mackem1989
Striker
Let’s go for a cuppa one day soon mate. Someone to chat too may help ya.
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The soap powder
Striker
Hope your ok mate, we are all here for you to chat or sound off
CPLforever
Winger
You've been here before you've beaten it before.
Everytime it happens it gets a bit tougher, but every time you beat it you get tougher too. So, have a wee wallow, feel a bit shit then get it beat again.
Talk to us anytime you need too.
Gennaro Savastano
Midfield
I just keep making bad decisions mate. Really need to work out some way of dealing with shit better. I'm acting like a teenager not a middle aged bloke.
The soap powder
Striker
We all make bad decisions mate so dont put yourself down for that, you are in a difficult situation
Maybe just move on from this bad decision and try and make some better ones like you know you can
Like i say always open for a private in box if you want to tell me whats going on
CPLforever
Winger
Hmmmmm, bad decisions, yep know what you mean,bloody horrible isn't it, but this bad decision, like the last one you made is not the end of the world. Like the last one I made. Kept me in bed for 3 days but I got out and faced up. I know you can too.
Sorry just saw this , hope your feeling even a little bit better today mate
Hendon Mad Frog
Winger
You need to give yourself a bit grace marra. You've been through and are still going through one of the most difficult things that can happen. We're all still kids at heart making it up as we go along.
If the medication doesn't seem to be doing much anymore, speak to your GP and see if you can add something else or potentially try a different one.
Gennaro Savastano
Midfield
I have made an appointment for a medication review later in the week as I don't think they're doing much anymore. Going to join a gym this week as well so I have something productive to do when my head's done in instead of self medicating.
Batdad
Striker
Gym is a really good idea. Hope things improve for you soon mate - rooting for you over here. You're in the storm at the moment, just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
brains
Striker
You are not alone mate. When people are under high levels of stress and / or are depressed then they tend to behave less rationally.
It's very common for people to make decisions that they later regret. Whatever decisions you have made though, which you can't change - try not to dwell on them too much.
The gym or another form of exercise is always the best option. I hope it improves things for you.
For what it's worth if you're dwelling on your bad decisions and feeling bad about them, then you're one of the good guys. There's far more than you who make bad decisions and feel nothing about it.
MackemMagic
Striker
Finally bitten the bullet and self-referred for talking therapies this week - too much going on, feeling really overwhelmed and thinking stupid/bad things recently
Hope everyone feeling as well as they can be , I'm currently struggling with my walking but refusing to go back to crutches as I feel it's a step backwards.
Been prescribed Pregabs so hoping they help with my feet and legs.
Had a few days feeling sorry for myself and new I had to snap out of it as I know once I start spiralling I go downhill quickly.
Will the talking therapy be over the phone or one to one mate ?
Not been getting notifications for some reason but if I can help anybody in anyway please let me know
Been prescribed Pregabs so hoping they help with my feet and legs.
Had a few days feeling sorry for myself and new I had to snap out of it as I know once I start spiralling I go downhill quickly.
Mate that's class that yu have done that and you should be proud of yourself
Will the talking therapy be over the phone or one to one mate ?
Have you been tested for anything mate like ADHD or something ?
Not been getting notifications for some reason but if I can help anybody in anyway please let me know
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Gennaro Savastano
Midfield
I had an autism assessment in May mate.Hope everyone feeling as well as they can be , I'm currently struggling with my walking but refusing to go back to crutches as I feel it's a step backwards.
Been prescribed Pregabs so hoping they help with my feet and legs.
Had a few days feeling sorry for myself and new I had to snap out of it as I know once I start spiralling I go downhill quickly.
Mate that's class that yu have done that and you should be proud of yourself
Will the talking therapy be over the phone or one to one mate ?
Have you been tested for anything mate like ADHD or something ?
Not been getting notifications for some reason but if I can help anybody in anyway please let me know
MackemMagic
Striker
Mate that's class that yu have done that and you should be proud of yourself
Will the talking therapy be over the phone or one to one mate ?
Waiting to hear back on what the plan will be mate - appreciate the kind words
Just please keep going mate as we all behind you
I had face to face I honestly thought it wouldn't help but all I done was cry and I had it down Wear Recovery.
It honestly helped me with loads and I hope that it helps with you as well
Been thinking for a while we have mens clubs and women's clubs out there but is there any groups available to anybody out there struggling regardless of sex and if not could someone be able or willing to see how you go about doing that as I wouldn't know where to start.
It feels like we all know each other already so may not be as bad/hard to actually walk through the door
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mackinbristol
Central Defender
Congrats man. I started therapy a couple of years ago after a decade of burying my head in the sand and pretending there wasn't a problem, and if you really engage with it and take it seriously it'll be a massive help.
Not sure how old you are, but I know for a lot of people, especially older generations, there's a huge stigma about therapy. "Normal" people don't need therapy, and if you do have it you'd damn well better keep it a secret.
It's all bullshit.
Probably 30% of the people I work with are in therapy for one reason or another, and it's something we're all honest about, because mental health isn't some dirty secret any more.
Good luck to you, I really hope it helps.
Just gonna stick a quick comment in here.
I'm moving up to Sunderland in a few weeks, technically moving back as I was born there but my parents moved down south when I was a little kid, but now in my 30s I'm heading back up North.
Wanted to chuck a comment in here as while I'm in a decent place now, I have spent a good portion of my life struggling with depression and it took me a very long time to get to a good place, but I know how much of a toll it can take.
Obviously I don't know any of you lot, but if anybody on here is feeling like shit and just needs somebody to talk to, whether that's just a private message, going to grab a cuppa, or anything else, I'm always happy to lend you an ear.
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CPLforever
Winger
Just to say it find talk therapy very hard, especially at first. Would come out of the first few sessions drained and vowing never to go back. But persevere, it really helps you identify stuff, triggers, and there can be some real aaahaaaa moments.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Same here felt I was just contributing nothing then I started opening up and it really answered a few questions about why I do certain things
