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Hendon Mad Frog said:
That's a bit disingenuous marra. The waiting list is due to the NHS being run on a shoestring and autism is still massively underdiagnosed in adults.

Plenty of diagnosed autistic people have friends, partners and functional lives.

The attention seekers are the ones who diagnose themselves and post it on their Twitter bios. Those who want to be tested or diagnosed are not likely doing it for attention.
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This is probably true. I'm just venting cos I've got other worries.
 

S.S.R.. said:
Frustratingly, all the attention-seeking wankers (with pals, partners and functioning lives) who claim they have everything clog up the system so you have to go on a waiting list to get diagnosed.
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Walter Mitty tossers who'll smirk at real neurodivergent people while wearing it like a costume.
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We have been waiting since my son was at nursery to get him assessed and we are still waiting 4 years later. Luckily all his teachers so far have been really good with him and recognising the help he needs.
 
It's absolutely shocking how bad it is, considering it's a disability. Early intervention is key and I've personally seen excellent results when children are given the right support and therapy. The problem is that you can't get that without a diagnosis and the only alternative is to pay a lot of money for private diagnosis and therapy.
 
Hendon Mad Frog said:
That's a bit disingenuous marra. The waiting list is due to the NHS being run on a shoestring and autism is still massively underdiagnosed in adults.

Plenty of diagnosed autistic people have friends, partners and functional lives.

The attention seekers are the ones who diagnose themselves and post it on their Twitter bios. Those who want to be tested or diagnosed are not likely doing it for attention.
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I'm diagnosed and open, and my openess is my way of dealing with it.

I don't want to push it in people's faces, but nor am I going to hide away.

I do hope to encourage others to be open about their own mental health struggles and seek the help they need.
 
I’ve just found out my best mate and his missus are splitting up and it’s hit me like a tonne of bricks for some reason. Out of everyone I never thought they’d be the first to part ways, two really young bairns as well :( Said she just turned round last week and said she didn’t love him anymore, completely out the blue.

I think it’s just reminded me how fragile everything in life is. You can be thinking everything is dandy and then have your life turned upside down in a flash.
 
I read this thread from time to time and hope your'e all doing ok and feeling some sort of peace. Had a poor week to be honest chaps, found out on Tuesday that due to some sort of family politics from her child my great aunty died almost 9 months ago and we weren't informed. It's bad enough for me but she it's more for my mother. she loved curry and red dwarf so much respect for her, anyway a good workmate of mine left this week and i tried to take money out of an ATM yesterday and the machine swallowed it, thought never mind as i'll use google wallet to buy her something nice.. then my phone screen died because of the rain!.

a workmate of mine (who i asked out a couple of months ago) said to me "I got a friend request and a message from one of your friends" because she accepts friend requests without thinking bless her :lol: . he text her saying "You're so beautiful" out of nowhere it shook me out of feeling sorry for myself as it got me curious...She started saying his name..it's my cousin who has been in court for certain accusations and I warned her to stay well clear. Don't like slagging off family but i had to call it like i see it. I told her she had far too much sense and she'll be fine and when I told my sister about it she told me that he's in a relationship.. it did cheer me up anyway haha
I hope I didn't hijack this thread of good people working with their issues.
 
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Mr Redknapp said:
I read this thread from time to time and hope your'e all doing ok and feeling some sort of peace. Had a poor week to be honest chaps, found out on Tuesday that due to some sort of family politics from her child my great aunty died almost 9 months ago and we weren't informed. It's bad enough for me but she it's more for my mother. she loved curry and red dwarf so much respect for her, anyway a good workmate of mine left this week and i tried to take money out of an ATM yesterday and the machine swallowed it, thought never mind as i'll use google wallet to buy her something nice.. then my phone screen died because of the rain!.

a workmate of mine (who i asked out a couple of months ago) said to me "I got a friend request and a message from one of your friends" because she accepts friend requests without thinking bless her :lol: . he text her saying "You're so beautiful" out of nowhere it shook me out of feeling sorry for myself as it got me curious...She started saying his name..it's my cousin who has been in court for certain accusations and I warned her to stay well clear. Don't like slagging off family but i had to call it like i see it. I told her she had far too much sense and she'll be fine and when I told my sister about it she told me that he's in a relationship.. it did cheer me up anyway haha
I hope I didn't hijack this thread of good people working with their issues.
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Your issues are just as valid as anybody else's in this thread mate.
 
Gennaro Savastano said:
Your issues are just as valid as anybody else's in this thread mate.
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Thanks mate, hope everyone here is getting the help they need. I'm happy and glad the week is over.

