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Depression thread continued...


Hello all,

I've kept a keen eye on this thread for a while (you might have seen my reactions) and tbh this month has been a bit garbage. I'm not suffering as much as you good people are but I have my moments. the psoriasis has spread to my ears and is a nightmare! I've had to draw the line under 2 women from work (not literally, that would be weird haha!). One is a very introverted ginger lass who I feel is very polite but doesn't want to know and prefers not talking to people.. should have realized when she was so non-committal about her interests/activities as I think I misread that as her not being interested, the 2nd one is a lovely little Polish lass who I was cracking on with and I suggested we should get married at the end of work one Friday and she loved it, I then offered her my number and she very politely said no (I took the positive that she was comfortable enough to and not feel threatened). So the old "what do I do now?" thoughts came back and my lack of experience anxieties and maybe a little depressed but more confusion :lol: , think I might have finally realized to stop going after people at work as it's too draining.

I got moved to another office in March from a tightly-knit team to a team that can be clique-y and bitchy.. the former office got gutted after I went so that even that place became a shell too. I understand from an employer point of view to plug gaps in people leaving (and in my case retiring) but I don't think top brass in jobs underestimate these bonds and camaraderie that is built up over a few years, I feel a bit isolated now so my attitude has been to exclude myself from the "fun" stuff that is more suited to Primary Schools and even the Xmas do (the only one I have took a rain-check on since I joined in April '22) on the plus side there is an IT apprenticeship that could give me motivation for the future.

Not going to spout much more shite here, what I would like to say to every lovely person here is you're still in the fight.. you turn up for work when you can or still drag your backside of bed and face the day and that is an achievement in itself.
 
Mr Redknapp said:
Hello all,

I've kept a keen eye on this thread for a while (you might have seen my reactions) and tbh this month has been a bit garbage. I'm not suffering as much as you good people are but I have my moments. the psoriasis has spread to my ears and is a nightmare! I've had to draw the line under 2 women from work (not literally, that would be weird haha!). One is a very introverted ginger lass who I feel is very polite but doesn't want to know and prefers not talking to people.. should have realized when she was so non-committal about her interests/activities as I think I misread that as her not being interested, the 2nd one is a lovely little Polish lass who I was cracking on with and I suggested we should get married at the end of work one Friday and she loved it, I then offered her my number and she very politely said no (I took the positive that she was comfortable enough to and not feel threatened). So the old "what do I do now?" thoughts came back and my lack of experience anxieties and maybe a little depressed but more confusion :lol: , think I might have finally realized to stop going after people at work as it's too draining.

I got moved to another office in March from a tightly-knit team to a team that can be clique-y and bitchy.. the former office got gutted after I went so that even that place became a shell too. I understand from an employer point of view to plug gaps in people leaving (and in my case retiring) but I don't think top brass in jobs underestimate these bonds and camaraderie that is built up over a few years, I feel a bit isolated now so my attitude has been to exclude myself from the "fun" stuff that is more suited to Primary Schools and even the Xmas do (the only one I have took a rain-check on since I joined in April '22) on the plus side there is an IT apprenticeship that could give me motivation for the future.

Not going to spout much more shite here, what I would like to say to every lovely person here is you're still in the fight.. you turn up for work when you can or still drag your backside of bed and face the day and that is an achievement in itself.
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Right back at yer. Keep on keeping on.
 
Mr Redknapp said:
Hello all,

I've kept a keen eye on this thread for a while (you might have seen my reactions) and tbh this month has been a bit garbage. I'm not suffering as much as you good people are but I have my moments. the psoriasis has spread to my ears and is a nightmare! I've had to draw the line under 2 women from work (not literally, that would be weird haha!). One is a very introverted ginger lass who I feel is very polite but doesn't want to know and prefers not talking to people.. should have realized when she was so non-committal about her interests/activities as I think I misread that as her not being interested, the 2nd one is a lovely little Polish lass who I was cracking on with and I suggested we should get married at the end of work one Friday and she loved it, I then offered her my number and she very politely said no (I took the positive that she was comfortable enough to and not feel threatened). So the old "what do I do now?" thoughts came back and my lack of experience anxieties and maybe a little depressed but more confusion :lol: , think I might have finally realized to stop going after people at work as it's too draining.

