off, I catch another one. I've not had any restful sleep for weeks now. I get up feeling tired and it's a struggle to get going and get out to work on a morning.

One thing after another keeps happening. A few weeks ago, I noticed water coming through the utility room ceiling and then discovered the toilet had been slowly leaking from the inlet valve for some time and the floorboards around the toilet were soaking wet.

My washing machine broke down and was beyond economical repair, so I had to buy a new one.

A load of warning lights came on my car dashboard and that was costly to get repaired.

I've had to pay for new glasses and contact lenses as my prescription changed. Both the glasses and the contact lenses have been wrong so far. It's been a month since my eye test and I'm still wearing my old glasses and contact lenses. I'm sick of going back to the opticians.

The same thing has happened on the other toilet now. I noticed mould on the kitchen ceiling and discovered the toilet above the kitchen has the same fault and has been slowly leaking for some time, so now I've got that to sort out.

Something has happened with the front door. It's really difficult to lock now and frustrating when I'm trying to leave but the door won't lock.

Then just little things. I opened a drawer yesterday and the front fell off, so I've got that to fix and countless other little things like that need doing.

I'm just fed up.
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I can't shake a cold and sore throat off that seems to have been hanging around for about two months.
 
Becs said:
I'm struggling again. I've had back to back colds since January. As soon as one tails off, I catch another one. I've not had any restful sleep for weeks now. I get up feeling tired and it's a struggle to get going and get out to work on a morning.

One thing after another keeps happening. A few weeks ago, I noticed water coming through the utility room ceiling and then discovered the toilet had been slowly leaking from the inlet valve for some time and the floorboards around the toilet were soaking wet.

My washing machine broke down and was beyond economical repair, so I had to buy a new one.

A load of warning lights came on my car dashboard and that was costly to get repaired.

I've had to pay for new glasses and contact lenses as my prescription changed. Both the glasses and the contact lenses have been wrong so far. It's been a month since my eye test and I'm still wearing my old glasses and contact lenses. I'm sick of going back to the opticians.

The same thing has happened on the other toilet now. I noticed mould on the kitchen ceiling and discovered the toilet above the kitchen has the same fault and has been slowly leaking for some time, so now I've got that to sort out.

Something has happened with the front door. It's really difficult to lock now and frustrating when I'm trying to leave but the door won't lock.

Then just little things. I opened a drawer yesterday and the front fell off, so I've got that to fix and countless other little things like that need doing.

I'm just fed up.
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When you're feeling poorly, even the smallest jobs can seem like a mountain to climb, then it can seem as the universe is against you, throwing as much at you as possible in the shortest time, but when your feeling well, you would have likely just cracked on and got the jobs done without a second thought.

Guess what I am trying to say is, your health is more important than the little jobs, focus on being well as possible and all the other stuff will fall into place, some really nice people on this thread if you feel overwhelmed who I am sure would be happy to have a chat to buck up your spirits.

Hope you feel better soon Becs.
 
Dinnar what it is. I'm objectively doing comparably better financially and career wise to my peers in my age group, I just got a promotion at work, I'm getting married in the summer to a mint lass, my bairn's good as gold and top of his class at school, SAFC are going into the playoffs...

Yet at least 3-4 times a day I feel absolutely hopeless and/or pissed off. Fed up with it
 
InsomniacAttack said:
Dinnar what it is. I'm objectively doing comparably better financially and career wise to my peers in my age group, I just got a promotion at work, I'm getting married in the summer to a mint lass, my bairn's good as gold and top of his class at school, SAFC are going into the playoffs...

Yet at least 3-4 times a day I feel absolutely hopeless and/or pissed off. Fed up with it
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Have you spoken to your GP mate and are you on any medication?
 
InsomniacAttack said:
Dinnar what it is. I'm objectively doing comparably better financially and career wise to my peers in my age group, I just got a promotion at work, I'm getting married in the summer to a mint lass, my bairn's good as gold and top of his class at school, SAFC are going into the playoffs...

Yet at least 3-4 times a day I feel absolutely hopeless and/or pissed off. Fed up with it
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Lead up to a wedding can be stressful as owt and sounds like you’ve been pushing yourself at work as well, potential burnout marra?

See a GP but don’t let them just chuck you straight on meds.
 
lucky said:
Have you spoken to your GP mate and are you on any medication?
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Hendon Mad Frog said:
Lead up to a wedding can be stressful as owt and sounds like you’ve been pushing yourself at work as well, potential burnout marra?

See a GP but don’t let them just chuck you straight on meds.
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Cheers, tried every combination of tablet and dosage going over the years lol.

It's more frustrating cos like everyone says I've got nowt to be down in the dumps about.
 
InsomniacAttack said:
It's more frustrating cos like everyone says I've got nowt to be down in the dumps ababout
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Doesn't work like that mate as your living proof, you can have everything in the world going for you and still know something isn't right. Have you spoke to your partner and told her how you feel ? I know you doing well at work but do you like your job or find yourself dragging yourself in at times as I was in a job doing so well previously but hated every minute of it and ended up leaving and going somewhere else and took a pay cut.
 
InsomniacAttack said:
Dinnar what it is. I'm objectively doing comparably better financially and career wise to my peers in my age group, I just got a promotion at work, I'm getting married in the summer to a mint lass, my bairn's good as gold and top of his class at school, SAFC are going into the playoffs...

Yet at least 3-4 times a day I feel absolutely hopeless and/or pissed off. Fed up with it
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As Lucky points out: speak to your GP. There's something going on (or has gone on) in you life that leads you to how you feel & face things.
 
InsomniacAttack said:
Cheers, tried every combination of tablet and dosage going over the years lol.

It's more frustrating cos like everyone says I've got nowt to be down in the dumps about.
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Like others have said, GP and maybe get some bloods done?

Low B12 can effect moods for example, my son has an issue and has low B12, he got a course of injections and it was a game changer for him, he was tired, felt down, used to just stay in his room, could be something simple like that?
 
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