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Depression thread continued...

Shambo said:
been taking half medication for a few days now, and by the end of this week I will then take that every other day to get to a point of cutting it out completely. Will be interesting to see how I feel once I am off of it.
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Do you take anything for gut health? Taking regular probiotics is meant to work wonders for depression and general mental wellbeing. It might help you deal with any withdrawal symptoms you might get.
 

Shambo said:
been taking half medication for a few days now, and by the end of this week I will then take that every other day to get to a point of cutting it out completely. Will be interesting to see how I feel once I am off of it.
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Good luck. Gan canny for a few weeks, try to avoid stressful situations (easier said than done i onow.)
 
CPLforever said:
@Shambo wondering how you are doing reducing your medication? Hope you managing.
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Yeah all good thanks. Spoke to the doc and he gave me 25mg instead of the 50mg I was on, and so I took that for 1 week, then every other day for 1 week then took it just twice in the third week. Now off completely.

Had some nights in week 3 where my sleep was pretty disturbed and I was up early, but apart from that its been fine. And the stomach discomfort has gone so I do think it was the tablets doing that.
 
Shambo said:
Yeah all good thanks. Spoke to the doc and he gave me 25mg instead of the 50mg I was on, and so I took that for 1 week, then every other day for 1 week then took it just twice in the third week. Now off completely.

Had some nights in week 3 where my sleep was pretty disturbed and I was up early, but apart from that its been fine. And the stomach discomfort has gone so I do think it was the tablets doing that.
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Great to hear ypu are doing so well but keep an eye on your moods. You know you can always come on here and chat. About anything. Talk can be as good as medication
 
FatCat2402 said:
Other than hating myself in terms of how I look, I'm actually in better form than I have been for a while. I had massive health anxiety to the point of thinking being dead would be easier than dealing with things, but I feel somewhat more positive currently.... perhaps it's the light/weather.
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I have always hated the way I look but loved it too

In terms of not being what everyone expects somone to look .....but I own it. Some one today said i looked like Annie Hhall. I'll take that over all the sneering....isn't she weird....what the hell has she got on comments
OWN IT and don't give a shit. I know it can be hard but hey


If you tried to conform. Would that make you happy?
 
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FatCat2402 said:
Other than hating myself in terms of how I look, I'm actually in better form than I have been for a while. I had massive health anxiety to the point of thinking being dead would be easier than dealing with things, but I feel somewhat more positive currently.... perhaps it's the light/weather.
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Mate so pleased your feeling better 💗 but in terms of my body I've always hated it but my wife says she wouldn't change me but don't you ever give up just remember the world is a better place for you in it because you help people on here for example I've never told anyone I hate my body ❤️
 
lucky said:
Mate so pleased your feeling better 💗 but in terms of my body I've always hated it but my wife says she wouldn't change me but don't you ever give up just remember the world is a better place for you in it because you help people on here for example I've never told anyone I hate my body ❤️
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Giving you a like because people don't understand sometimes that no matter who or how many times people around you tell you

You look great. Or you are great

Your head drags you down

I scar and mark my body frequently, but in some good therapy at the moment. Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. Really helping cope with stuff. But not helping me to stop hating every single thing about me. Just helping manage it
 
CPLforever said:
I have always hated the way I look but loved it too

In terms of not being what everyone expects somone to look .....but I own it. Some one today said i looked like Annie Hhall. I'll take that over all the sneering....isn't she weird....what the hell has she got on comments
OWN IT and don't give a shit. I know it can be hard but hey


If you tried to conform. Would that make you happy?
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I was fit as a lop 20 years ago, running 70 mile a week, cycling 200 mile a week. I was hugely confident in how I looked and felt.

I had a serious knee injury that prevented any exercise for 5 years, so I put loads of weight on. Coupled with my Dad dying and life just unravelled.

I hate myself for how fat I am. At times I'd happily just give up.
 
FatCat2402 said:
I was fit as a lop 20 years ago, running 70 mile a week, cycling 200 mile a week. I was hugely confident in how I looked and felt.

I had a serious knee injury that prevented any exercise for 5 years, so I put loads of weight on. Coupled with my Dad dying and life just unravelled.

I hate myself for how fat I am. At times I'd happily just give up.
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Losing weight can be pretty easy really and you shouldn't hate yourself for falling into this spiral. Every experience and challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow and every moment is a chance to flick the switch. It's always one small step at a time and it will always get you in a better place. Did you ever get your knee fixed?
 
King Durin said:
Losing weight can be pretty easy really and you shouldn't hate yourself for falling into this spiral. Every experience and challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow and every moment is a chance to flick the switch. It's always one small step at a time and it will always get you in a better place. Did you ever get your knee fixed?
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It's fixed to a point, but running isnt really possible unfortunately.
 
Spent my whole life chasing this "normal" which is just a myth, there is no normal as such because we are all different and thats a good thing.

