Depression thread continued...

[lucky]

day 2 night time - insomnia and a headache,
day 3 was fine but I cut my work day short as I was so tired I couldn't take in any information properly
day 4 pill having no negative effects.

should I be feeling any positive effects by day 4? I thought it would take around 4 weeks but I am sure I do feel something small already (placebo?)

Seems like you getting through the worst of it , I can never see any difference but my wife said you can tell the difference in me and I know not to argue with her now as she's always right .
When she says I know you better than yourself I kinda get it now.

 

[Roker SOL]

Reet, it's been a while. I see people have made good use of this.

This are ticking along okay with me and it's not me I'm asking about. ASD, AD-HD, etc. largely unter control with some things still going on okay in background.

Given the knowledge I've accrued (one trait I have is to absorb info. at quite a rate), I see traits in others and odd times wonder. I follow a policy of "none of my business" unless someone specifically asks for advice and I never intervene.

However, this is now being tested. I'v a workmate struggling with confidence and knowledge retention. She put it down to menopause and I initially took her word for it. But I'm seeing myself in her 3 years ago noting symtoms very similar to mine, noting evidence of shutdown behaviour when struggling and also infodumping. But I also believe she has promise as she's made some good spots.

She's temporary, looking for extension. Basically, what I know could allow her to receive help. But I don't want to be seen interfering.

Options:

1) Maintain my approach of non-interference. It's none of my business. But she might not have her contract renewed.

2) I get on with her line manager. Have a quiet, confidential word with her. It might keep my colleage in work. But that feels like going behind her back.

3) Talk to my colleage diplomatically and directly, but risk fallng out with her and knowing how difficult it was for me to accept the ASD element of my own neurodivergence.

Thoughts?

(And no, we're not...)

 

[lucky]

Reet, it's been a while. I see people have made good use of this.

This are ticking along okay with me and it's not me I'm asking about. ASD, AD-HD, etc. largely unter control with some things still going on okay in background.

Given the knowledge I've accrued (one trait I have is to absorb info. at quite a rate), I see traits in others and odd times wonder. I follow a policy of "none of my business" unless someone specifically asks for advice and I never intervene.

However, this is now being tested. I'v a workmate struggling with confidence and knowledge retention. She put it down to menopause and I initially took her word for it. But I'm seeing myself in her 3 years ago noting symtoms very similar to mine, noting evidence of shutdown behaviour when struggling and also infodumping. But I also believe she has promise as she's made some good spots.

She's temporary, looking for extension. Basically, what I know could allow her to receive help. But I don't want to be seen interfering.

Options:

1) Maintain my approach of non-interference. It's none of my business. But she might not have her contract renewed.

2) I get on with her line manager. Have a quiet, confidential word with her. It might keep my colleage in work. But that feels like going behind her back.

3) Talk to my colleage diplomatically and directly, but risk fallng out with her and knowing how difficult it was for me to accept the ASD element of my own neurodivergence.

Thoughts?

(And no, we're not...)

Really don't know but I would say option 2 as long as she does not find out , your trying to help her at the end of the day so good on you either way .

 

[TAD]

Reet, it's been a while. I see people have made good use of this.

This are ticking along okay with me and it's not me I'm asking about. ASD, AD-HD, etc. largely unter control with some things still going on okay in background.

Given the knowledge I've accrued (one trait I have is to absorb info. at quite a rate), I see traits in others and odd times wonder. I follow a policy of "none of my business" unless someone specifically asks for advice and I never intervene.

However, this is now being tested. I'v a workmate struggling with confidence and knowledge retention. She put it down to menopause and I initially took her word for it. But I'm seeing myself in her 3 years ago noting symtoms very similar to mine, noting evidence of shutdown behaviour when struggling and also infodumping. But I also believe she has promise as she's made some good spots.

She's temporary, looking for extension. Basically, what I know could allow her to receive help. But I don't want to be seen interfering.

Options:

1) Maintain my approach of non-interference. It's none of my business. But she might not have her contract renewed.

