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Themig said:
Struggling today. Maybe its a come down from the euphoria of the run yesterday but I just can't get going today. Hate it when I feel like this
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I know exactly what you mean, I've been the same today. Hope you feel better soon.
 


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I'm okay, had a bit of a wobble this morning, started trying to mentally talk myself out of leaving the house but I managed to sort my head out and got to work on time :neutral:. I hope we get a win tonight as that will certainly lift my mood, got a hug off my little boy and that made me feel better. I isolate myself, the only people I see are family and work colleagues (I don't really have many friends tbh, most of them drifted away when I was in the grips of serious depression as I wasn't up to seeing folks).
Canny sad really, I spend most weekends alone and I wouldn't care - I'm a nice, friendly woman but I have terrible self esteem issues and worry too much.
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Take care sorry to hear about this
 
look out piano said:
I'm okay, had a bit of a wobble this morning, started trying to mentally talk myself out of leaving the house but I managed to sort my head out and got to work on time :neutral:. I hope we get a win tonight as that will certainly lift my mood, got a hug off my little boy and that made me feel better. I isolate myself, the only people I see are family and work colleagues (I don't really have many friends tbh, most of them drifted away when I was in the grips of serious depression as I wasn't up to seeing folks).
Canny sad really, I spend most weekends alone and I wouldn't care - I'm a nice, friendly woman but I have terrible self esteem issues and worry too much.
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Well done for getting out the house, that's a hard job when you feel like that but you managed it! As hard as it seems it's better to break everything down into small pieces, be proud that you were able to fight it this morning. The same with what you've been saying about losing weight, try not to think about the overall amount as that will just overwhelm you. Break it down into smaller, more achievable goals if you know what I mean?
 
mackem_jo2 said:
Well done for getting out the house, that's a hard job when you feel like that but you managed it! As hard as it seems it's better to break everything down into small pieces, be proud that you were able to fight it this morning. The same with what you've been saying about losing weight, try not to think about the overall amount as that will just overwhelm you. Break it down into smaller, more achievable goals if you know what I mean?
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Thanks jo, I need to get more active tbh as I'm only hitting about 60% of my daily activity target but I'm so big I get tired easily.
 
Dinsdale said:
was that the nobber that said if you do over 2 hours or something you shouldn't be allowed to take part :lol: I'm sure all those people who raised hundreds of thousands for charity dressed in inflatable dinosaur suits etc would call that post for what it was; utter bullshit.

And well done for doing it. You're an inspiration to lazy twats like me who have never done it.
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Wonder what they'd make of this effort - 5 days to complete

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-tyne-37332178
 
The mind is a cruel thing.

I don't want to name names, but someone I know had a big day yesterday and was really anxious about it. They had a massive panic attack yesterday morning and rang me in floods of tears claiming they were going to stay in all day because they couldn't do it. Managed to calm them down and convince them to have a cuppa then leave home and just go to where they were supposed to be and see how they got in. They did that and once they got there, they got involved with people and their mind was taken off the panic and negative feelings and they ended up having a good day!

Just wanted to share and encourage people to overcome obstacles. It's easy to hide in the house (I know, I've done it myself!) but if you make the effort, you can tell all the stupid negative thoughts to fuck off and enjoy yourself. Be strong today folks and see where it takes you xx
 
Ceverton said:
I am sure there are many symptoms of depression, I know this because I used to use some of these symptoms for sick notes at my last job :lol:

However in recent weeks I am so so antisocial. I dont want to interact with anyone face to face unless I have to. I have been going for jogs in the woods at 6am rather than 10am gym session as cant be bothered to talk to people. Mates ask me for a pint or even just to pop something round their house and I will do everything to avoid doing it. Today I have to go out to the game, its a bit of a dread and if it wasnt for my dad paying for my season ticket, I would watch it on tv so I dont have to talk to loads of people. I dont know if its a confidence thing?
Didnt have the best weekends either. Sure I have low testosterone or something as have absolutely no motivation to do owt, so unlike me to 6 months ago.
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You sound like me :lol:
 
ErichZann said:
You sound like me :lol:
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That's because if the truth be known, you scrape away a few layers of veneer and we're all pretty much the same under the skin.

Some are better at hiding it, or have come to terms with life.

It takes time to accept who you are and what you are. How you fit in to the great big jigsaw puzzle of life. Eventually you realise that's what you are. One tiny weensy piece of a massive puzzle. In one way as insignificant as owt, but then as important as any other piece and annoying as hell when it's missing but a joy when it turns up.

Well that's my thoughts anyway, if you don't agree you can just fuck right off :lol:
 
look out piano said:
Me neither, but I just get mentally daunted when I think about the 140lbs+ I need to lose.
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Best not to think about the 140lbs, you can't boil the ocean. Manageable goals. And there'll be times you won't hit each manageable goal but that's ok. If you're sticking to the process you can be proud of that, and know you'll get there in time. Each little thing adds up.
 
Can I recommend a book to you, please, @look out piano? (and anyone)


Pretty reasonable on Amazon and I think will be even cheaper if you find a copy on ebay. It's really helped me, and talks about how you define success in one section. The guy worked with athletes like Chris Hoy and Victoria Pendleton. He has them approach it by taking pleasure and gratification in the process, rather than being concerned with what time they might ride 3 years down the line, because 3 years down the line is currently irrelevant and if you measure your success today by that you will feel shit about it. But if you focus on being a little bit better today than you were yesterday the days, weeks and months add up.

It's a common trait among people who are really good at anything. Including things as personal as losing weight.