We all have our crosses to bare.
Just deleted a nice lad's number because he was out with the lad who fucked our friendship back in June. He's happy to go out with him twice and not show any interest in us going out.. Seaham mags eh :). Let them both go out i've got too much self respect, if someone can't take responsibility for being a **** it's not my fault..
I feel really good because I don't feel the need to sacrifice dignity for nights out...
 
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Becs said:
Morning @Rhubarb

Plodding on and staying well here. Started exercising again on Saturday then kept myself busy doing a load of gardening yesterday.
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Evening Becs. Well done on starting some exercise!

Bairn has started boxing again and trying to get me back into it. I’ve not been well lately keep getting a bloody cold now the bairn and wife are unwell.

Run down and doing 12 hour shifts I feel low at the minute feeling sorry for myself haha.

Take care folks. Love Rhubarb. X
 
Rhubarb said:
Evening Becs. Well done on starting some exercise!

Bairn has started boxing again and trying to get me back into it. I’ve not been well lately keep getting a bloody cold now the bairn and wife are unwell.

Run down and doing 12 hour shifts I feel low at the minute feeling sorry for myself haha.

Take care folks. Love Rhubarb. X
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There's loads of colds going around the moment. Hope everyone recovers soon.

Definitely get back into the boxing. It's superb for stress relief.
 
Hendon Mad Frog said:
That's a bit disingenuous marra. The waiting list is due to the NHS being run on a shoestring and autism is still massively underdiagnosed in adults.

Plenty of diagnosed autistic people have friends, partners and functional lives.

The attention seekers are the ones who diagnose themselves and post it on their Twitter bios. Those who want to be tested or diagnosed are not likely doing it for attention.
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I'm currently looking at NHS right to choose to move things along towards finality with my own various diagnoses. A close friend took her son down south to bring finality to the lad's situation under the same scheme.

The mental health practice had a Geordie lass as a nurse. She only had to speak the once (this happened).

He looked at her and called her a "Greggs munchng charva". 🤣

Jokes aside, he was assessed as having mild Level 1 Autism (DSM-5) and AD-HD.

She's now able to move things on.
 
Hope everyone’s doing alright. Trying to stay positive but bloody hate these darker nights. It’s like impending doom is upon me. Trying to stay upbeat. Don’t want another depressed/anxiety filled Christmas!
 
MigsGoalKicks said:
Hope everyone’s doing alright. Trying to stay positive but bloody hate these darker nights. It’s like impending doom is upon me. Trying to stay upbeat. Don’t want another depressed/anxiety filled Christmas!
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Funny enough I like the dark nights, an excuse to hibernate, stay in the house, not go out.

I have this (sort of) motto "Jusqu' ici tout va bien." Which in simple terms means "so far so good". And which I see as I have got this far I can keep going.

Not sure this is in any way helping but, keep going you can do it.
 
CPLforever said:
Funny enough I like the dark nights, an excuse to hibernate, stay in the house, not go out.

I have this (sort of) motto "Jusqu' ici tout va bien." Which in simple terms means "so far so good". And which I see as I have got this far I can keep going.

Not sure this is in any way helping but, keep going you can do it.
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Will keep that in mind, cheers mate! Roll on Spring, though!
 
Hendon Mad Frog said:
That's a bit disingenuous marra. The waiting list is due to the NHS being run on a shoestring and autism is still massively underdiagnosed in adults.

Plenty of diagnosed autistic people have friends, partners and functional lives.

The attention seekers are the ones who diagnose themselves and post it on their Twitter bios. Those who want to be tested or diagnosed are not likely doing it for attention.
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It's a mistake I'm not making.

I want this all sorted.

I'm activating "Right to Chose" via the NHS to nail down all my neurodiversities.. Dyspraxia, sorted. Autism, assessment, yes. AD-HD, to be confirmed.

The last one is the condition I originally thought I had.

Without Right to Choose, 4 to 5 years.

With Right to Choose, 12 to 24 weeks.

No brainer.
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And yes I am open about it though try not to be in people's faces about it. My motivation is about other's seeking the help they need too and recognising that. It's not about attention-seeking for me.
 
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Hope everyone is doing okay. Had a bit of a wobble last few weeks which I put down to overworking myself and getting stressed about getting my car insurance sorted, but I’m now back on the road. Certainly learned my lesson from that episode, but in a weird way it feels like I’ve closed the door on a truly shit period in my life and emerged from it a better person.

Made me realise the importance of taking things one day at a time. Winning the little battles wins win the war.
 
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