2) I get on with her line manager. Have a quiet, confidential word with her. It might keep my colleage in work. But that feels like going behind her back.

3) Talk to my colleage diplomatically and directly, but risk fallng out with her and knowing how difficult it was for me to accept the ASD element of my own neurodivergence.

Thoughts?

(And no, we're not...)

It's lovely that you are thinking of people but as a menopausal woman I'd say, unless it comes up naturally in discussion, stick to option 1. The effects of the menopause on some women can not be under estimated. It can significantly effect your memory, levels of anxiety, confidence and general mental health which I don't think can be understood unless you're going or have gone through it.

 

[Roker SOL]

It's lovely that you are thinking of people but as a menopausal woman I'd say, unless it comes up naturally in discussion, stick to option 1. The effects of the menopause on some women can not be under estimated. It can significantly effect your memory, levels of anxiety, confidence and general mental health which I don't think can be understood unless you're going or have gone through it.

I hear you and to be honest, staying out of it is my gut. The info dumping and shutdowns do suggest more, but I do feel I might just make things worse.

I wanted to see what others thought as I've been tossing and turning on this. But it is not really my place to diagnose and this should be left to professionals.

 

[lucky]

Go with what your gut tells you mate @Roker SOL

 

[Roker SOL]

Go with what your gut tells you mate @Roker SOL

One of my mates tonight said leave it.

The more I think it through, leaving it is a no brainer.

Thanks folks.

 

[Az*]

Well another shitty day for us in our household.

The Mrs gets a call at 1:46am
Nurse “Not to worry you but could you come to the hospital,
The Mrs”what’s wrong”
Nurse”the drs are with your dad but it’s quite serious and we’d advise you come up if it’s possible”

Anyway she went and he has full blown sepsis and is basically at deaths door. He has a catheter because of the stroke and has had 3 UTI’s in the last month or so, this last one started a couple of day’s ago and has obviously developed into sepsis.

The call was the same as we got about my msm so i obviously thought the worst. Fortunately when i woke up there the mrs was back home so nine he’d clung in somehow. She said he’s out the fight of his life up but that she’s never seen anyone that poorly before.

I f***ing swear I dunno wtf we’ve done to deserve all this, according to her religious fundamentalist mother it’s punishment for things we’ve done, I must have been ghenghis fking khan in another life. She’s an absolute loon, I can’t even be in the same room anymore with the demented old cow

The good news is he’s still here fighting in, bad news is he’s not out of the woods yet.
It’s getting hard to keep the spirits up though I must say, I mean I/the mrs are human after all and we all have our limits. He’s the boys best mate anarl so he’s very worried.

The kid has the game of his life yesterday getting into another cup final at football and then wakes up to this chaos. I’m trying to shield him a bit but he’s 9 so pretty. Aware ya know.

What a fking life

 

[Roker SOL]

Well another shitty day for us in our household.

The Mrs gets a call at 1:46am
Nurse “Not to worry you but could you come to the hospital,
The Mrs”what’s wrong”
Nurse”the drs are with your dad but it’s quite serious and we’d advise you come up if it’s possible”

Anyway she went and he has full blown sepsis and is basically at deaths door. He has a catheter because of the stroke and has had 3 UTI’s in the last month or so, this last one started a couple of day’s ago and has obviously developed into sepsis.

The call was the same as we got about my msm so i obviously thought the worst. Fortunately when i woke up there the mrs was back home so nine he’d clung in somehow. She said he’s out the fight of his life up but that she’s never seen anyone that poorly before.

I f***ing swear I dunno wtf we’ve done to deserve all this, according to her religious fundamentalist mother it’s punishment for things we’ve done, I must have been ghenghis fking khan in another life. She’s an absolute loon, I can’t even be in the same room anymore with the demented old cow

The good news is he’s still here fighting in, bad news is he’s not out of the woods yet.
It’s getting hard to keep the spirits up though I must say, I mean I/the mrs are human after all and we all have our limits. He’s the boys best mate anarl so he’s very worried.

