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It's these type of cases that make most people cynical when people are really depressed. It's easy to fool doctors anarl. I was signed off work after my marriage failed, I didn't have depression, just felt down in the dumps.

Mental illness is easy to put on. And I imagine theirs a large portion of people currently taking anti-depressants don't have depression at all.
 

For people who are genuinely depressed it must be an awful thing, but in my experience it's used as an excuse for the bone idle to get out of work. Depression, stress and bad backs terrify employers and tend not to question them. And for people not working it keeps the dole off their case.
 
TheWanderer said:
It's these type of cases that make most people cynical when people are really depressed. It's easy to fool doctors anarl. I was signed off work after my marriage failed, I didn't have depression, just felt down in the dumps.

Mental illness is easy to put on. And I imagine theirs a large portion of people currently taking anti-depressants don't have depression at all.
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Exactly. f***ing massive difference between being really depressed and just feeling shite cos something's happened, sadly people often fail to acknowledge this and think that medication is gonna sort social circumstances out.
 
Never had depression so it's hard to comment, I have had severe stress caused by work and struggling to juggle everything. Ended up having panic attacks which freaked me out as they'd come at times when I wasn't particularly stressed like when I got in to bed at night. Went to docs in end, got some beta blockers which worked immediately, and managed to come off them after a short while after a good family holiday. Not had anything much since, but it's always in the background and makes you aware that even when you think you are strong, things can change fast and it's easy to be tipped.

We don't do ourselves any favours in this modern life, sitting staring at screens all day and wasting time on here, or worrying about what we don't have that we think will make us feel better. It's thoroughly unrewarding.

I have a lot to be thankful for but would struggle to say I'm completely happy with it all, but only I can make the changes i need to. Got to get a better work:life bance is the main thing, and do something more rewarding in the time I do have. I have ideas of what, but can't say I've auctioned any of them really.

Not much to do with the OP, just a blurb!
 
Alan BStard said:
Fella down the road says he's got depression, he's persuaded the GP to sign him off because he's got depression, his marriage is bust (completely his fault, cant keep his cock in his pants) and he says this is depressing him. He's 50 and got a back problem (which doesn't stop him doing anything he wants to if he feels like it) and this depresses him. There is more but I'll spare you. He's all over Facebook yakking on about his depression and how people who haven't had it don't understand.
Scuse me pal but I think you have an advanced case of feeling sorry for yourself, not depression....there's a difference. I kind of fancy those with proper depression don't run up and down the street telling all and sundry about it.

Or am I a cynic?
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An initial reaction to depression is often to tell everyone to try to seek compassion and soothing . Often this unfortunately results in alienating others and a then a sense of withdrawal and isolation sets in . So basically your a cynic , yes.

Silverfox1981 said:
Exactly. f***ing massive difference between being really depressed and just feeling shite cos something's happened, sadly people often fail to acknowledge this and think that medication is gonna sort social circumstances out.
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You not found a new job yet :lol:
 
There is a difference.

I've had depression in the past and as you know I've had a shit ton of bad luck over the last month or so that I've struggled with at times. Yes I feel down but I'm trying to get on and sort things out. That's one of the differences - if I was depressed I would have just lost interest in everything and wouldn't be able to make the effort to do things.
 
Silverfox1981 said:
I'd refer them to talking therapies.
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Of course - but chances are you're going to get the prescription pad out as you know the wait is going to be at least 2 months

becs said:
There is a difference.

I've had depression in the past and as you know I've had a shit ton of bad luck over the last month or so that I've struggled with at times. Yes I feel down but I'm trying to get on and sort things out. That's one of the differences - if I was depressed I would have just lost interest in everything and wouldn't be able to make the effort to do things.
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They always say the most dangerous time is when you start to start to pick back up as people might then have the motivation to do something daft
 
Skandhaless said:
You not found a new job yet :lol:
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No point at the minute mate haha . I'm saving to go travelling in a couple of years so I'll review what I do when I return. Tbh I think I'll find it even harder doing my job, dealing with the people I have to atm when I've seen life in places like India etc and the way that those people live and deal with life.
 
Joe Public said:
Never had depression so it's hard to comment, I have had severe stress caused by work and struggling to juggle everything. Ended up having panic attacks which freaked me out as they'd come at times when I wasn't particularly stressed like when I got in to bed at night. Went to docs in end, got some beta blockers which worked immediately, and managed to come off them after a short while after a good family holiday. Not had anything much since, but it's always in the background and makes you aware that even when you think you are strong, things can change fast and it's easy to be tipped.

We don't do ourselves any favours in this modern life, sitting staring at screens all day and wasting time on here, or worrying about what we don't have that we think will make us feel better. It's thoroughly unrewarding.