I got moved to another office in March from a tightly-knit team to a team that can be clique-y and bitchy.. the former office got gutted after I went so that even that place became a shell too. I understand from an employer point of view to plug gaps in people leaving (and in my case retiring) but I don't think top brass in jobs underestimate these bonds and camaraderie that is built up over a few years, I feel a bit isolated now so my attitude has been to exclude myself from the "fun" stuff that is more suited to Primary Schools and even the Xmas do (the only one I have took a rain-check on since I joined in April '22) on the plus side there is an IT apprenticeship that could give me motivation for the future.

Not going to spout much more shite here, what I would like to say to every lovely person here is you're still in the fight.. you turn up for work when you can or still drag your backside of bed and face the day and that is an achievement in itself.
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Mate you will find someone probably in the weirdest of places and when your not looking ❤️ .
Please don't say your problems is as less important than others as it is not at all mate as problems build up , anxiety and depression kicks in and before you know it you rock bottom but please keep posting on here as will be good to see how you getting on ❤️ .
 
CPLforever said:
Right back at yer. Keep on keeping on.
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Cheers mate, it's all good we are all doing our best like.

lucky said:
Mate you will find someone probably in the weirdest of places and when your not looking ❤️ .
Please don't say your problems is as less important than others as it is not at all mate as problems build up , anxiety and depression kicks in and before you know it you rock bottom but please keep posting on here as will be good to see how you getting on ❤️ .
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Very kind, don't worry I'm not playing down my demons at all. I feel I know them and have their Whatsapp details haha. If you welcome those feelings they are much easy to manage and we all have to think "we've done nothing wrong" as long as you haven't gone out to deliberately hurt someone its all good. These women will have no idea how i'm feeling but it's fine they have their own things to worry about... and i will mate.
 
Evening folks.
Hope we are as well as we can be.
Shit two days for me. Lost my job yesterday then got a call off my dad this morning telling my poor mam has got cancer.
Merry Xmas eh hahaha.
Hasn’t hit me yet but I’ve been over and told her she will be fine. What else can you say. Had a few tears in car.
Always here if anyone needs a chat. Love always Rhubarb. Xx
 
Rhubarb said:
Evening folks.
Hope we are as well as we can be.
Shit two days for me. Lost my job yesterday then got a call off my dad this morning telling my poor mam has got cancer.
Merry Xmas eh hahaha.
Hasn’t hit me yet but I’ve been over and told her she will be fine. What else can you say. Had a few tears in car.
Always here if anyone needs a chat. Love always Rhubarb. Xx
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Oh no. I am so sorry. It's been a funny year for you. Have they caught your Ma's cancer early? Is there more to find out? More tests, treatment plans etc. God sometimes the weight is just too heavy but ...keep talking.

What happened with the bloody job
 
Rhubarb said:
Evening folks.
Hope we are as well as we can be.
Shit two days for me. Lost my job yesterday then got a call off my dad this morning telling my poor mam has got cancer.
Merry Xmas eh hahaha.
Hasn’t hit me yet but I’ve been over and told her she will be fine. What else can you say. Had a few tears in car.
Always here if anyone needs a chat. Love always Rhubarb. Xx
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I am so sorry my mate and If I can help in anyway please message.
You have got to be one of the nicest posters on here and you always ask about others no matter what shit comes your way and if we had more people like you in the world it would be a better place ❤️.
We all rooting for your mam mate and let's pray she powers through this 🙏.
 
Mr Redknapp said:
Hello all,

I've kept a keen eye on this thread for a while (you might have seen my reactions) and tbh this month has been a bit garbage. I'm not suffering as much as you good people are but I have my moments. the psoriasis has spread to my ears and is a nightmare! I've had to draw the line under 2 women from work (not literally, that would be weird haha!). One is a very introverted ginger lass who I feel is very polite but doesn't want to know and prefers not talking to people.. should have realized when she was so non-committal about her interests/activities as I think I misread that as her not being interested, the 2nd one is a lovely little Polish lass who I was cracking on with and I suggested we should get married at the end of work one Friday and she loved it, I then offered her my number and she very politely said no (I took the positive that she was comfortable enough to and not feel threatened). So the old "what do I do now?" thoughts came back and my lack of experience anxieties and maybe a little depressed but more confusion :lol: , think I might have finally realized to stop going after people at work as it's too draining.

