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Depression thread continued...

Just over a week into sertraline and wanted to share my experience. The fatigue is real - completely wiped after work and needing to sleep. Digestive issues too, which I know are common early side effects.

On the brighter side, feeling a bit better mood-wise already, though hard to know if that's the medication, being alcohol-free for two weeks, or just the hope that comes with taking action.

To everyone fighting their mental health battles, we're stronger than we know. Keep pushing forward, keep believing in yourself, and remember that healing isn't linear.
 

5 dry days out of 7. Not brilliant but an improvement. Let's go for six next week.
Just over a week into sertraline and wanted to share my experience. The fatigue is real - completely wiped after work and needing to sleep. Digestive issues too, which I know are common early side effects.

On the brighter side, feeling a bit better mood-wise already, though hard to know if that's the medication, being alcohol-free for two weeks, or just the hope that comes with taking action.

To everyone fighting their mental health battles, we're stronger than we know. Keep pushing forward, keep believing in yourself, and remember that healing isn't linear.
My first week on it was brutal but it did get better and it did help. Sleep is still affected mind I either can't sleep or can't get out of bed.
 
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5 dry days out of 7. Not brilliant but an improvement. Let's go for six next week.

My first week on it was brutal but it did get better and it did help. Sleep is still affected mind I either can't sleep or can't get out of bed.
Well done mate be proud.

Honestly it takes time I used to smash drink and drugs like no tomorrow.

Stopped it all took a while and it was a battle but I’ve been in your shoes mate even regarding relationships.

I’m not saying it’s easy but what I am saying is you seem a strong bloke and your going to smash this.
 
I run the Sunderland group at Kayll Road, I know some of the lads that run the Houghton group and they're sound.

Try it at least once, if it's not for you then there's no pressure to keep going.
I'm on lateshift this week so can't but I have something I need to do on Saturday that will definitely mean I have a hard weekend mentally so the following week would be a good time to try it.
 
Feel like I'm going through a hell of a time with anxiety again.

Ive been off work for 7 weeks currently with it due to a lot of different factors from both work and from home. Last time I went through something like this was a couple of years ago and I go on to talking therapy reasonably quickly and it helped me no end, so when this started I asked the doctor to refer me back to them. The wait time was going to be astronomically long, so they asked for me to pursue it through work as well as that would likely take a lot less time. I had the first of my 14 sessions almost 2 weeks ago and it went well but then things have went south physically since then.

Last Tuesday I had very severe abdominal pain through the night and went to A&E on the morning and got diagnosed with appendicitis. Had to wait right through until Thursday morning for the surgery, and then unfortunately since then, I've been stuck in hospital with catheter stuck up me because I haven't been able to pee, alongside trying to physically recover from the surgery.

I think it'll come across that my mood has been very down and I'm finding it difficult being away from family properly for even a few days and worried about the short term as well because I may have to go back home with a leg catheter if I'm not able to pee properly tomorrow.

It just pisses me off that almost every time something happens to me, there is a complication which makes it twice as difficult or take twice as long to get over and its never just normal.
 
Feel like I'm going through a hell of a time with anxiety again.

Ive been off work for 7 weeks currently with it due to a lot of different factors from both work and from home. Last time I went through something like this was a couple of years ago and I go on to talking therapy reasonably quickly and it helped me no end, so when this started I asked the doctor to refer me back to them. The wait time was going to be astronomically long, so they asked for me to pursue it through work as well as that would likely take a lot less time. I had the first of my 14 sessions almost 2 weeks ago and it went well but then things have went south physically since then.

Last Tuesday I had very severe abdominal pain through the night and went to A&E on the morning and got diagnosed with appendicitis. Had to wait right through until Thursday morning for the surgery, and then unfortunately since then, I've been stuck in hospital with catheter stuck up me because I haven't been able to pee, alongside trying to physically recover from the surgery.

I think it'll come across that my mood has been very down and I'm finding it difficult being away from family properly for even a few days and worried about the short term as well because I may have to go back home with a leg catheter if I'm not able to pee properly tomorrow.

It just pisses me off that almost every time something happens to me, there is a complication which makes it twice as difficult or take twice as long to get over and its never just normal.
That's just bloody horrible....and annoying....and shitty. And no the bloody wonder your mood is low.

It will be better when you get back home cos the way you described it above they are a good support system for you.

Hang on in there. And keep chatting if you need too.
 
Feel like I'm going through a hell of a time with anxiety again.

Ive been off work for 7 weeks currently with it due to a lot of different factors from both work and from home. Last time I went through something like this was a couple of years ago and I go on to talking therapy reasonably quickly and it helped me no end, so when this started I asked the doctor to refer me back to them. The wait time was going to be astronomically long, so they asked for me to pursue it through work as well as that would likely take a lot less time. I had the first of my 14 sessions almost 2 weeks ago and it went well but then things have went south physically since then.

