Reading these answers, I get the impression that a lot us are around my age (mid-40s) and have just reached a new stage in our lives. Time was, a weekend without going to the match was unimaginable. If I couldn’t get to Sunderland (and often I couldn’t because I was living away), I’d turn up somewhere and watch someone – might be the local big club, might be some random non-league, but it was footie.
Now, though, two things are different. First, family. I have more commitments to more people, and have to put them first. If my wife (no) is working on a Saturday, and our daughter (behave) has an invite to a birthday party (which feels like every damn Saturday at the moment), I have to do the driving. And I can’t really tell a 5yo that she’s coming to the match instead of dressing up like a Disney princess and pratting around with her friends.
Second, I’ve seen it all. I’ve seen Sunderland win promotions, look like a competitive Premier League team, suffer awful relegations. Miraculous survivals, playoff heartbreaks, shock wins, embarrassing defeats, cup finals. Pointless pre-season tournaments in Korea, midweek trips to Oldham on the train in the snow. There’s only winning a major trophy or getting into Europe that would be new, and it wouldn’t be the same thrill now as it would have been when I was 20 because I’d struggle to persuade the Mrs that I should be buggering off to Kazakhstan for three days to watch a Europa League qualifier. You can’t keep doing the same thing every weekend for 20+ years and not find it a bit repetitive after a while.
So I’m stuck with the fact that, barring an absolute miracle, my favourite ever season will remain 95/96 (promotion, against the odds; Roker Park; time and money to get to more games than before, especially away; Euro ’96 at the end of the season; Mags blowing a 12-point lead). We’ll have better teams, play better football, we’ll never have Gareth Hall play for us again – but I’ll never have that precise combination. But, right now, there’s a daft teenager with a bit of spare beer money who is about to see his first SAFC promotion season. And 20 years later he’ll be remembering how that 2021/22 League 1 championship season was a bit special (and I’ll be telling him it can never top Grimsby away). That’s why the game survives.