Depression thread continued...

[Chubbs]

Having met you briefly, I can’t see how you would deserve that kind of treatment. As said above, it’s someone else hurt, low self esteem and vile behaviour being projected onto you.

I’d step away and only have contact to sort the kids and if that means communicating via someone else, so be it. There’s no way back from the disgusting things she’s said to you.

Cheers mate. Its a level of nasty i never expected. My kids still love seeing me though so thats all that really counts

You may not think it now mate but whenever you’re in a really bad spell, just force yourself to remember that longer term, you are and will be better off without being with somebody who is capable of saying those sorts of things.

Ive got some good people in my corner. Thank you mate

Hi Chubbs, For some reason I was reflecting on this today. That needs reporting and shared with family and friends… totally vile and unacceptable. I am guessing she wasn’t the most pleasant of individuals even before the split? Stay safe and keep your head up.

Appreciate. I knew she had nasty in her but this has been more than I ever expected. I dont know many people who have been through divorces so I guess thats how it is. Im ok and feel better for talking on here. Sometimes it really is people who you dont know and who aren't emotionally involved that you need to share with the most. Thank you all

 

[Father Jack Hackett]

You may not think it now mate but whenever you’re in a really bad spell, just force yourself to remember that longer term, you are and will be better off without being with somebody who is capable of saying those sorts of things.


Stick in there mate and keep your chin up. I can tell from your posts on here you’re an absolutely top lad and I’m sure a great dad to your daughter. I haven’t forgotten by the way that I offered forwarding you my season ticket for a match if I’m going to miss one if I’m away etc. That offer still stands, if you don’t manage to get a season ticket sorted again this summer and I end up missing any next season I will happily forward on to you. Take care mate.

Thanks very much mate, really appreciate that. You’re a good ‘un.

 

[luvulongtime]

Thanks very much mate, really appreciate that. You’re a good ‘un.

of course he is Sgt Pepper's an expert on lonely hearts

 

[kyle's left foot]

Cheers mate. Its a level of nasty i never expected. My kids still love seeing me though so thats all that really counts

Ive got some good people in my corner. Thank you mate

Appreciate. I knew she had nasty in her but this has been more than I ever expected. I dont know many people who have been through divorces so I guess thats how it is. Im ok and feel better for talking on here. Sometimes it really is people who you dont know and who aren't emotionally involved that you need to share with the most. Thank you all

This This is all that matters mate - my divorce isn’t anywhere near your level but my kids are my world and trying to rise above and be the best dad you can means so much
As others have said, and I’ve not posted a lot on here, but this is a great place to get your feelings out

I’m Teesside based but as others have said would be more than happy to meet up for a chat/beer/coffee/walk

 

[Irishblackcat]

Personally iv always had highs and lows drink dabbled with the dark side . Last few years I havent touched a drug since i met my fiance . still break out on the drink every now and then . Had some bad moments . Last few weeks , well a temper I had as a young man has started to come back thats sadend me , many through racial experiences against my partner which is a sad indictment of culture in ireland at the moment . Sad individuals but its got to me and its affecting me . And my father who was put on medication lost all his drive anti depressants for a different condition . Has since lost all motivation. This man was my rock he was a simple hardworking carpenter with a agriculture background and never stopped and after the work doctor cleared him to go back to work he just handed in his papers . Now he has no motivation hes a fit man wont come farming hardly leaves the house and looks miserable . Its heart breaking . The Man started with nothing extended the farm had several rental houses and has put a lot up for sale since he retired a few weeks ago and seems to have given up on everything . The mind is the most powerful thing someone has and its ripping me apart to see my hero like this
I apologise for venting but iv tears rolling down my face right now in a bar

 

[King Durin]

