Suicide must be a dark place

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A mate of mine killed himself late last year and to this day nobody knows why ......... His daughter put a video on social media this morning and it really hit home that we didnt know how much of a dark place this lad was in

Just think your head must be in the worst place ever to do this and the aftermath you leave for family and friencs is just crazy.

This lad was in a bitter war with his ex over his older daughter but was re married and had other family that is now just destroyed really

Really affected me this morning watching that video and just thinking how lucky i am really
 


You never know do you. I’m sorry to hear it mate. My cousin a young lad of 27 did last month. He was a lovely young lad and I cared a lot about him. He was due up at my house for a drink the day he was buried. Past month has been awful. I can’t stop thinking about him. Would never have thought he would do something like this. Always seemed happy.
 
MonkeyLove said:
Isn’t it when people seem at their happiest you have to really watch out?

Usually an indication they have made a decision on their way out
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Jesus thats not good, I didnt even think of it that way

You could have a point this lad had just had a cracking christmas where he had his older daughter at his with his new family and seemed really happy
 
MonkeyLove said:
Isn’t it when people seem at their happiest you have to really watch out?

Usually an indication they have made a decision on their way out
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I don't think there is any black or white answer to that. I think those are the ones you don't see coming so more of a shock whereas many are often known to have had demons for years
 
Friday is twelve months since my sister.

It was recorded as a drugs related death as the coroner couldn’t conclusively say she’d intentionally took her own life but that’s the only way I can see it.

You’re right, it’s f***ing horrific for the family, worse than people just dying. Every day I struggle with, what more could I have done, what more should I have done, what would I change if I could go back 1 year ago, 3 years ago, 5 years ago.... she was getting her life back on track as well and was beautiful young woman. Her three kids have to be the focus but fuck me it’s hard work keeping it all together all the time.

You mentioned in the OP that it was a breakdown in his relationship and custody battle. It’s a similar story time and time again. People need to start doing what’s right and not what scores them the most f***ing points.

Her last words to her kids were, see you Friday with a big smile on her face. Her last Facebook posts were full of positivity about her future.
 
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Goat Eyes said:
Friday is twelve months since my sister.

It was recorded as a drugs related death as the coroner couldn’t conclusively say she’d intentionally took her own life but that’s the only way I can see it.

You’re right, it’s f***ing horrific for the family, worse than people just dying. Every day I struggle with, what more could I have done, what more should I have done, what would I change if I could go back 1 year ago, 3 years ago, 5 years ago.... she was getting her life back on track as well and was beautiful young woman. Her three kids have to be the focus but fuck me it’s hard work keeping it all together all the time.

You mentioned in the OP that it was a breakdown in his relationship and custody battle. It’s a similar story time and time again. People need to start doing what’s right and not what scores them the most f***ing points.

Her last words to her kids were, see you Friday with a big smile on her face. Her last Facebook posts were full of positivity about her future.
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Sorry for your loss mate thats just horrific Hope you can have the strength to stay strong for those kids

Totally agree with whole custody and break up thing its horrid what it can do to people
 
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When we were teenagers my best mate's stepdad ended his own life when he found out his wife (my mates mum) was having an affair. She was shagging a drunk waster down the street and she didn't help the difficult situation afterwards when she tried to justify it by saying it was 'only a bit of fun' and 'wasn't serious'. I don't think she appreciated how much angrier and more upset she made people.
 
Still cant and dont think i ever will get my head round why or what happened with my mate it was literally out of the blue and so shocking

Poor lad and really feel for his oldest daughter now as she seems to be struggling, Got my oldest daughter tryimg to be a good friend to her at present .... Poor Kid
 
Epping said:
I don't think there is any black or white answer to that. I think those are the ones you don't see coming so more of a shock whereas many are often known to have had demons for years
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I dont mean people in general I mean specifically if they have had suicidal ideation and then suddenly seem happy it's a watch out.

It's often pointed out how relaxed people look, ie Gary Speed, just before taking their own life. I'm sure experts have said there is often a peace people find once they have made the decision and can see a way out and usually can be seen in a dramatic change in mood
 
I've known 5 people who have taken their own life over the past 12-13 years, 3 of them in the last 2 years and they are just the ones I know personally. It does seem like more and more people are doing it and I feel like the government should be doing more, but I don't know what or how. I don't think anyone even knew what they were going through at the time.
 
Bullettooth said:
I've known 5 people who have taken their own life over the past 12-13 years, 3 of them in the last 2 years and they are just the ones I know personally. It does seem like more and more people are doing it and I feel like the government should be doing more, but I don't know what or how. I don't think anyone even knew what they were going through at the time.
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Think its the whole menatl health thing that should be done a lot better

In my job i deal with the crisis team and they do not do a great job at all

On the other hand they are underfunded and overwroked
 
Sorry for your losses all on this thread, genuinely saddened.

A lass I was at school with posted about her brother earlier today. He killed himself years back. There seems to be a drive to get people to talk at the moment which is good.

Take care folks.
 

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