• The first stage of the forum upgrades has now been completed but they remain in a degraded state and are still being worked on.
    Please read this thread for more details.
    New user registrations are currently disabled.

Depression

Status
Not open for further replies.

mackem1989 said:
Been coping worse than usual, my body’s physically slowly giving in on me week by week have a fairly new diagnosis to deal with which will make me a shadow of myself eventually permanently on crutches or use of a chair, it’s hit my mental health due to this more the embarrassment of someone my age who’s been fit etc body giving up.
Click to expand...
Mate I am so sorry and never ever be embarrassed or try not to be , I went through the embarrassment stage so I know it's awful place to be in , how are you coping day to day if you don't mind me asking as personally it's like groundhog day for me sometimes.
 
lucky said:
Mate I am so sorry and never ever be embarrassed or try not to be , I went through the embarrassment stage so I know it's awful place to be in , how are you coping day to day if you don't mind me asking as personally it's like groundhog day for me sometimes.
Click to expand...
At the moment I’m spot on mate it’s a (yesterday I wasn’t class)strange thing, as days I can be fine and others I cant get out of bed so I’m “normal” then I’m not 😂 think that’s the worst part as I can be walking about then next day I’m goosed. I’m on steroids and morphine like which does help.

That’s why it hits my mental health as don’t know what I’m getting to day.

Hope you are okay mate.
 
mackem1989 said:
At the moment I’m spot on mate it’s a (yesterday I wasn’t class)strange thing, as days I can be fine and others I cant get out of bed so I’m “normal” then I’m not 😂 think that’s the worst part as I can be walking about then next day I’m goosed. I’m on steroids and morphine like which does help.

That’s why it hits my mental health as don’t know what I’m getting to day.

Hope you are okay mate.
Click to expand...
Thank you for asking yeah managed to walk to the harbour today and wow that sounds like a lot going on for you. Do you find anything that helps you when you feeling low ? I have started going to this men's group and bless they all a canny age and am only 41 but it's an eye opener for me as some of these blokes got nothing at all no health no family absolutely nothing kinda heartbreaking 😢.
 
Hey folks. Haven’t posted in a while on here. I packed the sertraline in a few weeks ago as I knew I was feeling sad (my dad keeps telling me this is what I call depression, I dunno, sadness kind of describes my feelings better) but I think the antidepressants were dulling the senses and I’m ok with being sad, as I know what causes it. It’s entirely situational depression in my case…related to splitting with a person I love, but it was a ‘big’ love that consumed me and my personality. I’m slowly convincing myself that she treated me like shit and didn’t just allow me to forgive, forget and move on. She’d get back in contact after a few weeks or a month and we’d end up back in bed with me feeling ecstatic and hopeful, just to be dropped after a week or so. I think she got some sort of narcissistic pleasure out of building me back up and then dropping me, which would lead to days and nights of basically pleading. So although we’ve been separated for months I haven’t been able to heal because the old wound would be reopened every so often. I’m not really embarrassed by my pathetic behaviour, but I am aware it’s pretty crap.

Dunno why I’ve rambled on, but it helps to get it out I find.

Keep on keeping on smb brothers/sisters.

Ben
 
jedi_toaster said:
Hey folks. Haven’t posted in a while on here. I packed the sertraline in a few weeks ago as I knew I was feeling sad (my dad keeps telling me this is what I call depression, I dunno, sadness kind of describes my feelings better) but I think the antidepressants were dulling the senses and I’m ok with being sad, as I know what causes it. It’s entirely situational depression in my case…related to splitting with a person I love, but it was a ‘big’ love that consumed me and my personality. I’m slowly convincing myself that she treated me like shit and didn’t just allow me to forgive, forget and move on. She’d get back in contact after a few weeks or a month and we’d end up back in bed with me feeling ecstatic and hopeful, just to be dropped after a week or so. I think she got some sort of narcissistic pleasure out of building me back up and then dropping me, which would lead to days and nights of basically pleading. So although we’ve been separated for months I haven’t been able to heal because the old wound would be reopened every so often. I’m not really embarrassed by my pathetic behaviour, but I am aware it’s pretty crap.

Dunno why I’ve rambled on, but it helps to get it out I find.

Keep on keeping on smb brothers/sisters.

Ben
Click to expand...
Well done Ben mate for at least knowing what your problem is even though it doesn't make things easier at the minute it's a starting point. How do you feel without the sertraline? As for embarrassed mate don't be it's just human nature wanting to be loved so you not alone in that aspect at all ♥️ . If anyone can treat you that way knowing they are hurting you that's just sad and doesn't sound like your ex is mentally stable either or even worse she is mentally stable and that makes it even worse. Hang in pal and always someone on here who will message you back if you ever down.
 
lucky said:
Well done Ben mate for at least knowing what your problem is even though it doesn't make things easier at the minute it's a starting point. How do you feel without the sertraline? As for embarrassed mate don't be it's just human nature wanting to be loved so you not alone in that aspect at all ♥️ . If anyone can treat you that way knowing they are hurting you that's just sad and doesn't sound like your ex is mentally stable either or even worse she is mentally stable and that makes it even worse. Hang in pal and always someone on here who will message you back if you ever down.
Click to expand...
Thanks mate. She’s not stable. That’s the issue. I was always there for her breakdowns but over time they just got directed at me. And her cognitive dissonance at her behaviour led her to blame me for everything. I was constantly accused of narcissism and gaslighting. To the point where I text my ex wife (of 23 years) to ask her if she thought I was a controlling narcissist…she really didn’t).

