Flash Gordon
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Called in sick to work for the 2nd day in a row. Spent most of the time in bed, can't face it. Just feel exhausted and hopeless. Can't see how anything is ever going to get better.
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Pij
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No shame in taking time off, better to recognise that you need some recovery time than push yourself to jump through hoops and run yourself down. I understand exactly how you feel, some days there isn't even a reason for it, it just comes out of nowhere and knocks me on my arse, days on end in bed hiding from the world, I realised though that unless I was sleeping all that time, I'd be ruminating instead, which made things a shitload worse. Hard to face the world when you don't have the motivation even to have a wash and get dressed, took every bit of strength to do it but I sat out in the garden on the back step, had a fag and a brew, it didn't fix anything, but it did help to give my mind something else to chew on besides worst case scenarios of immense paranoia. I'd say that would be the first step, to not consciously allow yourself to be too isolated in your environment. It does get better.
efcarentwe
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Whoever said exercise helps is bang on.
Been home from London properly just under 4 weeks and I've been in the gym six days a week . Do 11k fast walking on incline ( I started doing 6 k) followed by 40 minutes to an hour in the pool. I've lost just over a stone and a half already and feel much better
I've got a decent daily routine up early and bed by 11 so I'm already off that awful night shift body clock . Couldn't give 2 fucks about my ex now either .
I've only drank 3 times in 4 weeks but only once to excess . And cut out crisps and chocolate and takeaways that I munched on working nights
Eat 3 times a day now and still eat well . And allow myself a chippy and roast dinner at the week end.
I'm still taking fluxetine though and will do so for 6 months .
I'll look for s job properly at the end of May once in fully back to my old self .
Having good family support helps big time
Good luck
Been home from London properly just under 4 weeks and I've been in the gym six days a week . Do 11k fast walking on incline ( I started doing 6 k) followed by 40 minutes to an hour in the pool. I've lost just over a stone and a half already and feel much better
I've got a decent daily routine up early and bed by 11 so I'm already off that awful night shift body clock . Couldn't give 2 fucks about my ex now either .
I've only drank 3 times in 4 weeks but only once to excess . And cut out crisps and chocolate and takeaways that I munched on working nights
Eat 3 times a day now and still eat well . And allow myself a chippy and roast dinner at the week end.
I'm still taking fluxetine though and will do so for 6 months .
I'll look for s job properly at the end of May once in fully back to my old self .
Having good family support helps big time
Good luck
hiroftm
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No shame in calling in sick mate, do work know the reasons behind you calling in sick? Have you spoken with your GP about getting a sick note for some extended time off.
I'm sorry if you've already posted any of this but I may have missed it. I found that the routine of work helped me, I didn't (don't) enjoy work but it ensures I get out of bed for something and naturally I interact with people at work which also helps but it is different for everyone.
Try to use your time off work to do something, even if it's just getting up and going for a walk, seeing family etc. I know (i've been there) that is easier said than done but please try not to spend all your time in bed.
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Pij
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I found once I'd gotten into a good diet and routine I was able to exercise, my problem is keeping up with it, it's a major uphill battle; got myself to the point where I'm the biggest I've ever been, now feel too self conscious to step foot in a gym, hoping to shed a few pounds at home trying to eat sensibly before I tackle that hurdle. I will say though once you've got your foot on the ladder it's s massive boost, getting your foot on the ladder to begin with though can be an utter nightmare.
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TAFKAHM
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Im having those days now and again, its been shit at work recently, new rotas, new factory and we have taken too much on, stressed out to fcuk some days, then another IVF sometime this summer, thank god SAFC beat the mags to put a smile on my face...small things and all that..
efcarentwe
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listen mate don't worry about other people in the gym . My weight 4 weeks ago was at my biggest nearly 20 stone . . I need to lose 5 1/2 stone ( 4 stone left to go ) nobody in my gym looks twice actually I've been complimented as people have noticed my slight loss so far . It's easier said than done but between 13th feb and 9 March I was on self destruct and even thought about killing myself I was that low . I left London and my job for good on March 13th and thought fuck it , time to act now I'd wallowed for 4 months . I haven't looked back. And hopefully I never will .
I know the weight loss will slow down soon and it will get harder for me . But I don't deprive myself stuff you enjoy ( odd pint , chippy) or I'd crack and then binge but set goals and crack on . I listen to podcasts to help cure boredom on the treadmill . It helps big time .
But your right getting the foot on the ladder is difficult I joined this gym 1st feb went once then didn't bother til March 14th.
Good luck
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becs
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It's little things that seem to feel like big things.
On Saturday the sewer blocked and the microwave broke and I felt like crying my eyes out, even though I only use the microwave for defrosting and warming milk up and I've not really missed it!
Win at the weekend helped massively, I got a PB running round the village loop, had a good day with family on Monday and I'm on my way home after a good day in York railway museum. Make the most of the good things and try and be stronger through the bad things.
yorkyexile
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How did it go with telling your bird matey?
Flash Gordon
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Nah, work don't know. My place don't really do compassion and admitting a problem to them would just go down as weakness. My sickness record isn't bad so I don't really need to explain it to them.
Only been to my GP once about this and he put me on sertraline and give me some self help info. After stopping the sertraline after the 6 worst weeks I've had, I decided to use the self help and go it alone. I've been doing fine but the last couple of days knocked me on my arse from nowhere.
On my way back in to work this morning but it's a struggle.
hiroftm
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I'm yet to explain it to her mate, I haven't felt the need just yet. She goes travelling to New Zealand very shortly and the last thing I want is her feeling bad about leaving me or worse. She needs to enjoy travelling and not have to worry about me at home.
At the same time since talking to some family and a friend things have picked up considerably and I'm feeling loads better, I still have the episodes but I don't get anywhere near as low currently. Let's hope this continues.
And this is part of the problem, people are scared of admitting to mental health issues in the work place because of exactly this and it's utterly f***ing ridiculous.
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yorkyexile
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Good to hear matey. Hope it keeps picking up for you
hiroftm
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Cheers marra.
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johnson
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Anyone get big lows after big highs? The derby was an immense day, but due to the come down of joy and drink, struggled this week with a few things. Feel a bit better today, see how it goes.
hiroftm
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Yup, big highs on an emotional level appear to have the same impact. But more than the emotional high of say a Sunderland win, it's more the emotional high of being happy, being in a happy relationship, when things in life start to appear well and good, that's when it strikes me the worst.
Aye, felt shit the last couple of days. Over thinking things is mainly what gets me.
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Deleted User 17809
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To what degree do you find running/exercise helpful in fighting depression?
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becs
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It's a combination of the endorphins that are released when you exercise and being outside in green spaces.
Often I've been keener on stopping in but then if I do that, I kick myself for not going for a run later on. If I make the effort and get out, I feel a lot happier in myself. I'm not that good at running and I doubt I'll ever be one of the first to cross the finish line but setting my own little personal goals and achieving them helps.
hiroftm
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I think this is a big one (amongst everything else you've said). Exercise is a good way to help gain some confidence back. When you set a goal and achieve it, you feel better, combine this with the fact you will feel better, healthier and fitter. It's a good combination to help you on your way.
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Deleted User 17809
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I think its time for me to get my running shoes out.
Used to run 3 miles a day but life and laziness got in the way to the point where I stopped exercising altogether.
Also going to start going out on Mountain Bikes with my lass.
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