Depression

[70s traveller]

I find it incredible that people take the piss out of someone's Ill health.

Most of the local Councils are struggling to find people to fill roles. Might be worth you checking out whether there are any jobs you could apply for.

Shows them up for what they are [ - I used "what" deliberately].

Re: the 2nd line. There are positions out there that are a better fit so enquire, shy bairns get nowt (or so the saying goes).

 

[Becs]

I trust you've reported them and they've been banned. I find it incredible that people take the piss out of someone's Ill health.

Most of the local Councils are struggling to find people to fill roles. Might be worth you checking out whether there are any jobs you could apply for.

They've not been banned.

Thanks for the local council tip. I'll have a look on job listing sites later on. I've updated my CV today.

 

[FatCat2402]

They've not been banned.

Thanks for the local council tip. I'll have a look on job listing sites later on. I've updated my CV today.

That very poor form. I hope the mods sort it out. No-one should be subjected to pisstaking about health issues

 

[70s traveller]

That very poor form. I hope the mods sort it out. No-one should be subjected to pisstaking about health issues

Exactly right. Making negative comments or stupid remarks about someone's health & wellbeing is sickening.

 

[CPLforever]

After a really long wait I had my first meet with a CPN today, lovely chap and a MLF which was a bonus.
I cried for about 40 minutes on and off but I feel a bit of relief tbh.
Big hugs to you all, keep on keeping on my loves

Great. Was it a triage appoint? Any sort of talking therapy can be difficult. You can, in my experience, dread it because you know it is going to take it out of you, crying for 40 minutes can do that. However, it is cathartic and you do need to rest and look after yourself afterwards.

Sending you love and support xx

I’ve had my first appointment with a psychiatrist today. He’s confirmed I have panic disorder and prescribed me Pregabalin alongside my Mirtazapine. Anyone had any experience of this drug?

Has he recommended any therapy or does he think the medication alone should do the job?

 

[look out piano]

Great. Was it a triage appoint? Any sort of talking therapy can be difficult. You can, in my experience, dread it because you know it is going to take it out of you, crying for 40 minutes can do that. However, it is cathartic and you do need to rest and look after yourself afterwards.

Sending you love and support xx

Has he recommended any therapy or does he think the medication alone should do the job?

It was a self referral and I had an initial telephone appointment about 8 months ago and gave waited for an actual face to face cpn appointment.
Thank you for the kind words and support my love xx

 

[CPLforever]

Struggling. I went through menopause way too early because I had surgery to remove my uterus and ovaries as I had endometriosis and PMDD. Menopause has badly affected my joints. I have osteoarthritis now and it's affected my bladder. I'm struggling to do my job as my joints and my body aches so much. I'm on my feet all day and it's a physical job with some heavy lifting. I've had to buy flat old lady shoes as my feet hurt so much.

I'm also in an active crohn's flare. As well as bowel pain, extreme wind and diahorrea, the flare also causes inflammation in joints, fatigue and I've got open sores in my mouth. I'm on a high dose of prednisolone to try and settle that down. The side effects of that drug include insomnia, extreme hunger and fatigue.

This week I've caught a cold. As I'm immunosuppressed, I struggle to fight off simple bugs. I've got chest pain, thick mucus and a cough from that.

I'm struggling to do my job and struggling to do things around the house. The bairn has been helping out, but she's behind in her A-Levels due to the school disruption from RAAC so I feel guilty being a burden on her when she's stressed about school. I've been applying for less physical jobs, but not had any luck yet.

Work in general is bad. Combination of having to do school runs to Durham twice a day as there are no buses and there are roadworks everywhere, so I waste so much time stuck in traffic. I'm stressed all the time about work and getting it done. I'm freelance and paid per call, so the longer I spend sitting in the car, the less calls I can do and the less I earn. There's only my wage coming in and I need to support my daughter. I can't afford to take sick leave as ESA is about £70 a week and I wouldn't get any help with housing as I'm in a mortgaged home. It's a ballache claiming it as you have to jump through hoops and be interrogated to prove you really are sick and I can't be arsed with the hassle of the DWP.

It's all got to me today. I've burst into tears several times and I've just had enough of feeling unwell and struggling to work.

My watch has a body battery and measures body stress. As a comparison, here's today compared with one of the days I was off work in October.

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Oh sweetie that all sounds bloody monstrous. My impression of you is of a strong capable woman, but let's face it all of that piled on is enough to bring the best of us down. Work through it. You can do it. Meanwhile, sometimes, just sometimes it's good to have a good wallow and a good feel sorry for yourself, force's you to take a step back from everything and excuse to just look after yourself for a change (mam duties aside of course)

Yeah, but apart from that......?