Last Tuesday I had very severe abdominal pain through the night and went to A&E on the morning and got diagnosed with appendicitis. Had to wait right through until Thursday morning for the surgery, and then unfortunately since then, I've been stuck in hospital with catheter stuck up me because I haven't been able to pee, alongside trying to physically recover from the surgery.

I think it'll come across that my mood has been very down and I'm finding it difficult being away from family properly for even a few days and worried about the short term as well because I may have to go back home with a leg catheter if I'm not able to pee properly tomorrow.

It just pisses me off that almost every time something happens to me, there is a complication which makes it twice as difficult or take twice as long to get over and its never just normal.
You will be ok mate..

Give me a pm if you want.. and I'm serious ..
 
I have went back into self destruct mode at the moment. Went out on my own on Friday got stupidly drunk, spent a fortune. Missed an important appointment on Saturday morning and slept most of the day.

Sunday I had my daughter, my son didn't want to come with us which hurts so afterwards met my mate in the pub because I didn't want to be by myself. Actually had a nice night out but now just burnt out and anxious about my daft impulsive behaviour so I think it will be work then straight home to bed all week.
 
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Met someone who is a distant mate of mine in the pub, He's a young un around late 20's and just had a baby with his missus.

Pretty quiet in the Pub and we had a little chit chat as you do.. He then very quiet & went to the jukebox and after his third song, I had to ask him if he was okay, as the music was pretty downbeat for a lunchtime drink.

Bottom line is, He said No, he wasn't okay and asked me if its okay to speak to me to be open up on why people don't (especially blokes) don't speak about problems as he has these mindsets about leaving.

I've not seen him the pub again since but I know he is back with his young family where he belongs and not with his 'mates' in the boozer..

It helps if you talk.
 
Today is another dark day for me, My mums birthday, I know that don't sound bad. 1996 She ran of with of with me, For 3 months. Streets are go home she rang dad.... I would go to hers till 2002... I was 13, I was left at Sanford in florida airport on me on me own, Their looked at my passport your 13 you cant fly alone, So me running round airport no sign of mum shouting mum abounded their so i had to ring farther in UK he come out out flew me home
Today is another dark day for me, My mums birthday, I know that don't sound bad. 1996 She ran of with of with me, For 3 months. Streets are go home she rang dad.... I would go to hers till 2002... I was 13, I was left at Sanford in florida airport on me on me own, Their looked at my passport your 13 you cant fly alone, So me running round airport no sign of mum shouting mum abounded their so i had to ring farther in UK he come out out flew me home
Its somthing il never forget of me jordy mum but i do miss her we only have one mum their cant be replaced but yeah she only talks to me when she desperate for money grand here grand their my dad says i i have unconditional love for mother i do agree with that.
 
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I have went back into self destruct mode at the moment. Went out on my own on Friday got stupidly drunk, spent a fortune. Missed an important appointment on Saturday morning and slept most of the day.

Sunday I had my daughter, my son didn't want to come with us which hurts so afterwards met my mate in the pub because I didn't want to be by myself. Actually had a nice night out but now just burnt out and anxious about my daft impulsive behaviour so I think it will be work then straight home to bed all week.
Oh Gennaro you really going through it aren’t you. Wonder whether change over to dark nights got anything to do with it.

OK listen. Can you go out with say 30 quid cash in your pocket. No cards are anything. Then you have set yourself a limit. Once it's gone it's gone and you have to go home. Still a canny night out but no overdrinking and no overspending.
 
Met someone who is a distant mate of mine in the pub, He's a young un around late 20's and just had a baby with his missus.

Pretty quiet in the Pub and we had a little chit chat as you do.. He then very quiet & went to the jukebox and after his third song, I had to ask him if he was okay, as the music was pretty downbeat for a lunchtime drink.

Bottom line is, He said No, he wasn't okay and asked me if its okay to speak to me to be open up on why people don't (especially blokes) don't speak about problems as he has these mindsets about leaving.

I've not seen him the pub again since but I know he is back with his young family where he belongs and not with his 'mates' in the boozer..

It helps if you talk.
Couldn't agree more it really does help if you talk and you can find the right person to listen and not judge 👍
 
Oh Gennaro you really going through it aren’t you. Wonder whether change over to dark nights got anything to do with it.

OK listen. Can you go out with say 30 quid cash in your pocket. No cards are anything. Then you have set yourself a limit. Once it's gone it's gone and you have to go home. Still a canny night out but no overdrinking and no overspending.
I am going to have to start just taking cash out if I go for a drink. I did always used to get my leisure money out on a Friday for the week and was quite disciplined about when it was gone it was gone until the next week but after the covid lockdowns I just got into the habit of using my card.
 
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