Personally iv always had highs and lows drink dabbled with the dark side . Last few years I havent touched a drug since i met my fiance . still break out on the drink every now and then . Had some bad moments . Last few weeks , well a temper I had as a young man has started to come back thats sadend me , many through racial experiences against my partner which is a sad indictment of culture in ireland at the moment . Sad individuals but its got to me and its affecting me . And my father who was put on medication lost all his drive anti depressants for a different condition . Has since lost all motivation. This man was my rock he was a simple hardworking carpenter with a agriculture background and never stopped and after the work doctor cleared him to go back to work he just handed in his papers . Now he has no motivation hes a fit man wont come farming hardly leaves the house and looks miserable . Its heart breaking . The Man started with nothing extended the farm had several rental houses and has put a lot up for sale since he retired a few weeks ago and seems to have given up on everything . The mind is the most powerful thing someone has and its ripping me apart to see my hero like this
I apologise for venting but iv tears rolling down my face right now in a bar

There is absolutely nothing to apologise for and no shame in crying. It's just one of numerous ways the body eradicated stress. If you dont mind me asking what was the reason your dad was given the anti depressant medication? So do you think with him losing his motivation that this could be a side effect from the medication and if so are the side efffects perhaps worse than the condition he was prescribed them for in the first place? I would perhaps do some research into his health and any medications he might be on and then perhaps seek advice and get another opinion from another Doctor.

 

[CPLforever]

Personally iv always had highs and lows drink dabbled with the dark side . Last few years I havent touched a drug since i met my fiance . still break out on the drink every now and then . Had some bad moments . Last few weeks , well a temper I had as a young man has started to come back thats sadend me , many through racial experiences against my partner which is a sad indictment of culture in ireland at the moment . Sad individuals but its got to me and its affecting me . And my father who was put on medication lost all his drive anti depressants for a different condition . Has since lost all motivation. This man was my rock he was a simple hardworking carpenter with a agriculture background and never stopped and after the work doctor cleared him to go back to work he just handed in his papers . Now he has no motivation hes a fit man wont come farming hardly leaves the house and looks miserable . Its heart breaking . The Man started with nothing extended the farm had several rental houses and has put a lot up for sale since he retired a few weeks ago and seems to have given up on everything . The mind is the most powerful thing someone has and its ripping me apart to see my hero like this
I apologise for venting but iv tears rolling down my face right now in a bar

Sometimes it just feels like a pile on doesn't it? And it's not venting it's getting it out. Trying to make sense of your jumble of thought swirling about in your head can help.

Like King Durin said, anti depressants can. Especially when first taken cause de-motivation, how long has he been on them? Maybe needs a bit more time until the benefits show.

You make sure you look after yersel....and if needs be come back on and rant away.

 

[Irishblackcat]

There is absolutely nothing to apologise for and no shame in crying. It's just one of numerous ways the body eradicated stress. If you dont mind me asking what was the reason your dad was given the anti depressant medication? So do you think with him losing his motivation that this could be a side effect from the medication and if so are the side efffects perhaps worse than the condition he was prescribed them for in the first place? I would perhaps do some research into his health and any medications he might be on and then perhaps seek advice and get another opinion from another Doctor.

He god hit in the head from a falling timber in our shed about two years ago and was getting sporadic fits could be months apart so had scans and all that met neurologists and different doctors scans seemed clear so couldn't figure it out and eventually came to this conclusion.
I found out today the occupation therapist had upped his dose before clearing him and thats why he had got much worse but my brother said he drove for the first time in weeks today which has cheered me up .
Hes off all the original medication now in the last few days so hopefully we will see the man i know again soon .
Been talking to a friend of mine who went through this today hes not a fan of medication not in high doses and said best thing to do is get him back out in the fresh air and out the house . I know it works for me wollowing in the house for me is the worst thing I can do . Its like staying in bed with a hangover ul just feel worse

 

[Irishblackcat]

There is absolutely nothing to apologise for and no shame in crying. It's just one of numerous ways the body eradicated stress. If you dont mind me asking what was the reason your dad was given the anti depressant medication? So do you think with him losing his motivation that this could be a side effect from the medication and if so are the side efffects perhaps worse than the condition he was prescribed them for in the first place? I would perhaps do some research into his health and any medications he might be on and then perhaps seek advice and get another opinion from another Doctor.