Oh apart from that everything is just hunky dory

What's that supposed to mean ?

Oooh I thought he was being that joshing sympathetic way. Sure he is.

 

[Five-Quarter]

I trust you've reported them and they've been banned. I find it incredible that people take the piss out of someone's Ill health.

Most of the local Councils are struggling to find people to fill roles. Might be worth you checking out whether there are any jobs you could apply for.

Must admit my place cannot fill 2 vacancies

Lots of agency work in the public sector I think at the moment

Anyway, another week all. Take care etc

 

[FatCat2402]

Must admit my place cannot fill 2 vacancies

Lots of agency work in the public sector I think at the moment

Anyway, another week all. Take care etc

There's also a serious issue with reliability with a lot of younger people. No idea why

 

[Five-Quarter]

It was a self referral and I had an initial telephone appointment about 8 months ago and gave waited for an actual face to face cpn appointment.
Thank you for the kind words and support my love xx

I was gonna ask you a couple of times over the weekend about stuff but was seriously not the threads for such matters

Mainly just picking up on the odd thing is al Hope all is a bit better etc

 

[ouro]

Okay. Here is a thing. I have mood swings, in fact I am notorious for them. Also I have two brothers, one older, one younger - and we all share anger management problems. Currently, I am fine. On an even keel. But my younger brother (53) took a huge overdose on Friday night. Luckily, his son came home early and called an ambulance, but fuck. How do I advise anyone about these things? I was round there earlier (he is home now) and some of the things he was saying were shattering. 'I wish I'd done a proper job of it', and 'I should have realised *sons name* was coming home'. His wife is terrified to leave him alone, and I am terrified in case the phone rings.

 

[CPLforever]

Okay. Here is a thing. I have mood swings, in fact I am notorious for them. Also I have two brothers, one older, one younger - and we all share anger management problems. Currently, I am fine. On an even keel. But my younger brother (53) took a huge overdose on Friday night. Luckily, his son came home early and called an ambulance, but fuck. How do I advise anyone about these things? I was round there earlier (he is home now) and some of the things he was saying were shattering. 'I wish I'd done a proper job of it', and 'I should have realised *sons name* was coming home'. His wife is terrified to leave him alone, and I am terrified in case the phone rings.

Sorry to hear about this, you must be devastated.

Mood swings could be anything including hormones and dehydration. Are they and you and your brothers moods pronounced and substantial? Like bipolar or less, 100 moods a day, quick to anger, smallest thing can drag you down, impulsive behaviour. That could be something like borderline personality disorder. Anything diagnosed?

I would presume the hospital would have called for a mental health assessment, if they felt he was a real danger to himself they might have sectioned him. Of course I am only commenting on what you have said, only a trained professional can diagnose these thinks and it can take a couple of years of assessments and interviews.

Meanwhile, maybe a referral, through his GP to the crisis team, if he's done this he is obviously in crisis.

 

[70s traveller]

I'm also really sorry to hear about it.

The hospital should have called for a mental health assessment, if they felt he was a real danger to himself they might have sectioned him. Of course I am only commenting on what you have said, only a trained professional can diagnose these thinks and it can take a couple of years of assessments and interviews.

Meanwhile, maybe a referral, through his GP to the crisis team, if he's done this he is obviously in crisis.

That is the course of action to look at. Have professional investigations done via a gp referral if that course has not already been arranged/begun. Prompt action needs to be looked at.

FAO Ouro, take further advice yourself to remain on top of it becuse witnessing such episodes begin all sorts of thoughts.

 

[lucky]

Okay. Here is a thing. I have mood swings, in fact I am notorious for them. Also I have two brothers, one older, one younger - and we all share anger management problems. Currently, I am fine. On an even keel. But my younger brother (53) took a huge overdose on Friday night. Luckily, his son came home early and called an ambulance, but fuck. How do I advise anyone about these things? I was round there earlier (he is home now) and some of the things he was saying were shattering. 'I wish I'd done a proper job of it', and 'I should have realised *sons name* was coming home'. His wife is terrified to leave him alone, and I am terrified in case the phone rings.

That is terrible mate and so so sorry to hear this. Do you know what pushed him that far this time to try that ? I would honestly push to get him sectioned so he can have 24 hrs suicide watch and the help he needs .