I got moved to another office in March from a tightly-knit team to a team that can be clique-y and bitchy.. the former office got gutted after I went so that even that place became a shell too. I understand from an employer point of view to plug gaps in people leaving (and in my case retiring) but I don't think top brass in jobs underestimate these bonds and camaraderie that is built up over a few years, I feel a bit isolated now so my attitude has been to exclude myself from the "fun" stuff that is more suited to Primary Schools and even the Xmas do (the only one I have took a rain-check on since I joined in April '22) on the plus side there is an IT apprenticeship that could give me motivation for the future.

Not going to spout much more shite here, what I would like to say to every lovely person here is you're still in the fight.. you turn up for work when you can or still drag your backside of bed and face the day and that is an achievement in itself.
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I think thats certainly good advice about dating in yer workplace mate.

Itl create difficulties whilst together n even more it turns to shit.

Id look elsewhere.
 
Rhubarb said:
Evening folks.
Hope we are as well as we can be.
Shit two days for me. Lost my job yesterday then got a call off my dad this morning telling my poor mam has got cancer.
Merry Xmas eh hahaha.
Hasn’t hit me yet but I’ve been over and told her she will be fine. What else can you say. Had a few tears in car.
Always here if anyone needs a chat. Love always Rhubarb. Xx
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A very long time lurker, those are 2 big blows, but as witnessed before try to roll with them like you have with other Issues. Your positive input on here is a tonic for more people than you know. Keep keeping on 👍
 
Feel like the f***ing grim reaper here the last few weeks I’ve given cpr to 2 people and witnessed another bloke fall down the stairs and get canny hurt

I’m trying to get my head round it all whilst also waiting for surgery for a tumour (benign)

Strange few weeks where I don’t even know how I feel anymore

Hope you are all well anyway and still battling.
Mr Redknapp said:
Hello all,

I've kept a keen eye on this thread for a while (you might have seen my reactions) and tbh this month has been a bit garbage. I'm not suffering as much as you good people are but I have my moments. the psoriasis has spread to my ears and is a nightmare! I've had to draw the line under 2 women from work (not literally, that would be weird haha!). One is a very introverted ginger lass who I feel is very polite but doesn't want to know and prefers not talking to people.. should have realized when she was so non-committal about her interests/activities as I think I misread that as her not being interested, the 2nd one is a lovely little Polish lass who I was cracking on with and I suggested we should get married at the end of work one Friday and she loved it, I then offered her my number and she very politely said no (I took the positive that she was comfortable enough to and not feel threatened). So the old "what do I do now?" thoughts came back and my lack of experience anxieties and maybe a little depressed but more confusion :lol: , think I might have finally realized to stop going after people at work as it's too draining.

I got moved to another office in March from a tightly-knit team to a team that can be clique-y and bitchy.. the former office got gutted after I went so that even that place became a shell too. I understand from an employer point of view to plug gaps in people leaving (and in my case retiring) but I don't think top brass in jobs underestimate these bonds and camaraderie that is built up over a few years, I feel a bit isolated now so my attitude has been to exclude myself from the "fun" stuff that is more suited to Primary Schools and even the Xmas do (the only one I have took a rain-check on since I joined in April '22) on the plus side there is an IT apprenticeship that could give me motivation for the future.

Not going to spout much more shite here, what I would like to say to every lovely person here is you're still in the fight.. you turn up for work when you can or still drag your backside of bed and face the day and that is an achievement in itself.
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Keep going mate and think your local to me if you ever need a chat
 
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mackem1989 said:
Feel like the f***ing grim reaper here the last few weeks I’ve given cpr to 2 people and witnessed another bloke fall down the stairs and get canny hurt

I’m trying to get my head round it all whilst also waiting for surgery for a tumour (benign)

Strange few weeks where I don’t even know how I feel anymore

Hope you are all well anyway and still battling.

Keep going mate and think your local to me if you ever need a chat
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Mate that's rough that and if there is anything I can do please let me know ❤️ .
 
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