I guess part of the problem is TV, social media try to tell us what's normal or body beautiful, we get bombarded with it 24/7 Girls more so and from a younger age.

I wish I could go back and tell my younger self not to worry so much about being different, to not try and act to fit in, playing a part that was expected, it just kicked the can down the road until I had to face the fact that my normal is not the same as what we see on telly.

Now I am learning to come to terms with my real personal normal, that my head is wired up a little differently to the majority, I hope if or when that improves all the other stuff does too, the self loathing for letting myself go so badly the last year for example.

But like anything I guess admitting we have an issue is the first step, then its just taking each day as they come.

Its crazy, because I can be positive for others, see the good in others and thats easy, but when I have to look inward its always the negatives or the failures and when people try to be positive to me, i find it hard to accept it.

Sorry just rambling, but the conversation above stuck home a bit.
 
chrismisterx said:
Spent my whole life chasing this "normal" which is just a myth, there is no normal as such because we are all different and thats a good thing.

I guess part of the problem is TV, social media try to tell us what's normal or body beautiful, we get bombarded with it 24/7 Girls more so and from a younger age.

I wish I could go back and tell my younger self not to worry so much about being different, to not try and act to fit in, playing a part that was expected, it just kicked the can down the road until I had to face the fact that my normal is not the same as what we see on telly.

Now I am learning to come to terms with my real personal normal, that my head is wired up a little differently to the majority, I hope if or when that improves all the other stuff does too, the self loathing for letting myself go so badly the last year for example.

But like anything I guess admitting we have an issue is the first step, then its just taking each day as they come.

Its crazy, because I can be positive for others, see the good in others and thats easy, but when I have to look inward its always the negatives or the failures and when people try to be positive to me, i find it hard to accept it.

Sorry just rambling, but the conversation above stuck home a bit.
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Probably one of the best posts I have read mate and I think a lot of people will see themselves in you , it certainly does with me ❤️
 
chrismisterx said:
Spent my whole life chasing this "normal" which is just a myth, there is no normal as such because we are all different and thats a good thing.

I guess part of the problem is TV, social media try to tell us what's normal or body beautiful, we get bombarded with it 24/7 Girls more so and from a younger age.

I wish I could go back and tell my younger self not to worry so much about being different, to not try and act to fit in, playing a part that was expected, it just kicked the can down the road until I had to face the fact that my normal is not the same as what we see on telly.

Now I am learning to come to terms with my real personal normal, that my head is wired up a little differently to the majority, I hope if or when that improves all the other stuff does too, the self loathing for letting myself go so badly the last year for example.

But like anything I guess admitting we have an issue is the first step, then its just taking each day as they come.

Its crazy, because I can be positive for others, see the good in others and thats easy, but when I have to look inward its always the negatives or the failures and when people try to be positive to me, i find it hard to accept it.

Sorry just rambling, but the conversation above stuck home a bit.
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We tell others to be kind to themselves but we can't be kind to ourselves


How effed up is that
 
chrismisterx said:
Spent my whole life chasing this "normal" which is just a myth, there is no normal as such because we are all different and thats a good thing.

I guess part of the problem is TV, social media try to tell us what's normal or body beautiful, we get bombarded with it 24/7 Girls more so and from a younger age.

I wish I could go back and tell my younger self not to worry so much about being different, to not try and act to fit in, playing a part that was expected, it just kicked the can down the road until I had to face the fact that my normal is not the same as what we see on telly.

Now I am learning to come to terms with my real personal normal, that my head is wired up a little differently to the majority, I hope if or when that improves all the other stuff does too, the self loathing for letting myself go so badly the last year for example.

But like anything I guess admitting we have an issue is the first step, then its just taking each day as they come.

Its crazy, because I can be positive for others, see the good in others and thats easy, but when I have to look inward its always the negatives or the failures and when people try to be positive to me, i find it hard to accept it.

Sorry just rambling, but the conversation above stuck home a bit.
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There isn't anything normal or remotely balanced in how the system and society has taught us to live.

Don't be too hard on yourself. If you find yourself struggling to fit in then maybe it's not you who is wired up wrongly but everyone else.
 
So in February i posted that my brother commit suicide. It’s been a massive process and it’s still a lot of up and down days. I’m coming out the other end of it now.

Personally I don’t understand depression but I do understand the other side and the effects of depression and suicide on the families left behind.

I’m not expert by any means but if anyone is ever feeling down or wants to chat please from me a private message.

I’ve been surprised cos i’ve had people come up to me at work and it’s been people who i wouldn’t expect who wanted to either talk cos they were having a bad time, their family were, and ben a few people who had lost a family member to suicide. I didn’t realise how common it was and people who I spoke to every day at work and didn’t know come and spoke to me about it.

It’s a hard thing to speak about and it’s possibly the hardest moment of your life but i’d give anything for my brother back so i’d rather someone spoke to me than do what he did.

Please dont hesitate to message me or the many other great men and women of this board cos the alternative isn’t worth thinking about!
 
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