The kid has the game of his life yesterday getting into another cup final at football and then wakes up to this chaos. I’m trying to shield him a bit but he’s 9 so pretty. Aware ya know.

What a fking life

I went through these ups and downs with my mum the last 8 months of her life. I was on my own.

You have your family around you, so use that and stick together.

And keep your mother-in-law as far away as possible if she can't keep her opinions to herself.

There are stroke support groups out there. Ring them if only for a hopefully reassuring chat.

Hope all is okay in the end.

 

[lucky]

Well another shitty day for us in our household.

The Mrs gets a call at 1:46am
Nurse “Not to worry you but could you come to the hospital,
The Mrs”what’s wrong”
Nurse”the drs are with your dad but it’s quite serious and we’d advise you come up if it’s possible”

Anyway she went and he has full blown sepsis and is basically at deaths door. He has a catheter because of the stroke and has had 3 UTI’s in the last month or so, this last one started a couple of day’s ago and has obviously developed into sepsis.

The call was the same as we got about my msm so i obviously thought the worst. Fortunately when i woke up there the mrs was back home so nine he’d clung in somehow. She said he’s out the fight of his life up but that she’s never seen anyone that poorly before.

I f***ing swear I dunno wtf we’ve done to deserve all this, according to her religious fundamentalist mother it’s punishment for things we’ve done, I must have been ghenghis fking khan in another life. She’s an absolute loon, I can’t even be in the same room anymore with the demented old cow

The good news is he’s still here fighting in, bad news is he’s not out of the woods yet.
It’s getting hard to keep the spirits up though I must say, I mean I/the mrs are human after all and we all have our limits. He’s the boys best mate anarl so he’s very worried.

The kid has the game of his life yesterday getting into another cup final at football and then wakes up to this chaos. I’m trying to shield him a bit but he’s 9 so pretty. Aware ya know.

What a fking life

Am so sorry mate , hope he pulls through and definitely try and keep as far away from the mother that you can as she seems like she could make you both explode at any minute and your kid doesn't need to see that.
Sending love .

 

[Az*]

I went through these ups and downs with my mum the last 8 months of her life. I was on my own.

You have your family around you, so use that and stick together.

And keep your mother-in-law as far away as possible if she can't keep her opinions to herself.

There are stroke support groups out there. Ring them if only for a hopefully reassuring chat.

Hope all is okay in the end.

Thanks. Believe it or not just typing stuff out on here seems to help me quite a bit, once I get it off my. Chest I always feel better.
My worry is the mrs s d the boy, the mrs is a grown woman and although it’s her dad she can rationalise things, the boy has just lost his nana Sunderland and is 9 so atm he’s my concern.

I’m gonna go and walk the dog and take stock, that always helps.

I’ll keep swinging away S usual

 

[CPLforever]

Well another shitty day for us in our household.

The Mrs gets a call at 1:46am
Nurse “Not to worry you but could you come to the hospital,
The Mrs”what’s wrong”
Nurse”the drs are with your dad but it’s quite serious and we’d advise you come up if it’s possible”

Anyway she went and he has full blown sepsis and is basically at deaths door. He has a catheter because of the stroke and has had 3 UTI’s in the last month or so, this last one started a couple of day’s ago and has obviously developed into sepsis.

The call was the same as we got about my msm so i obviously thought the worst. Fortunately when i woke up there the mrs was back home so nine he’d clung in somehow. She said he’s out the fight of his life up but that she’s never seen anyone that poorly before.

I f***ing swear I dunno wtf we’ve done to deserve all this, according to her religious fundamentalist mother it’s punishment for things we’ve done, I must have been ghenghis fking khan in another life. She’s an absolute loon, I can’t even be in the same room anymore with the demented old cow

The good news is he’s still here fighting in, bad news is he’s not out of the woods yet.
It’s getting hard to keep the spirits up though I must say, I mean I/the mrs are human after all and we all have our limits. He’s the boys best mate anarl so he’s very worried.

