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Depression thread continued...

Northumberland said:
In 2007 I was a wreck. Wife etc . Kids away at her new boyfriend etc.
Roughly same age .
Drank to much ,all the usual( and it is all the usual).
But aimed for bits and bobs. Small targets . Get there . Go to next . Slightly bigger.
Off to Everest next year . Big target. Saved. Got time off work through begging lol.
What am saying is make goals. You can't be happy if you don't know what will make you happy.
You need to decide what you want out of life. And fo it . However hard.
Run after your dreams.
Gid it's took me years to realise that 😆
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f***ing Everest hahaha. I can’t even enjoy just make Penshaw monument steps hahah.

Ab mate. I’m happy with what I’ve got in life and can’t grumble.

As long as the wife and bairn are ok then I’m happy with that.

Just having a bit of a vent tonight so apologies to everyone.
 

Rhubarb said:
f***ing Everest hahaha. I can’t even enjoy just make Penshaw monument steps hahah.

Ab mate. I’m happy with what I’ve got in life and can’t grumble.

As long as the wife and bairn are ok then I’m happy with that.

Just having a bit of a vent tonight so apologies to everyone.
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No apologise necessary. It's life .
I get down sometimes. But never for long like
Everest. Sorry only going to base camp 😆.
Should have put fully

Stay well. Look after yasel
 
Reet, had my neurodiverse diagnostics over the last few days.

I was diagnosed with Dyspraxia August last year.

On Friday just gone, I was given a formal diagnosis of AD-HD.

Today, I was diagnosed with DSM Level 1 ASD. I've the form formerly known as Asperger's Syndrome.

After a lost diagnosis when I was 9, years of knowing things weren't quite right and people coming to say I needed to get sorted, bullying back at school, clashes with a line manager who refused to believe me about potential AD-HD, a union rep who blurted it out in a sensitive meeting, two years beginning with mild depression, 2.5 months on the sick, six months of Cognitive Behavior Therapy and just the odd time I've sunk too much beer, I feel pure relief.

It's real, it's not a lie, and now I can begin to move on.

I'll gather some information on possible AD-HD medication though it's probably something I won't opt for and a little more on coping strategies.

But this should be the beginning of me living the rest of my life. 😌
 
Roker SOL said:
Reet, had my neurodiverse diagnostics over the last few days.

I was diagnosed with Dyspraxia August last year.

On Friday just gone, I was given a formal diagnosis of AD-HD.

Today, I was diagnosed with DSM Level 1 ASD. I've the form formerly known as Asperger's Syndrome.

After a lost diagnosis when I was 9, years of knowing things weren't quite right and people coming to say I needed to get sorted, bullying back at school, clashes with a line manager who refused to believe me about potential AD-HD, a union rep who blurted it out in a sensitive meeting, two years beginning with mild depression, 2.5 months on the sick, six months of Cognitive Behavior Therapy and just the odd time I've sunk too much beer, I feel pure relief.

It's real, it's not a lie, and now I can begin to move on.

I'll gather some information on possible AD-HD medication though it's probably something I won't opt for and a little more on coping strategies.

But this should be the beginning of me living the rest of my life. 😌
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Onwards and upwards my friend. How are you feeling with it all?
Northumberland said:
No apologise necessary. It's life .
I get down sometimes. But never for long like
Everest. Sorry only going to base camp 😆.
Should have put fully

Stay well. Look after yasel
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Watch you don’t get mistook for a Sherpa and end up at the summit carrying people’s bags marra.

Take care
 
I've applied for a flat today. It was a bit of a faff on as they use something called Homelet to check affordability. I probably won't get it but fingers crossed.


Roker SOL said:
Reet, had my neurodiverse diagnostics over the last few days.

I was diagnosed with Dyspraxia August last year.

On Friday just gone, I was given a formal diagnosis of AD-HD.

Today, I was diagnosed with DSM Level 1 ASD. I've the form formerly known as Asperger's Syndrome.

After a lost diagnosis when I was 9, years of knowing things weren't quite right and people coming to say I needed to get sorted, bullying back at school, clashes with a line manager who refused to believe me about potential AD-HD, a union rep who blurted it out in a sensitive meeting, two years beginning with mild depression, 2.5 months on the sick, six months of Cognitive Behavior Therapy and just the odd time I've sunk too much beer, I feel pure relief.

