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During my diagnostic process this was one of the big tells - apparently the psychologist was giving me many clues that he wanted me to stop talking about a particular thing and I didn't notice any of them!I can’t even tell when someone else is bored
Fortunately my family and friends know just to tell me to shut up
I got my diagnosis aged about 50. It wasn't earth shattering for me because I had a son with ASD and I had done the self assessment Autism Spectrum Quotient quiz and I came out very, very high on that. It did help me understand myself a lot better, like why I keep analysing things to try and improve them (for instance my wife says I'm a frustrated road planner) and why I struggle with conversations; I need a bit of time to process what I hear then formulate my response - this is important for me because it feeds in to things like amending conversations with the shrink who is trying to deal with my anxiety and depression, indeed it was as part of this that I was referred for diagnostic evaluation in the first place. It also helped my wife understand that I can't help that pause before I speak and I'm not doing it to annoy her.
Ultimately you have to make the decision but I would advise going for the diagnostic evaluation as you already have talked about it with your wife and not having an answer would always niggle at the back of your mind.