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Got put on some medication called Montelukast to help with some nasal polyps in January. And my mental health has deteriorated. That's the only change I've made, so it must be that. Genuinely have never felt worse in my life. Had to go and change my anti-depressant tablets to duloxetine, which I start today so hopefully that improves it. Honestly, though, the last 10 days I've felt useless, cant relax, cried in front of my Mam and Dad out of nowhere. On Tuesday for the first time ever I was thinking if it would be worth just ending it all. My head was so battered and felt so low. Even now, I still feel like shit and cant see a way out of it. Hope the new meds and stopping the Montelukast will put me back on track somewhat. But this is the hardest its ever been.
 
TheStinger said:
Got put on some medication called Montelukast to help with some nasal polyps in January. And my mental health has deteriorated. That's the only change I've made, so it must be that. Genuinely have never felt worse in my life. Had to go and change my anti-depressant tablets to duloxetine, which I start today so hopefully that improves it. Honestly, though, the last 10 days I've felt useless, cant relax, cried in front of my Mam and Dad out of nowhere. On Tuesday for the first time ever I was thinking if it would be worth just ending it all. My head was so battered and felt so low. Even now, I still feel like shit and cant see a way out of it. Hope the new meds and stopping the Montelukast will put me back on track somewhat. But this is the hardest its ever been.
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Like a minefield with some anti depressants mate. Hope you see a positive change in these ones but keep going until you find the right one for you ❤️.
 
Since my Mam died back in 2011, I've had ongoing issues with what I'd class as anxiety. Since my Dad died in 2020, I seem, especially recently to have lost the plot fundamentally.

I simply can't deal with every day events. I worry about my wife driving to/from work, I've developed ridiculous "health' anxiety...I had pain in my side a few weeks back. I broke down in tears when we were shopping in Sainsbury's explaining to my wife that I was unwell and scared. I've had blood and urine tests come back clear and GP reckons it's muscular.

I need to find a dentist as it's years since I've been, but I'm terrified of the cost (and treatment).

One of my knees continues to give me bother which means I can no longer run.

I'm dealing with these problems by fundamentally drinking too much. Which I know is madness. I'm on sertraline already but it appears to be making no difference.

I'm not what I'd class as depressed but I find life a real challenge at the minute. I just don't seem to be able to keep a perspective on things.
 
FatCat2402 said:
Since my Mam died back in 2011, I've had ongoing issues with what I'd class as anxiety. Since my Dad died in 2020, I seem, especially recently to have lost the plot fundamentally.

I simply can't deal with every day events. I worry about my wife driving to/from work, I've developed ridiculous "health' anxiety...I had pain in my side a few weeks back. I broke down in tears when we were shopping in Sainsbury's explaining to my wife that I was unwell and scared. I've had blood and urine tests come back clear and GP reckons it's muscular.

I need to find a dentist as it's years since I've been, but I'm terrified of the cost (and treatment).

One of my knees continues to give me bother which means I can no longer run.

I'm dealing with these problems by fundamentally drinking too much. Which I know is madness. I'm on sertraline already but it appears to be making no difference.

I'm not what I'd class as depressed but I find life a real challenge at the minute. I just don't seem to be able to keep a perspective on things.
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I was on sertraline when drinking and made no difference but now I've stopped drinking my wife says my mood is much better. Never had to deal with anxiety but it sounds horrible and maybe you need grief counselling? Try and take one step at a time and sending all ❤️ from our house to yours mate.
 
lucky said:
I was on sertraline when drinking and made no difference but now I've stopped drinking my wife says my mood is much better. Never had to deal with anxiety but it sounds horrible and maybe you need grief counselling? Try and take one step at a time and sending all ❤️ from our house to yours mate.
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Thanks. Much appreciated
 
FatCat2402 said:
Since my Mam died back in 2011, I've had ongoing issues with what I'd class as anxiety. Since my Dad died in 2020, I seem, especially recently to have lost the plot fundamentally.

I simply can't deal with every day events. I worry about my wife driving to/from work, I've developed ridiculous "health' anxiety...I had pain in my side a few weeks back. I broke down in tears when we were shopping in Sainsbury's explaining to my wife that I was unwell and scared. I've had blood and urine tests come back clear and GP reckons it's muscular.

I need to find a dentist as it's years since I've been, but I'm terrified of the cost (and treatment).

One of my knees continues to give me bother which means I can no longer run.

I'm dealing with these problems by fundamentally drinking too much. Which I know is madness. I'm on sertraline already but it appears to be making no difference.

I'm not what I'd class as depressed but I find life a real challenge at the minute. I just don't seem to be able to keep a perspective on things.
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Calm yourself down, it won't be anywhere near to what you seem to believe.

Speak to a GP/medic about the situation. Loss of one parent can lead to insecurity, never mind both which easily leads to what you're going through - one thing builds up then leads to another. Begin with a GP chat then he/she will point you in the right help direction. Such events can lead to the other personal issues you mention, get on to your GP & explain. You'll be referred for a chat to open it up. But calm yourself down about it.

Cut back or steer clear of the drink for a while that also worsens things in your own mind.
 
70s traveller said:
Calm yourself down, it won't be anywhere near to what you seem to believe.