It's real, it's not a lie, and now I can begin to move on.

I'll gather some information on possible AD-HD medication though it's probably something I won't opt for and a little more on coping strategies.

But this should be the beginning of me living the rest of my life. 😌
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I recently got diagnosed. It was a relief but also has made me wonder how my life could have been different if I was diagnosed and supported as a kid. I'm reading a book about it now to try and get a better understanding and hopefully learn some coping techniques.
 
Gennaro Savastano said:
I've applied for a flat today. It was a bit of a faff on as they use something called Homelet to check affordability. I probably won't get it but fingers crossed.



I recently got diagnosed. It was a relief but also has made me wonder how my life could have been different if I was diagnosed and supported as a kid. I'm reading a book about it now to try and get a better understanding and hopefully learn some coping techniques.
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Same thoughts here as regards childhood support.

However, all I was told by an ex-teacher was perhaps more time in exams and that's it. They didn't know much neurodiversity back then.

But it might have been enough in exams to have made a little bit of a difference.
 
Gennaro Savastano said:
I've applied for a flat today. It was a bit of a faff on as they use something called Homelet to check affordability. I probably won't get it but fingers crossed.



I recently got diagnosed. It was a relief but also has made me wonder how my life could have been different if I was diagnosed and supported as a kid. I'm reading a book about it now to try and get a better understanding and hopefully learn some coping techniques.
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Good luck with flat mate and get filling those loose hours up with plenty passtimes/exercise!
 
My local that I've watched all away games in for years didn't have the game on today my only proper hobby is going home games watching the away games il struggle if I can't watch a decent amount them
 
I'm currently at a low point.

  • Been taking sertraline for the last 2 weeks, not feeling any improvement, if anything I feel worse.
  • Work life is hell, working for an MSP and continuing to get more clients but the business won't hire more resource and the majority I'm managing are outsourced and prone to f*ck ups.
  • Family have their own issues and supporting each one the best I can, while trying to work on my own.
  • Supporting men with their own issues at Andy's Man Club, which I've temporarily stepped away from.
I have a family holiday soon, I'm telling myself once I've come back I'll have a clear head and be in a better space to manage the above but honestly, I feel like I'm lieing to myself.
 
Springwell Mackem said:
I'm currently at a low point.

  • Been taking sertraline for the last 2 weeks, not feeling any improvement, if anything I feel worse.
  • Work life is hell, working for an MSP and continuing to get more clients but the business won't hire more resource and the majority I'm managing are outsourced and prone to f*ck ups.
  • Family have their own issues and supporting each one the best I can, while trying to work on my own.
  • Supporting men with their own issues at Andy's Man Club, which I've temporarily stepped away from.
I have a family holiday soon, I'm telling myself once I've come back I'll have a clear head and be in a better space to manage the above but honestly, I feel like I'm lieing to myself.
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Try to relax and enjoy your holiday with the family and hopefully it gives you a good chance to have a rest from work and life. Stay positive mate and hopefully things improve for you after you have had a bit time off to relax.
 
Springwell Mackem said:
I'm currently at a low point.

  • Been taking sertraline for the last 2 weeks, not feeling any improvement, if anything I feel worse.
  • Work life is hell, working for an MSP and continuing to get more clients but the business won't hire more resource and the majority I'm managing are outsourced and prone to f*ck ups.
  • Family have their own issues and supporting each one the best I can, while trying to work on my own.
  • Supporting men with their own issues at Andy's Man Club, which I've temporarily stepped away from.
I have a family holiday soon, I'm telling myself once I've come back I'll have a clear head and be in a better space to manage the above but honestly, I feel like I'm lieing to myself.
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You need to take for at least 2 weeks before feeling any benefit. If after 3 weeks still not feeling improved get back to Dr maybe ask for a slightly bigger dose..
chopsfc007 said:
My local that I've watched all away games in for years didn't have the game on today my only proper hobby is going home games watching the away games il struggle if I can't watch a decent amount them
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Would you feel comfortable going to a pub other than your local? Change of scenery too.
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@Rhubarb hope you feeling better today.
 
