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70s traveller said:
Learn from it. All people are different so look at the brighter parts for yourself & don't be brought down by the past.
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Oh I have. For one thing, if I ever catch myself feeling like that again, I will know to remove myself from the situation until it passes. I'd like to think this shock alone would be enough, but who knows. Regardless I've been open with everyone now about my struggles and what happened, which in itself has been a relief, albeit an incredibly painful one.
 

Roker SOL said:
A relative of hers has been snooping around my social media. They have 5 different accounts / profiles on Facebook alone.

First she wants rid of me. So I ignore her for months then this happens. It appears she's an attention seeker who needs to stoke up a bit of drama for her own enjoyment.

Someone blocked her January and she seemed to enjoy it when I was still talking to her.
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External parties seem to enjoy snooping about so they can stick their finger in. Draw a line under it unless you can be in control for yourself. As you know, playing games hurts, whether it's her or somebody trying to intrerfere.
Tadger said:
Oh I have. For one thing, if I ever catch myself feeling like that again, I will know to remove myself from the situation until it passes. I'd like to think this shock alone would be enough, but who knows. Regardless I've been open with everyone now about my struggles and what happened, which in itself has been a relief, albeit an incredibly painful one.
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Stick with that mentality. Put "previous" to the back of your mind and stay above it
 
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I am a reindeer said:
Struggling a bit at the moment. Everything seems to be going wrong! Anxiety has crept up, I had a panic attack 2 weeks ago, and currently just feel sad, low and teary. Medication up to date. Not enjoying work. Normally enjoy being outside at this time of year but don't. Generally just feel shite. 😔
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We all have those days when one thing leads to another. Things WILL get better, don't let them get on top of you. There's football & Midsomer Murders on tv again :( ....sorry for depressing you.
 
Ciro_DiMarzio said:
SIde effects have been brutal all week but today seemed to let up a bit. Worst one is my legs feeling like jelly. I have to stand all day at work so it's been brutal. Hopefully I am over the worst. I appreciate you asking marra, Thank you.
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Just read the last few pages. Good on you for taking the hardest steps.

My general rule of thumb is if side effects are still there and troublesome after two weeks then you’re best off trying a different one. There’s 5 different SSRI’s that GPs will prescribe freely in the north east with various side effect profiles.

Given what you’ve said on here I’d strongly recommend you take up the offer of self referring to taking therapies.

Dunno what GP you’re with but if it’s in the Sunderland talking therapies catchment area you can refer online and they’ll give you a triage/assessment. Waiting times for actual treatment vary between a few weeks to over a year depending on what is agreed so you’ve plenty of time to cancel.
There’s been some mistruths posted in this thread too, like being made to have group therapy first. It’s nonsense; there are no hard rules for Sunderland talking therapies, treatment is decided with you and based on presenting symptoms.

Hope things are picking up. I’m only a message away if you want to ask anything. In confidence.
 
I am a reindeer said:
Thank you. 😊 I'll pass on the Midsommer Murders though. 😂
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Yes, that's what I was trying to do but the wife captured me with Dalziel & Pascoe :cry: don't tell me, that's what you're currently "enjoying" to raise your spirits. Not to worry it'll be bedtime shortly 🕚
Tadger said:
Oh I have. For one thing, if I ever catch myself feeling like that again, I will know to remove myself from the situation until it passes. I'd like to think this shock alone would be enough, but who knows. Regardless I've been open with everyone now about my struggles and what happened, which in itself has been a relief, albeit an incredibly painful one.
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It's about putting yourself in control and by the fact you're willing to post you're well on the way.
 
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rudd said:
Just read the last few pages. Good on you for taking the hardest steps.

My general rule of thumb is if side effects are still there and troublesome after two weeks then you’re best off trying a different one. There’s 5 different SSRI’s that GPs will prescribe freely in the north east with various side effect profiles.

Given what you’ve said on here I’d strongly recommend you take up the offer of self referring to taking therapies.

Dunno what GP you’re with but if it’s in the Sunderland talking therapies catchment area you can refer online and they’ll give you a triage/assessment. Waiting times for actual treatment vary between a few weeks to over a year depending on what is agreed so you’ve plenty of time to cancel.
There’s been some mistruths posted in this thread too, like being made to have group therapy first. It’s nonsense; there are no hard rules for Sunderland talking therapies, treatment is decided with you and based on presenting symptoms.

Hope things are picking up. I’m only a message away if you want to ask anything. In confidence.
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I'm with South Hetton doctors which I think is Durham but I've got the details from my GP to self refer although I haven't done it yet.
 
rudd said:
Just read the last few pages. Good on you for taking the hardest steps.

My general rule of thumb is if side effects are still there and troublesome after two weeks then you’re best off trying a different one. There’s 5 different SSRI’s that GPs will prescribe freely in the north east with various side effect profiles.

