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I didn’t think Men contacted each other unless there was a reason, I know women love to ring each other and talk but us blokes usually just speak to each other when there’s a reason such as making plans etc. Everyone is locked down at the minute so people are just getting on with it best they can. I’ve got a group of really good friends but we don’t speak every day, usually the odd message in WhatsApp relating to our group bet we do every week on the footy. We don’t really ring each other regularly and ask how each other are doing though, I think it’s just a bloke thing.
 


Some people need social contact more than others, personally makes no difference to me and as others have said I can pick up where I left off after not speaking to someone for ages.
 
I feel you, I was already feeling kind of cut off when I had to move away from Sunderland when I started my family and barely got to see my mates then this virus happened and I feel like I haven’t socialised for over a year despite dropping a message from time to time.

Drives me mad being stuck in with only the other half as adult company for almost a year. Try not to be so down though it’s this virus more than anything, everyone is likely feeling similar after how long it’s been other than the piss taker obviously.
 
Clean Bristow said:
In my dynamic I could go years without seeing a mate and we would pick up exactly where we left off.
Its just life to me.
The wife often questions me how this occurs but I think it is a male thing. Same as taking the piss out of mates and being polite to those who aren't too close.
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I thought that was how all blokes operated, maybe it's a generation thing.
 
freyasda said:
I've rang some no answer or reply.
I'm normally very strong minded and like my own company. Last night maybe I was thinking to deeply and started the thread in a moment of weakness I apologise to all
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Nowt wrong with this thread at all mate, I'm sure even the strongest of us have had flat and down days. I'm a regular home worker, very comfortable on my own all day just cracking on and I get days like that too. My colleagues do as well and they're the same as me. Sometimes it's good to just vent, and even though there'll be plenty of merciless but well intentioned piss taking, this place is as good as any for that. Many great threads on here over the years that have shown no matter how much our opinions divide us at times, there are some great people on here that will listen and talk and help and pull together.
 
Idly chatting over zoom or the phone isn't and never will be anywhere close to an effective substitute for face to face contact.

All these adverts and shit on the Tele where they show a family with kids chatting happily and healthily chatting away to grand parents on zoom or friends having a group chat whilst drinking and having a laugh as if it's perfectly normal are a load of utter shite and I don't know anyone who does that. Not saying it doesn't happen, I just don't think it's normal or regular
 
I’m fairly useless as at keeping in touch with people.

If someone gets in touch I reply but it’s rare that unless I’m arranging to meet someone I haven’t seen for a while it’s unlikely I’d message them to see how they are.

As for speaking on the phone 😂 I reckon if you take family out of the equation I’ve probably spoke to mates for about 10 minutes in the last 10 months.
 
During lockdown 1 we usually got on zoom on a weekend for a few hours for a bit crack and that and a few drinks, some were more keen on it than others. Did the same over the Christmas period.

Fast forward 6 months or so and it's all gone a lot quieter, tend to exchange the odd message in a group messenger chat a few times a day usually on about the football etc...not really questioning why so much as I know some people have a lot on their plates and that. Assume whenever this is all over later in the year we'll be back to how it was way before all this.
 
I have friends that live miles away - keep in touch though. I call one every week. Others from where I grew up and went to school with I am in contact via Facebook. My family are my close circle.
 
Blokes don’t talk on the phone. We use it to make arrangements or messages to give and receive information but not chatting unless there’s something wrong. If one of the lads phoned me I’d be wondering if someone was dead.
the last time I spoke to one lad on the phone was when Davey Dowel went missing and another one of the lads when is dad died. There’s nothing wrong with our relationship and I don’t think they think there is either
 
It’s a difficult time for most people. I wouldn’t write any mates off at the moment, we just don’t know what everyone is dealing with. I know that’s not always a good reason to just go radio silence on people but remember it works both ways .... have you reached out to them?
 
freyasda said:
I've rang some no answer or reply.
I'm normally very strong minded and like my own company. Last night maybe I was thinking to deeply and started the thread in a moment of weakness I apologise to all
Mods please delete this thread
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No need to apologise !

this period is affecting everyone mate. It’s not weakness to reach out and think to deeply.

I can guarantee pretty much everyone is struggling in some way at the moment
 
Sam Handwich said:
Whats app groups are the new "nights out with your mates"
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This👆been keeping in touch with a few, just daft messages to keep us all entertained in these grim times, but also got a WhatsApp group where 3 off us have video drinking session, we used to meet up on a Thursday for a pint & some bait. TBH it's been good crack kept us going, been in some right states aswell, great fun watching my mates getting berated by their wives & kids for being drunk in the house, luckily I get banished to the spare room so I don't get any grief 🤣. I've only seen a handful of mates in person over the last 10 months, mainly when out for a walk I've bumped into them, me & the Mrs have kept ourselves to ourselves, heed the advice & stay safe. We'll all be glad of a get together & a good drink once this is all over. Don't let it get you down we can get through this 👍
 
freyasda said:
Who my true friends are since last march
Never heard from some since then.
Drank went on numerous holidays away games Amsterdam ibiza tenerife Greek islands , not a f***ing word .
Are we lifelong friends or just people who we grow up with and just go our separate ways
Because I am truly disappointed in some of my so called friends
It seems the only person who I can actually call a true friend is my father
Sad times indeed
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google is your friend
 
Wouldn't take it too seriously, it appears to be something of a problem. Part of my job at the moment is to ring a list of working at home employees, to check that they are ok, and that they have no problems (work or otherwise). It is amazing the number of times I get asked if I have heard how so and so is getting on, when I suggest he (or she) rings or emails this colleague, the reply is almost always along the lines lines I don t want to disturb them they might be busy. Who the hell is busy at the moment?
 

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