I have a lot to be thankful for but would struggle to say I'm completely happy with it all, but only I can make the changes i need to. Got to get a better work:life bance is the main thing, and do something more rewarding in the time I do have. I have ideas of what, but can't say I've auctioned any of them really.

Not much to do with the OP, just a blurb!
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Similar thing happened to me I was on the metro on my way to work (stressful day ahead) and I felt like I was having a heart attack and couldn't breath.... It got so bad that one weekend the missus (no) basically said I was taking my stress out on her and my little lad and I needed help. I went to the docs who recommended that I go on holiday and have no access to FB, my mobile, email etc and I feel like new. Depression is a killer and doesn't get the respect it deserves because people take the piss but I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
 
Randy Ostrich said:
Of course - but chances are you're going to get the prescription pad out as you know the wait is going to be at least 2 months
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I probably would aye cos the person sitting there wants the situation fixed and medication can help, well it can help when your really depressed but if I was down on my luck, kicked out the house cos I'd been shagging about, not seeing my kids and skint then medication wouldn't resolve the bigger picture and those things.
 
Silverfox1981 said:
I probably would aye cos the person sitting there wants the situation fixed and medication can help, well it can help when your really depressed but if I was down on my luck, kicked out the house cos I'd been shagging about, not seeing my kids and skint then medication wouldn't resolve the bigger picture and those things.
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And the next consultation would probably be "Well ah took 'em fer a week an the dint werk"
 
Silverfox1981 said:
I probably would aye cos the person sitting there wants the situation fixed and medication can help, well it can help when your really depressed but if I was down on my luck, kicked out the house cos I'd been shagging about, not seeing my kids and skint then medication wouldn't resolve the bigger picture and those things.
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You are right , unfortunately these days the culture from doctors under time pressure is to cave and prescribe or to refer on for talking therapy when all that needs to be said is " well you will be sad , you have lost your job and your mum just died" . Not every sadness is a depression it's as if sadness is no longer allowed and everything can be fixed in the happy commercialised world of customer service and payment by results .
 
The poor GP does have to be careful mind. If there's 100 people turn up saying they're depressed but he thinks they're taking the piss he only has be wrong once in each of his 5 minute consultations and he's right in the shit. Same goes for many in mental health services. Make one wrong decision and someone does something throughout your entire career and job, pension, the lot is gone.
 
Read the numerous threads on here (and I'm speaking from experience with my dad) and you'll soon see the one common effect of depression is locking yourself away and not talking to anyone let alone explaining every single detail of what has caused it.

Pot Noodle said:
The poor GP does have to be careful mind. If there's 100 people turn up saying they're depressed but he thinks they're taking the piss he only has be wrong once in each of his 5 minute consultations and he's right in the shit. Same goes for many in mental health services. Make one wrong decision and someone does something throughout your entire career and job, pension, the lot is gone.
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No, surely he just had to do his job. What he is trained and paid for.
 
Joe Public said:
Never had depression so it's hard to comment, I have had severe stress caused by work and struggling to juggle everything. Ended up having panic attacks which freaked me out as they'd come at times when I wasn't particularly stressed like when I got in to bed at night. Went to docs in end, got some beta blockers which worked immediately, and managed to come off them after a short while after a good family holiday. Not had anything much since, but it's always in the background and makes you aware that even when you think you are strong, things can change fast and it's easy to be tipped.

We don't do ourselves any favours in this modern life, sitting staring at screens all day and wasting time on here, or worrying about what we don't have that we think will make us feel better. It's thoroughly unrewarding.

I have a lot to be thankful for but would struggle to say I'm completely happy with it all, but only I can make the changes i need to. Got to get a better work:life bance is the main thing, and do something more rewarding in the time I d I have ideas of what, but can't say I've auctioned any of them.
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Joe Public said:
I have ideas of what, but can't say I've auctioned any of them really.
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Guide price for bids?
 
I would say that I've not been depressed as I've seen people who are clinically depressed and they can hardly get out of bed, but I suppose there is different levels. I have wondered if I was depressed a few times, sometimes I've had very dark thoughts that I've had to put out of my head, not often but enough to make me wonder. I do think there are too many of us wondering around thinking we are depressed when we just aren't happy for some reason. I know where mine comes from, over work, take me away from work and it all goes away, so I suppose it shouldn't be too difficult to overcome, but you can get trapped in a cycle of work that's hard to get out of.

Putting my phone down and getting off Facebook would also probably help. I also go to bed at night with headphones in to drown out tinnitus, but it means I never have silence ever, I'd kill for some total silence.
 
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