Given what you’ve said on here I’d strongly recommend you take up the offer of self referring to taking therapies.

Dunno what GP you’re with but if it’s in the Sunderland talking therapies catchment area you can refer online and they’ll give you a triage/assessment. Waiting times for actual treatment vary between a few weeks to over a year depending on what is agreed so you’ve plenty of time to cancel.
There’s been some mistruths posted in this thread too, like being made to have group therapy first. It’s nonsense; there are no hard rules for Sunderland talking therapies, treatment is decided with you and based on presenting symptoms.

Hope things are picking up. I’m only a message away if you want to ask anything. In confidence.
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I'll qualify this by saying I was talking about Durham area.

You're asked to take a six week programme of online anonymous group theraphy first, which is about techniques then you can access one-to-one help after. Yjay os what happened to me.

I can't vouch for Sunderland area.
70s traveller said:
External parties seem to enjoy snooping about so they can stick their finger in. Draw a line under it unless you can be in control for yourself. As you know, playing games hurts, whether it's her or somebody trying to intrerfere.

Stick with that mentality. Put "previous" to the back of your mind and stay above it
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If her relative is snooping om her behalf, then she's lied to me about any massive fall out as she made out differences were irreconcilable.

She's been playing games (noting activity has allowed me to identify accounts and block), ironically making it easier for me to move on. I can see now she went out to make me feel bad over a nothing event and she probably enjoyed it - pleasure out of someone else's misfortune. Knowing that means she is in the worng way more than me as she has made me beat myself up unnecessarily when I was in a bad place. We all know people like that and they're quite frankly not worth a damn. She's shown sociopathic tendencies and is best avoided.

It's ironically made me feel better, knowing that she created the situation out of a nothing remark and therefore she is the wrong doer and not me. I can move on knowing I've seen her for what she is. Her use of her relative boils down to the fact I've done nothing for the last few weeks and she's not been getting the dramatic attention she craves. I will continue to starve her of that by continuing to do nothing and getting on with my life.
 
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Roker SOL said:
I'll qualify this by saying I was talking about Durham area.

You're asked to take a six week programme of online anonymous group theraphy first, which is about techniques then you can access one-to-one help after. Yjay os what happened to me.
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I'm currently using Durham Talking Therapies and I've never been asked to do group therapy. I was offered one on one treatment by either telephone or video call.
 
Roker SOL said:
If her relative is snooping om her behalf, then she's lied to me about any massive fall out as she made out differences were irreconcilable.

She's been playing games (noting activity has allowed me to identify accounts and block), ironically making it easier for me to move on. I can see now she went out to make me feel bad over a nothing event and she probably enjoyed it - pleasure out of someone else's misfortune. Knowing that means she is in the worng way more than me as she has made me beat myself up unnecessarily when I was in a bad place. We all know people like that and they're quite frankly not worth a damn. She's shown sociopathic tendencies and is best avoided.

It's ironically made me feel better, knowing that she created the situation out of a nothing remark and therefore she is the wrong doer and not me. I can move on knowing I've seen her for what she is. Her use of her relative boils down to the fact I've done nothing for the last few weeks and she's not been getting the dramatic attention she craves. I will continue to starve her of that by continuing to do nothing and getting on with my life.
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Unfortunately that's how some people work (for whatever reason). Don't be too worried about someone else being involved because that's what "weak" people do when they want someone to be on their side with something. If you can be bothered think it all through & I'm sure something else will lead you to what I've posted. I've noticed a comment in your above [now in bold] that covers it.

Just say goodnight and let her live in her own little world.
Roker SOL said:
But the new episode of Midsommer Murders I think you'll enjoy.

The victim is an ex-Newcastle International who is also a BBC football pundit. 🤔
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Calm down, I'd rather stare blankly at the wall :lol: alternativelty for a bit of hard-core excitement I might watch the kettle boil
 
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I've hit a heavy bad yin again this week. Missed work and the girlfriend has abandoned me when I need her the most.

Feel like nobody cares. Don't even know why im posting this tbh
 
GlasgowMackem88 said:
I've hit a heavy bad yin again this week. Missed work and the girlfriend has abandoned me when I need her the most.

Feel like nobody cares. Don't even know why im posting this tbh
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People do care, just sometimes who you view as important let you down when you need it. I shouldn't say it but some are happy with the benefits during good times but are quick to step back when something not too good comes up. Days really will get better.
 
Becs said:
^^ definitely worth a chat with @GlasgowMackem88

Any of the regulars on here would also chat with you. We all care and there's help here for you. Take care xx
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Got my arse in gear and made it to work today, wanted to get the first day back out the way before the weekend.
Jonny5 said:
moved recently and been living on me tod for the first time in a while forgot how grim it can get.
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I know how that feels mate if its any consolation.
 
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