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CPLforever said:
You need to take for at least 2 weeks before feeling any benefit. If after 3 weeks still not feeling improved get back to Dr maybe ask for a slightly bigger dose..

Would you feel comfortable going to a pub other than your local? Change of scenery too.
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@Rhubarb hope you feeling better today.
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We tried pub next to it which had it on but barely watchable went to dad's mates for second half but kept sticking
 
Springwell Mackem said:
I'm currently at a low point.

  • Been taking sertraline for the last 2 weeks, not feeling any improvement, if anything I feel worse.
  • Work life is hell, working for an MSP and continuing to get more clients but the business won't hire more resource and the majority I'm managing are outsourced and prone to f*ck ups.
  • Family have their own issues and supporting each one the best I can, while trying to work on my own.
  • Supporting men with their own issues at Andy's Man Club, which I've temporarily stepped away from.
I have a family holiday soon, I'm telling myself once I've come back I'll have a clear head and be in a better space to manage the above but honestly, I feel like I'm lieing to myself.
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My first couple of weeks on Sertraline were pretty rough but then they did help. Been taking them about a year now though and they don't seem to be doing anything anymore.
 
Gennaro Savastano said:
I am up and down but got my application in for a flat. I have offered to pay 6 months rent upfront as well as providing all the info they requested so that is as much as I can do.
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Don't take this the wrong way but I am sort of proud of you. Honestly.

You have had a shitty time, had more downs than ups, trying to work your way through a changing situation that you didn't want and yet you are making strides, ploughing on.

And you are on here, helping others. Giving others good advice or words of encouragement.

You my mate are going to make it through this, going to get settled, build your relationship better and stronger and be able to learn to cope and manage better (your recent diagnosis will help).

And if you feel yourself slipping. Get yourself on here, talk about it, we are here.

(Sorry for the length, but just had to tell you how I feel)
 
CPLforever said:
Don't take this the wrong way but I am sort of proud of you. Honestly.

You have had a shitty time, had more downs than ups, trying to work your way through a changing situation that you didn't want and yet you are making strides, ploughing on.

And you are on here, helping others. Giving others good advice or words of encouragement.

You my mate are going to make it through this, going to get settled, build your relationship better and stronger and be able to learn to cope and manage better (your recent diagnosis will help).

And if you feel yourself slipping. Get yourself on here, talk about it, we are here.

(Sorry for the length, but just had to tell you how I feel)
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I am kind of proud of myself. Although I don't have much choice I am doing things that are out of my comfort zone that I usually avoid. Even making phone calls is difficult for me but I've had to make dozens recently to try and get my life sorted.
 
Been having a good time of it lately so thought I was in a good place mentally, until today.

Everything was fine until about 90 minutes ago when I got back into the office off my post round and found that I'd been moved on to a different duty that I've never done before for tomorrow. Don't get me wrong, this is happening a lot at Royal Mail currently, but I was planning on getting away slightly earlier for the match on Saturday and my duty would be uncovered tomorrow, meaning I have to do 2 days worth of work on Saturday. Whats pissed me off the most is that I'm the only one on my section who has been moved and its happened 3 times in 2 weeks and some others never get moved. The reason they give is that I clear my frame every day so I can handle doing a little bit extra most days as I'm good at my job. In other words I'm being punished for actually doing my job really well and its just frustrating.

I'm also on holiday from work next week and they have so few on cover that my duty is unlikely to go out more than twice next week so when I come back, I'm very likely to have to do a crazy amount of work to catch up, simply because they dont have the staff to cover as they have pissed off so many people that they have went on the sick, all through their complete incompetence. I properly let them know this as well and flew off the handle quite a bit, saying that they're pushing their issues down on to the staff and its causing too much stress for people and absolutely nobody wants to work there.

On top of all this, I had a sensitive issue a couple of years ago which caused me to go through 6 months of counselling and 2 months off work, and wouldn't you know it, that issue has decided to rear its ugly head again. There is nothing I can do about it but accept it but its bringing back feelings that I just cant hack right now. It just feels like too much coincidence that shit things seem to happen all at once.

I really didn't know how close I was to the boil this whole time, even whilst going through what I describe as a good patch. It just took a couple of things to happen and I just went apoplectic and I still feel that raging anger right now.

I think it's time for me to get back to the docs again and see what they say.
 
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