The kid has the game of his life yesterday getting into another cup final at football and then wakes up to this chaos. I’m trying to shield him a bit but he’s 9 so pretty. Aware ya know.

What a fking life

I'm giving you a like cos the line i must have been Ghengis effing Khan in a previous life made me laugh out loud.

So he's getting better and fingers crossed he'll pull through which means you were actually St Francis of Assissi in a previous life.

Stay strong

 

[Az*]

I'm giving you a like cos the line i must have been Ghengis effing Khan in a previous life made me laugh out loud.

So he's getting better and fingers crossed he'll pull through which means you were actually St Francis of Assissi in a previous life.

Stay strong

Glad someone got to laugh a lil mate

Tbh I’m hoping that if he was gonna go it woulda been last night as by fall accounts he was literally at deaths door, I hope my mam seen him stepping through and slammed it shut, they were great friends but I don’t think she wants to see him so soon after she left herself..

I know with sepsis it can still get very serious but I’m just trying to stay positive,

I’ll try and stay strong mate, thanks a bunch fella
Well his blood pressure was 60’ish when our lass left this morning, they’ve just phoned to say they’ve stuck him on new antibiotics and his BP is now around 110, they seemed a lot happier and more positive about his condition in general so touch wood

 

[lucky]

Glad someone got to laugh a lil mate

Tbh I’m hoping that if he was gonna go it woulda been last night as by fall accounts he was literally at deaths door, I hope my mam seen him stepping through and slammed it shut, they were great friends but I don’t think she wants to see him so soon after she left herself..

I know with sepsis it can still get very serious but I’m just trying to stay positive,

I’ll try and stay strong mate, thanks a bunch fella
Well his blood pressure was 60’ish when our lass left this morning, they’ve just phoned to say they’ve stuck him on new antibiotics and his BP is now around 110, they seemed a lot happier and more positive about his condition in general so touch wood

I'm at the hospital tomorrow mate does he need owt dropping in or anything .

 

[Az*]

I'm at the hospital tomorrow mate does he need owt dropping in or anything .

He’s in a hospital in Norfolk mate, thanks for asking though marra. Very kind of you.

I posted an update btw but it just added it onto my other post, this forum is a bit turd at times…

 

[lucky]

He’s in a hospital in Norfolk mate, thanks for asking though marra. Very kind of you.

I posted an update btw but it just added it onto my other post, this forum is a bit turd at times…

 

[Roker SOL]

He’s in a hospital in Norfolk mate, thanks for asking though marra. Very kind of you.

I posted an update btw but it just added it onto my other post, this forum is a bit turd at times…

The mods put the add on feature in place years ago to stop people bumping up threads if they were fizzling out.

You have to wait 48 hours before your new post doesn't merge with your old post if no-one else posts in that 48 hour intervening period.

 

[Shambo]

day 2 night time - insomnia and a headache,
day 3 was fine but I cut my work day short as I was so tired I couldn't take in any information properly
day 4 pill having no negative effects.

should I be feeling any positive effects by day 4? I thought it would take around 4 weeks but I am sure I do feel something small already (placebo?)

update - day 8 and the negative effects have been pretty minimal. had a couple of days feeling a little headachy and maybe lethargic (but also that is life sometimes so who knows)

 

[Gennaro Savastano]

Had a huge dip in my mental health tonight just because of a brief conversation with the girl I have been seeing. I am certain she didn't mean anything negative and I've took it the wrong way but it's affected me massively anyway. Don't know whether to end things to protect us both or try to work on it. Feels like my insecurities will stop me having healthy relationships.

 

[Charlestonian]

Had a huge dip in my mental health tonight just because of a brief conversation with the girl I have been seeing. I am certain she didn't mean anything negative and I've took it the wrong way but it's affected me massively anyway. Don't know whether to end things to protect us both or try to work on it. Feels like my insecurities will stop me having healthy relationships.

Could you have a bit crack with her about or are you worried about scaring her off?