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Work stress; Diazepam

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fyl2u said:
Part of my problem is that I really enjoy the work itself - it's intellectually and creatively stimulating - it's just the bullshit that comes along with it, and being paid about a third of the wage I should be getting for it.
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You need to start valuing yourself more highly. As others have said, leave asap.
 
kossoff said:
Unions FTW!
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Many of you lot have been brain washed, there is strength in numbers. Why do you think thatcher and thus government went full out to smash them, and they still are, in reality, they are terrified that the working men relearns to stand up for themselves, they are terrified that will become fashionable again. There is strength in numbers believe me, individuals can do nothing.

According to Hoyle said:
only had a weeks course doc.
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A weeks course, and you're an expert? It has side effects some of them quite frightening.
 
redgauntlet said:
Many of you lot have been brain washed, there is strength in numbers. Why do you think thatcher and thus government went full out to smash them, and they still are, in reality, they are terrified that the working men relearns to stand up for themselves, they are terrified that will become fashionable again. There is strength in numbers believe me, individuals can do nothing.


A weeks course, and you're an expert? It has side effects some of them quite frightening.
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My comment was serious. I am a Union rep and used a senior rep in work today in fact.
 
redgauntlet said:
Many of you lot have been brain washed, there is strength in numbers. Why do you think thatcher and thus government went full out to smash them, and they still are, in reality, they are terrified that the working men relearns to stand up for themselves, they are terrified that will become fashionable again. There is strength in numbers believe me, individuals can do nothing.
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Unions become too powerful and started to hold the country to ransom ,brought most of today's woes on themselves..

They needed dealing with but thatcher ruined comunities in the process id agree on that.
 
redgauntlet said:
What if you stop it? It's ok for a short while that, is all.
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I don't use it every night. I can't switch off when av got to be up for work mainly cos am worried about getting no sleep! I start work later wed, thurs and fri so usually take it then (at the most)
 
redgauntlet said:
Many of you lot have been brain washed, there is strength in numbers. Why do you think thatcher and thus government went full out to smash them, and they still are, in reality, they are terrified that the working men relearns to stand up for themselves, they are terrified that will become fashionable again. There is strength in numbers believe me, individuals can do nothing.


A weeks course, and you're an expert? It has side effects some of them quite frightening.
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whats your problem? i made a 3 word comment. i did not claim to be an expert. i very much doubt you are either.

heres another 3 word comment

gan fist yasel.
 
fyl2u said:
Anyone needed time off work with stress that was caused by your job/workplace/bosses?

Did you manage to go back to the same job afterwards or did you have to find somewhere else to work because going back would have been too stressful?

As of Wednesday I've been off with stress, but my doctor suspects that an illness I had a few weeks back that I had thought was a virus may actually have been stress too.

So, I've been prescribed a course of diazepam over the phone by the Urgent Care Doctor at my local surgery, and have a proper doctor's appointment in a week to see how I'm going, but right now pretty much my every waking thought is stressing about going back to my job, facing the same old shit that sent me this way in the first place but with the extra added stress of worrying about talking to them about having had time off with stress.

I'd quite like to hear about other people's experiences of being in similar situations if you don't mind sharing.

P.S. Diazepam's quite good isn't it?
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I had a month off recently with stress as a direct result of irrational behaviour of my line manager. I refused medication as I felt it was not really my problem to cure. I went back and didn't say anything to work about why I had gone off but as my year end appraisal loomed I was getting edgy over what I would say. They offered me a secondment to a team nearby for 4 months which I jumped at so I felt it would be ok for the moment. I became concerned that my colleague would then get the brunt of the shit I'd been taking and did not want to do my appraisal so then went to HR and told them everything.
I then spoke with my colleague who had gone to HR after one day of our boss' nonsense and his boss too.

Result is I was also concerned it would make returning to my original role untenable but far from it. I was given the highest possible rating at my appraisal and have shown that under different line managers in my secondment I am smashing it and rewriting multi million pound contract processes within days.

Go for it. You'll be best off.
 
redgauntlet said:
Many of you lot have been brain washed, there is strength in numbers. Why do you think thatcher and thus government went full out to smash them, and they still are, in reality, they are terrified that the working men relearns to stand up for themselves, they are terrified that will become fashionable again. There is strength in numbers believe me, individuals can do nothing.
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The removal of legal aid for practically all employment disputes, means that there is renewed impetus to join a union. For the first time in years, I can foresee a situation in which membership numbers will grow sharply.
 
janiep said:
The removal of legal aid for practically all employment disputes, means that there is renewed impetus to join a union. For the first time in years, I can foresee a situation in which membership numbers will grow sharply.
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I agree. Shame they can be such a bunch of charlatans sometimes.
 
SR5 1SU said:
Im going through it myself at the minute.

Constant worry, over thinking everything and at the worst its panic attacks.

The attacks have subsided thankfully due to the meds.

Just when i feel like im getting on top of it it comes back and kicks me in the knackers. Just got to keep picking yourself up.

Exercise helps and when you talk to people about it you see how common things are.

Im still working full time at the minute but its a struggle so might look at having reduced hours.
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Sorry to hear that marra
Look up "cci what me worry" , sorry tried to paste but doesn't work on the phone.
If you want personal help to work through it self refer to your local iapt service

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Ah waddya know it pasted :)
 
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I start Cognative Behaviouroul Therapy tomorrow, doctor put me on Citalopram last week. Hopefully that'll sort me out!
 
Skandhaless said:
Sorry to hear that marra
Look up "cci what me worry" , sorry tried to paste but doesn't work on the phone.
If you want personal help to work through it self refer to your local iapt service

You must be logged on to see external links

Ah waddya know it pasted :)
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Cheers mate ill look Into it.

This mindfulness book that was mentioned earlier in the thread seems good also.

Just downloaded it before and the initial observations are spot on.

Never thought i would ever get to the stage where i was cross legged and meditating on the floor.

Beats watching shite on tv i suppose.
 
SR5 1SU said:
Cheers mate ill look Into it.

This mindfulness book that was mentioned earlier in the thread seems good also.

Just downloaded it before and the initial observations are spot on.

Never thought i would ever get to the stage where i was cross legged and meditating on the floor.

Beats watching shite on tv i suppose.
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Mindfulness is first class , I do a lot of it The NHS do the 8 session course free in many areas , I know the Durham one is called Living Mindfully .
You dont have to do mindfulness cross legged on the floor you can even do it walking or eating , anything can be done mindfully .
 
Skandhaless said:
Mindfulness is first class , I do a lot of it The NHS do the 8 session course free in many areas , I know the Durham one is called Living Mindfully .
You dont have to do mindfulness cross legged on the floor you can even do it walking or eating , anything can be done mindfully .
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What does it do mate ?

A pal at work meditates each day. Says it's the best thing ever. He also exercises for 30 mins every day. Have seen his confidence rocket and his stress levels fall through the floor
 
NewAdventuresInWiFi said:
Good luck & best wishes, the wife swears by that.

I've had C.A.T., group therapy, & individual counselling but feel beyond all that talking nonsense.

A lost cause, probably.
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Cbt is not just about talking , the vast majority of change is caused by direct experience in behavioural experiments . If the unhelpful cognition is identified closely enough and good experiments can be devised it often causes a shift that no amount if talking will.
 
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