 

[70s traveller]

There's also a serious issue with reliability with a lot of younger people. No idea why

That is the key factor these days, they think another job is just around the corner. Sooner or later their cv will tell any prospective new employer not to touch if reliabilty is on their agenda.

That is terrible mate and so so sorry to hear this. Do you know what pushed him that far this time to try that ? I would honestly push to get him sectioned so he can have 24 hrs suicide watch and the help he needs .

If anyone is admitted/presents over such issues the routine medical course is to refer it to the right channels. Check though to ensure it's been done.

 

[lucky]

@Becs so sorry just got back to you, my daughter says unfortunately they have stopped hiring for customer services as the third party company up the road who took calls on behalf of EDF (Kura) have lost the contract so EDF are taking all them on instead. I am so sorry and I have asked for her to let me know when they are taking on again.

 

[Becs]

@Becs so sorry just got back to you, my daughter says unfortunately they have stopped hiring for customer services as the third party company up the road who took calls on behalf of EDF (Kura) have lost the contract so EDF are taking all them on instead. I am so sorry and I have asked for her to let me know when they are taking on again.

No worries mate and thank you for asking.

Someone has sent me a link to a page that posts work from home jobs. I've had a quick skim through but I'm going to work through it properly later and see if there are any I can apply for.

Not had a good day today and I've been really struggling again. Can't fight this cough/cold bug off and the crohn's flare isn't settling down.

I had work booked in until the 19 Dec, so I decided not to book any more work in and take two weeks off over Christmas. Usually I work up till the 23rd, get really stressed and end up absolutely exhausted for the big day. Really need a break and looking forward to doing things I'll have time to do like festive baking and watching festive films and stuff like that. Now fielding calls from people begging me to work and trying to persuade me to change my mind. I just want a rest.

 

[Hendon Mad Frog]

Really struggling again at the minute to the point I can’t get much if any sleep.

Had a meeting sprung on us at work with 48 hours notice and it sounds like big changes to our role that won’t suit my or most of the teams strengths.

Got a baby on the way in a few months time and I’m just stressed to bits about potentially having to find another job around the same time.

Find out tomorrow how bad it is I guess…

 

[lucky]

No worries mate and thank you for asking.

Someone has sent me a link to a page that posts work from home jobs. I've had a quick skim through but I'm going to work through it properly later and see if there are any I can apply for.

Not had a good day today and I've been really struggling again. Can't fight this cough/cold bug off and the crohn's flare isn't settling down.

I had work booked in until the 19 Dec, so I decided not to book any more work in and take two weeks off over Christmas. Usually I work up till the 23rd, get really stressed and end up absolutely exhausted for the big day. Really need a break and looking forward to doing things I'll have time to do like festive baking and watching festive films and stuff like that. Now fielding calls from people begging me to work and trying to persuade me to change my mind. I just want a rest.

Don't give in my mate , take that time off as you need it. Ahhhh mate I am so sorry for you struggling and if there is anything at all I can help with just let me know. Good luck with that job as well and fingers crossed .

Really struggling again at the minute to the point I can’t get much if any sleep.

Had a meeting sprung on us at work with 48 hours notice and it sounds like big changes to our role that won’t suit my or most of the teams strengths.

Got a baby on the way in a few months time and I’m just stressed to bits about potentially having to find another job around the same time.

Find out tomorrow how bad it is I guess…

Mate same goes to you as well anything I can help with please just ask. Workwise I took far too much on and turned into a raging alcoholic that nearly killed me , please don't turn into me mate especially with a little one on the way as you have far to much to lose.

 

[CPLforever]

No worries mate and thank you for asking.

Someone has sent me a link to a page that posts work from home jobs. I've had a quick skim through but I'm going to work through it properly later and see if there are any I can apply for.

Not had a good day today and I've been really struggling again. Can't fight this cough/cold bug off and the crohn's flare isn't settling down.

I had work booked in until the 19 Dec, so I decided not to book any more work in and take two weeks off over Christmas. Usually I work up till the 23rd, get really stressed and end up absolutely exhausted for the big day. Really need a break and looking forward to doing things I'll have time to do like festive baking and watching festive films and stuff like that. Now fielding calls from people begging me to work and trying to persuade me to change my mind. I just want a rest.

My Christmas this year will consist of lying about in my onsie eating quality Street.

One of the reasons you can't fight off this buggy cold thing is probs got something to do with stress and I had a friend who had Crohn's and she said it could flare during stressful periods. Not sure if that could be the case with you also.

So resist those calls asking you to work. Hang on in there and make the most of your rest period when it arrives. (Maybe not onsies and Quality Street tho)