Speak to a GP/medic about the situation. Loss of one parent can lead to insecurity, never mind both which easily leads to what you're going through - one thing builds up then leads to another. Begin with a GP chat then he/she will point you in the right help direction. Such events can lead to the other personal issues you mention, get on to your GP & explain. You'll be referred for a chat to open it up. But calm yourself down about it.

Cut back or steer clear of the drink for a while that also worsens things in your own mind.
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Thanks. I'd love to calm down. This gives you an idea of how bonkers I am.

I worry about how I'm going to cope with if/when I really am unwell. I'm 56 and worried about how I'll cope with the worry of ill health if/when I get to 70. In other words I'm already worried about being worried 😂

And then I start to worry that this has the potential to spiral into an absolute mental mess.
 
FatCat2402 said:
Thanks. I'd love to calm down. This gives you an idea of how bonkers I am.

I worry about how I'm going to cope with if/when I really am unwell. I'm 56 and worried about how I'll cope with the worry of ill health if/when I get to 70. In other words I'm already worried about being worried 😂

And then I start to worry that this has the potential to spiral into an absolute mental mess.
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Mate, that isnt uncommon. But it cant rule your life. This is coming from someone just coming out of a major breakdown, its just how you are currently wired. Somewhere inside you you know its not as bad. Its just all the good stuff is buried among this horrible thing called depression. have you talked to anyone? A therapist or something? That will help.
 
TheStinger said:
Mate, that isnt uncommon. But it cant rule your life. This is coming from someone just coming out of a major breakdown, its just how you are currently wired. Somewhere inside you you know its not as bad. Its just all the good stuff is buried among this horrible thing called depression. have you talked to anyone? A therapist or something? That will help.
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I've had counselling before, but found it quite difficult to be honest. I'm an absolute control freak which doesn't help.
 
FatCat2402 said:
Thanks. I'd love to calm down. This gives you an idea of how bonkers I am.

I worry about how I'm going to cope with if/when I really am unwell. I'm 56 and worried about how I'll cope with the worry of ill health if/when I get to 70. In other words I'm already worried about being worried 😂

And then I start to worry that this has the potential to spiral into an absolute mental mess.
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There you go again, bringing yourself down. You aren't bonkers it's human natural reaction which takes one thing to another. Don't worry about things that haven't happened. Your brain's working overtime so give it something else to do to stop thinking like this :D I'm serious about that. But I'll repeat about the drink it could be your worst enemy with this.
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I've had counselling before, but found it quite difficult to be honest. I'm an absolute control freak which doesn't help.
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Well tell that to whoever you speak with about it, it will help.
 
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Strange when you consider how many people are on waiting lists for things like autism and ADHD, with some adults sometimes waiting up to 7 years to be told they have something most already know they have as they've felt different all their lives.

What they're really saying is that things like anxiety and depression may be overdiagnosed, but they're completely ignoring all the other things that are still underdiagnosed because of funding cuts that lead to resource issues and little research to make diagnosing people more accurate and efficient.
 
FatCat2402 said:
Since my Mam died back in 2011, I've had ongoing issues with what I'd class as anxiety. Since my Dad died in 2020, I seem, especially recently to have lost the plot fundamentally.

I simply can't deal with every day events. I worry about my wife driving to/from work, I've developed ridiculous "health' anxiety...I had pain in my side a few weeks back. I broke down in tears when we were shopping in Sainsbury's explaining to my wife that I was unwell and scared. I've had blood and urine tests come back clear and GP reckons it's muscular.

I need to find a dentist as it's years since I've been, but I'm terrified of the cost (and treatment).

One of my knees continues to give me bother which means I can no longer run.

I'm dealing with these problems by fundamentally drinking too much. Which I know is madness. I'm on sertraline already but it appears to be making no difference.

I'm not what I'd class as depressed but I find life a real challenge at the minute. I just don't seem to be able to keep a perspective on things.
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Listen, especially since Covid, health anxiety is a very real and recognised condition and can very much be brought on by loss.

What dose of medication are you on? Wonder if a temporary increase might help. Go talk to your doctor.

Good luck and remember you can always come on here and sound off. Sometimes putting it in writing can sort of put it into perspective.
 
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Listen, especially since Covid, health anxiety is a very real and recognised condition and can very much be brought on by loss.

What dose of medication are you on? Wonder if a temporary increase might help. Go talk to your doctor.

Good luck and remember you can always come on here and sound off. Sometimes putting it in writing can sort of put it into perspective.
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Thanks. I felt a bit better after posting on here last night. I spoke to Mrs FC(no) today about seeking help for how I'm feeling. She agrees it would be a good thing, so I'm going to speak to the GP tomorrow hopefully
 
FatCat2402 said:
Thanks. I felt a bit better after posting on here last night. I spoke to Mrs FC(no) today about seeking help for how I'm feeling. She agrees it would be a good thing, so I'm going to speak to the GP tomorrow hopefully
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Glad to read that you're feeling better. start your positive progress & keep us informed on here. Begnning the initial stages will take some self-pressure out of your head.

Good man for taking that step 👍. Regards to Mrs(no) for backing you with it, it sometimes takes both of you to take control in these matters.
 
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