The rest of it is about managing your emotions through understanding the parts of our psychology that make us feel the way we do sometimes, and just understanding that we always have choices regarding our happiness and the influences we let into our lives. Every time I read a section of it and am reminded that I always have a choice I feel a lot better.
 
yorkyexile said:
What you playing?And get out and get it played, theres that much to concentrate on you1ll have a whale of a time and be too busy to even notice your actually socializing
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Aw bless ya.
I'm learning the fiddle in the Irish trad style.
Already play violin, past history of Youth Orchestra etc, but the fiddle is a completely different method of playing so while I'm technically able, the difference is hard.
A lot of technique to learn (and unlearn)
First lesson went well tho..... Will see how it goes

Charmless Man said:
Can I recommend a book to you, please, @look out piano? (and anyone)


Pretty reasonable on Amazon and I think will be even cheaper if you find a copy on ebay. It's really helped me, and talks about how you define success in one section. The guy worked with athletes like Chris Hoy and Victoria Pendleton. He has them approach it by taking pleasure and gratification in the process, rather than being concerned with what time they might ride 3 years down the line, because 3 years down the line is currently irrelevant and if you measure your success today by that you will feel shit about it. But if you focus on being a little bit better today than you were yesterday the days, weeks and months add up.

It's a common trait among people who are really good at anything. Including things as personal as losing weight.

The rest of it is about managing your emotions through understanding the parts of our psychology that make us feel the way we do sometimes, and just understanding that we always have choices regarding our happiness and the influences we let into our lives. Every time I read a section of it and am reminded that I always have a choice I feel a lot better.
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Guy Martin is another one who swears by that book.

(I proper fancy him too :oops:)
 
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Bad_mother said:
Aw bless ya.
I'm learning the fiddle in the Irish trad style.
Already play violin, past history of Youth Orchestra etc, but the fiddle is a completely different method of playing so while I'm technically able, the difference is hard.
A lot of technique to learn (and unlearn)
First lesson went well tho..... Will see how it goes



Guy Martin is another one who swears by that book.

(I proper fancy him too :oops:)
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no offence meant but for years I have wanted to post fiddle Dee Dee.

it's off my chest now
 
Charmless Man said:
Can I recommend a book to you, please, @look out piano? (and anyone)


Pretty reasonable on Amazon and I think will be even cheaper if you find a copy on ebay. It's really helped me, and talks about how you define success in one section. The guy worked with athletes like Chris Hoy and Victoria Pendleton. He has them approach it by taking pleasure and gratification in the process, rather than being concerned with what time they might ride 3 years down the line, because 3 years down the line is currently irrelevant and if you measure your success today by that you will feel shit about it. But if you focus on being a little bit better today than you were yesterday the days, weeks and months add up.

It's a common trait among people who are really good at anything. Including things as personal as losing weight.

The rest of it is about managing your emotions through understanding the parts of our psychology that make us feel the way we do sometimes, and just understanding that we always have choices regarding our happiness and the influences we let into our lives. Every time I read a section of it and am reminded that I always have a choice I feel a lot better.
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I've been to a talk by him.
 
Charmless Man said:
Can I recommend a book to you, please, @look out piano? (and anyone)


Pretty reasonable on Amazon and I think will be even cheaper if you find a copy on ebay. It's really helped me, and talks about how you define success in one section. The guy worked with athletes like Chris Hoy and Victoria Pendleton. He has them approach it by taking pleasure and gratification in the process, rather than being concerned with what time they might ride 3 years down the line, because 3 years down the line is currently irrelevant and if you measure your success today by that you will feel shit about it. But if you focus on being a little bit better today than you were yesterday the days, weeks and months add up.

It's a common trait among people who are really good at anything. Including things as personal as losing weight.

The rest of it is about managing your emotions through understanding the parts of our psychology that make us feel the way we do sometimes, and just understanding that we always have choices regarding our happiness and the influences we let into our lives. Every time I read a section of it and am reminded that I always have a choice I feel a lot better.
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Was about to ask where the book was/what it was called until I quoted you and it showed up, remoting onto my home machine is a bit of a nightmare with the browser but it means work can't see I am on the pornhub :lol: book

I read Neil Armstrong's biography a couple of month back and that was real inspirational. Without being too egotistical I'm pretty proud of myself considering the position I was in at the end of May to where I am now.
 
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Charmless Man said:
Can I recommend a book to you, please, @look out piano? (and anyone)


Pretty reasonable on Amazon and I think will be even cheaper if you find a copy on ebay. It's really helped me, and talks about how you define success in one section. The guy worked with athletes like Chris Hoy and Victoria Pendleton. He has them approach it by taking pleasure and gratification in the process, rather than being concerned with what time they might ride 3 years down the line, because 3 years down the line is currently irrelevant and if you measure your success today by that you will feel shit about it. But if you focus on being a little bit better today than you were yesterday the days, weeks and months add up.

It's a common trait among people who are really good at anything. Including things as personal as losing weight.

The rest of it is about managing your emotions through understanding the parts of our psychology that make us feel the way we do sometimes, and just understanding that we always have choices regarding our happiness and the influences we let into our lives. Every time I read a section of it and am reminded that I always have a choice I feel a lot better.
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It's a shame quite a number don't realise or see it.
The world would be a much better place.
 
Came back with a thud this. Been ok for a few months, stopped taking the tablets, suddenly a split from my wife on August 20th and I'm as low now as I can ever remember. Serious suicidal thoughts, googling ways to do it and shit, fuckin gutted being back in this place. Going to docs next wed to get back on tablets and a stronger dose. I'm driving myself insane and can't see any future, shit times. I know in my heart I wouldn't ever commit suicide but it's having the thoughts that kill me. Awful.
 
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