I feel better without the sertraline tbh. Clearer headed. I’m embracing the hurt and pain and using it to heal and grow. I don’t really want to be numbed and feel the only way to get better is to keep on with the broken relationship. It’s not the way. I can keep telling myself that now, and with a clearer head open to more emotion I’m feeling better. This is definitely not encouragement for people to flush their medication as with mental health everyone has their own unique and equally valid causes. I just knew the drugs weren’t working for my growth. Feeling like I wanted to cry but being unable to was torture. Tell you what though, the side effects of stopping can be brutal. I’m suffering from ‘brain zaps’ if I turn my eyes or head too quickly. I remember it from years ago when I flushed the citalopram (funnily enough that was straight after meeting her and falling in love straight away). I think my problem is I’m a hopeless romantic. 🤷🏼‍♂️ always will be. I’m not changing that just because it’s been abused.
 
jedi_toaster said:
Thanks mate. She’s not stable. That’s the issue. I was always there for her breakdowns but over time they just got directed at me. And her cognitive dissonance at her behaviour led her to blame me for everything. I was constantly accused of narcissism and gaslighting. To the point where I text my ex wife (of 23 years) to ask her if she thought I was a controlling narcissist…she really didn’t).

I feel better without the sertraline tbh. Clearer headed. I’m embracing the hurt and pain and using it to heal and grow. I don’t really want to be numbed and feel the only way to get better is to keep on with the broken relationship. It’s not the way. I can keep telling myself that now, and with a clearer head open to more emotion I’m feeling better. This is definitely not encouragement for people to flush their medication as with mental health everyone has their own unique and equally valid causes. I just knew the drugs weren’t working for my growth. Feeling like I wanted to cry but being unable to was torture. Tell you what though, the side effects of stopping can be brutal. I’m suffering from ‘brain zaps’ if I turn my eyes or head too quickly. I remember it from years ago when I flushed the citalopram (funnily enough that was straight after meeting her and falling in love straight away). I think my problem is I’m a hopeless romantic. 🤷🏼‍♂️ always will be. I’m not changing that just because it’s been abused.
Click to expand...
Sorry mate just got in and I think long term relationships you both just get to see the worst of each other through time it's just if it's worth fighting for and what you have said I think you need a clean break bit that's totally upto you as you will know best. I get the numbness feeling as I stopped but I was drinking heavily at the time so that will not have helped. Don't ever change mate but more importantly don't ever change for someone else ( like try to be someone your not ) when you meet someone else in time that maybe years , months even days you just never know who is round the corner. Good luck with everything and you will get through this mate 👍.
 
Can anyone help me out I'm arrived on holiday tonight but on the plane I had a spell where I started sweating loads all of a sudden and my breathing not great I do get this at times in the house for no apparent reason I'm wondering if it could be panic attacks.
 
chopsfc007 said:
Can anyone help me out I'm arrived on holiday tonight but on the plane I had a spell where I started sweating loads all of a sudden and my breathing not great I do get this at times in the house for no apparent reason I'm wondering if it could be panic attacks.
Click to expand...
The only panic attack on my hands sorted started to fold in not sure if that's the same and this was drink/drug induced so maybe not the same. I really hope you get sorted pal and someone can help you on here as I am lost with things like this. Enjoy your holiday as well mate and sorry for late reply.
 
chopsfc007 said:
Can anyone help me out I'm arrived on holiday tonight but on the plane I had a spell where I started sweating loads all of a sudden and my breathing not great I do get this at times in the house for no apparent reason I'm wondering if it could be panic attacks.
Click to expand...
Sounds like an anxiety attack. I’ve only had one real panic attack in my life and it felt like I was about to die and I didn’t know why. They pass, that’s all I can say. It’s like a bad trip. All you can do is ride it out and try to stay present in your mind, telling yourself you’re not going to die, it’ll be fine. Hopefully you’re with someone that can calmly talk you down when they happen.
 
jedi_toaster said:
Sounds like an anxiety attack. I’ve only had one real panic attack in my life and it felt like I was about to die and I didn’t know why. They pass, that’s all I can say. It’s like a bad trip. All you can do is ride it out and try to stay present in your mind, telling yourself you’re not going to die, it’ll be fine. Hopefully you’re with someone that can calmly talk you down when they happen.
Click to expand...
It's bizarre it happens in the house as well and I don't feel worried about anything in particular just totally random
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top