I believe he shouldn't be on anything of this description . But this and the man was a maintenance carpenter for the hse in ireland everyday where he would meet loads of people/ patients and hear very interesting stories everyday from several medical centers and hospitals throughout the week to living at the top of the mountain isolated with just him and my mother is also a huge shock to the mind so there must be a balance in between

 

[King Durin]

He god hit in the head from a falling timber in our shed about two years ago and was getting sporadic fits could be months apart so had scans and all that met neurologists and different doctors scans seemed clear so couldn't figure it out and eventually came to this conclusion.
I found out today the occupation therapist had upped his dose before clearing him and thats why he had got much worse but my brother said he drove for the first time in weeks today which has cheered me up .
Hes off all the original medication now in the last few days so hopefully we will see the man i know again soon .
Been talking to a friend of mine who went through this today hes not a fan of medication not in high doses and said best thing to do is get him back out in the fresh air and out the house . I know it works for me wollowing in the house for me is the worst thing I can do . Its like staying in bed with a hangover ul just feel worse

I was going to say medication is something which is meant to be healing and so shouldn't really be having such negative effects.

However I suppose having seizures and a possible brain injury is quite serious and so being prescribed a strong medication to stop the seizure is all about finding the balance between what works alongside any side effects.

At least with him driving it shows some decent improvement in his condition so try and stay positive.

Pharmaceutical drugs in my experience aren't always the answer but people go to these verbatim. I would always look into anything away from pharma medications that might work or bring improvement to any medical condition first and only use strong medications as a last resort.

 

[Ch1982]

Apologies for the self-indulgence and I can’t believe I’m typing this in a public forum but I’ve had a serious wobble of late, if my daughter wasn’t here today then I may have not been.
I don’t know about anyone else but I feel like I don’t have many, if any mates these days. I used to have a massive circle of them but I feel as I’m an embarrassment these days. I was made redundant a few months back and really struggling to get back on my feet here as all of them are successful with 2.4 children, big houses etc. I’m in a tiny house, on my Tod (apart from weekends when my daughter comes to stay), struggling to pay bills and have nothing to offer them any more, I’m not sure I ever did, then now and again find out different groups have been meeting-up socially. I don’t receive any invites of any sort any more, not even for a pint. Is this just a by-product t of getting older?
If I didn’t have my daughter and step dad to go for a couple once a week, Inloterally wouldn’t see a soul for weeks and it’s having a big effect.
I went for an interview the other day for a job I’d actually done previously and very successfully but could tell as soon as I walked in and they took a look at me, I wasn’t getting it. I’m 50 now and properly on the scrap heap.

Anyway, thanks to anyone who has had to endure this self-indulgent drivel. I’m not in the best of places and even typing this has helped, a bit.

Just catching up on the thread - sad to read this- you come across as a decent bloke on here, hope you are feeling a little better this week.

 

[lucky]

Personally iv always had highs and lows drink dabbled with the dark side . Last few years I havent touched a drug since i met my fiance . still break out on the drink every now and then . Had some bad moments . Last few weeks , well a temper I had as a young man has started to come back thats sadend me , many through racial experiences against my partner which is a sad indictment of culture in ireland at the moment . Sad individuals but its got to me and its affecting me . And my father who was put on medication lost all his drive anti depressants for a different condition . Has since lost all motivation. This man was my rock he was a simple hardworking carpenter with a agriculture background and never stopped and after the work doctor cleared him to go back to work he just handed in his papers . Now he has no motivation hes a fit man wont come farming hardly leaves the house and looks miserable . Its heart breaking . The Man started with nothing extended the farm had several rental houses and has put a lot up for sale since he retired a few weeks ago and seems to have given up on everything . The mind is the most powerful thing someone has and its ripping me apart to see my hero like this
I apologise for venting but iv tears rolling down my face right now in a bar

Hello pal don't think we have ever spoken so firstly never ever apologise for anything on this thread. My dad was my best friend until he passed so I feel that connection and I am so pleased that he drove for the first time in ages that has genuinely cheered me up . I used to use drugs but never touched anything and been sober due to ill health for over 4 years my wife told me so the ill health in a way is one of the best things that has happened to me in a weird way .
As for the temper flare ups I would be exactly the same and I would say 99% on here would be exactly the same if somebody racially abused there loved on. So on a positive ending you keep going as you sound a topper and we all behind you 1 million percent so never stop being the person you are .