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- Thread starter Maravilla
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Are you OK mate ? The thing what I have learned is time really is a healer and seems your wife is scared of losing you that's why she has rang your daughter to try and snap you out of it (if only it was that easy mate). One step at a time and you will get there
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Goat Eyes
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What Lucky says is spot on. Maybe now is time to seek outside help.
She either feels helpless, scared or worried of your behaviour and knows she and you are safe when your daughter is around.
Best of luck. You always come across as a toppa bloke.
GTG
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I really don't think that will be true, she will just know that you are actually human and have your own set of problems. Sometimes we can try too hard to hide that from our kids.
I was fortunate in that our kids (they were a fair bit older than yours) were better off staying with me, and my wife knew that and accepted it.
I've read your later posts and think you've both done a fantastic thing there and wish you both all the luck you need to put things right.
I sometimes wonder if we could have talked more and salvaged some sort of life together as a family, but she was a bit of a mess at the time and I couldn't see how the kids would benefit from having to put up with more of our nonsense. Canny few years have passed, we're all still living quite close to each other and I would say that we all now have better relationships with each other.
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Scootsie
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I’m struggling like fuck at the minute.
Wife and bairn both got that god awful virus that’s going round last week, I thought I’d gotten away with it then the next thing I know I’m blue lighted to A&E Friday night and wake up on a drip.
Had bloods done and they’ve found problems with my liver and they’re linking it to alcohol (I barely even drink), just as things started to look up a bit there’s always summit to kick you square in the stots!
Wife and bairn both got that god awful virus that’s going round last week, I thought I’d gotten away with it then the next thing I know I’m blue lighted to A&E Friday night and wake up on a drip.
Had bloods done and they’ve found problems with my liver and they’re linking it to alcohol (I barely even drink), just as things started to look up a bit there’s always summit to kick you square in the stots!
Hope you and your family start feeling better soon mate and my mam had liver problems and drank about twice a year.
Scootsie
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Thanks mate.
Hospital didn’t believe me when I said I rarely drink like! But apparently it can be linked to all sorts, type 2 diabetes and the virus itself etc.
Yeah think it was type 2 with my mam mate and yeah that definitely rings a bell because thinking back they didn't believe my mam ha.
Gazoliver
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Wishing you a speedy recovery
Five-Quarter
Midfield
Some rough times going on eh. All the best to all....trivial this....
I know it's Monday tomorrow
But does anyone get a crushing dread on waking up? It happens every day now. Even carefree Saturdays lying ahead. Now am dreading the dread
When it's a work day am setting the alarm earlier than needed as I know it passes but takes a little while
Not sure it's right but can't identify an easy 'cure'
I know it's Monday tomorrow
But does anyone get a crushing dread on waking up? It happens every day now. Even carefree Saturdays lying ahead. Now am dreading the dread
When it's a work day am setting the alarm earlier than needed as I know it passes but takes a little while
Not sure it's right but can't identify an easy 'cure'
Think it might be because your changing your life so may take time to adjust.
Five-Quarter
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Oh yeh mebbe. Been going on maybe a year but worse this last 2 or 3 months
Could be my brain still a bit haywire. For obvious reasons
Ah well that's different mate that's a long time a year , have you seen anyone about anxiety as it really sounds like that.
Five-Quarter
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GP - was the reason for my last visit. And prescribed trazadone. Works a bit. Doesn't mix with alcohol at all well. Jesus. Another reason to avoid
You've just reminded me to me book first Talking Changes appt actually
Good luck with that mate and hope it goes well when you get the appointment
.Five-Quarter
Midfield
Had a bit bother with the stuff. Quite bad on and off for a good while
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Was speaking to the ex wife not long ago and she said about my eldest remembering you being pissed.
Supposedly she's even worried about me when they go on hols next week so it must be a thing that bothers her still, even tho I haven't lived there for 5 years
The youngest two not though
Proper gutted, even though I did really know deep down
Maybe when she's older I'll talk to her about it
rey mysterio
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Hope everyone is doing okay. New job continues to go well and I’ve passed two more exams so I’m close to getting my diploma now. However my mother is being an arsehole to me again taking the piss out of my apparent “mental disease” asking why I never told her I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder (which I haven’t - nee idea where she heard that from).
Also went to my DD rehab course finally which made me feel much better after what happened. Certainly learned my lesson but it took me a long time to accept it was only a mistake and though something bad could have happened, it didn’t. The guilt absolutely crippled me for months but I’ve come to terms with it now and will never put myself in such a position again.
Also went to my DD rehab course finally which made me feel much better after what happened. Certainly learned my lesson but it took me a long time to accept it was only a mistake and though something bad could have happened, it didn’t. The guilt absolutely crippled me for months but I’ve come to terms with it now and will never put myself in such a position again.
Five-Quarter
Midfield
Caitous of posting on this thread now tbh as tend to find people post once and then flee
Can understand the mother bit. Been ridiculed for years by mine. Simply can't accept there's a problem somewhere.
Tried texting again earlier to say there's an issue here and can't you help. Nope we don't help idiots. Killed my father 20 odd years ago that approach
Have no one else and have humiliated myself with work. Not sure I've been so down. Weekend alone and nowt to do. Think it will get bad again
Sounds like you're making progress there mind. It's a long road
rey mysterio
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Ah sorry to hear. I know the old adage of even just getting out for a walk gets knocked about but it does help massively. And this thread has helped me out a lot
I spoke at length about this with someone and it seems mothers don’t seem to understand that men in todays society do struggle. I often look at my own kids and think if they ever felt the way I’ve felt in the past I’d never forgive myself.
Five-Quarter
Midfield
Not even sure it was a 1950s thing so a hangover from the war, I wasn't born till the 70s
By the age of 21 my dad had gone. The absolute humiliation of it being on the news. Every twat knew. The entire community
Haven't dealt with it. Just buried it so deep I still don't know the anniversary. I can find out from the news reports but am not going to do that 25 years later
He was my hero. The man who would do anything for me. First pint, first Sunderland game, first shave, everything
Am weeping now just typing it
We've been through a lot you've missed you stupid stupid bastard
Anyway my mother is no use to anyone. Got it in my head I won't care for her when she's too old. Didn't care for me when I needed it so she can feck right off
There ends tonights tale of woe
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