Depression thread continued...

[chopsfc007]

You will never change someone's opinion on social media so I would suggest just stopping before you post and asking yourself..... if this person really worth arguing with...... Is their opinion that important to me or is responding just going to cause me more stress.
We seem to be getting to a point in this thread where we are beginning to go round in circles and it might be worth trying to draw a line under it.

Good point your first bit of reply people know what they are doing anyway I appreciate the genuine people showing concern and trying to help.

 

[chunksafc]

Couldn't care less how long you've been on here. Neither can anyone else i imagine. it's an internet forum not a career

All you're doing is having a go at another poster. On a depression thread. Think about it. You really need to stop.

Thanks for the advice and such kind words after I offered advice to someone.

Try the ignore button, I hear it's handy

 

[AmblerThorn]

Thanks for the advice and such kind words after I offered advice to someone.

Try the ignore button, I hear it's handy

That wasnt advice. You were intentionally making it worse. If you've anything you'd like to talk about that's relevant then this would be the thread. If not then I suggest we both get off it

 

[DBStar]

Look at Facebook with people posting their perfect weekends doing perfect things while some are struggling to pay bills or put food on the table.

Some people have very choreographed social media and trying to compare will make you miserable. I worked with a lovely woman who has a child with an absolutely abusive whopper. Her social media portrays a beautiful family life. It just happens to be missing a lot of narrative, like all of the times she has been reduced to tears on nights out from constantly abusive phone messages and phone calls when she won't go home early. Once I saw that I stopped believing and comparing my life to social media accounts and felt better.

Just people who have no bottle at all but yeh I'm trying to improve how I post

I've seen some posts and the replies are completely unwarranted. I might suggest sometimes slowing down and rewording what you want to say before submitting. I know it's difficult when rattled or during a pile on. I have seen one or two posts of yours that people have jumped on and personally, I can see things are just your phrasing, but some won't and others will take things how they want, which is outside of your control. You won't convince people to stop attacking you though, so energy imploring them to is wasted.

To be fair blocking doesn't always work. Some posters seem to have block lists like the Domesday book. Yet if someone replies to a poster they've blocked, they delight in replying to them and saying they must be replying to an idiot they've blocked.

 

[chopsfc007]

Some people have very choreographed social media and trying to compare will make you miserable. I worked with a lovely woman who has a child with an absolutely abusive whopper. Her social media portrays a beautiful family life. It just happens to be missing a lot of narrative, like all of the times she has been reduced to tears on nights out from constantly abusive phone messages and phone calls when she won't go home early. Once I saw that I stopped believing and comparing my life to social media accounts and felt better.

I've seen some posts and the replies are completely unwarranted. I might suggest sometimes slowing down and rewording what you want to say before submitting. I know it's difficult when rattled or during a pile on. I have seen one or two posts of yours that people have jumped on and personally, I can see things are just your phrasing, but some won't and others will take things how they want, which is outside of your control. You won't convince people to stop attacking you though, so energy imploring them to is wasted.

To be fair blocking doesn't always work. Some posters seem to have block lists like the Domesday book. Yet if someone replies to a poster they've blocked, they delight in replying to them and saying they must be replying to an idiot they've blocked.

People can come at me for my posts but not my mental health etc I need to learn though you are right it won't convince anyone I just wish they would just not say anything.

 

[Baloo]

Without wanting to sound like a dick, if you want to discuss other posters/threads/social media etc, can you start another thread on it.

I’d like to believe that this thread has helped, and continues to help, so many people.

Turning it into a slagging match undermines what this thread is an all about and will potentially stop people coming on here who may need it.

There’s been 69 pages until now without issue. I’m not for one second suggesting that people whose mental wellbeing isn’t in the best place don’t post on here, but I think that referencing other posters/threads from this forum will naturally bring the conflict on to here.

Along the same lines, if you ever get grief off another poster referencing something you’ve posted on here, I’m sure the mods will take appropriate action.

This thread should be about a place for support and a safe place to discuss how you’re feeling.

If @RTGAdmin thinks this post is inappropriate, please feel free to delete it.

 

[Gennaro Savastano]

Without wanting to sound like a dick, if you want to discuss other posters/threads/social media etc, can you start another thread on it.

I’d like to believe that this thread has helped, and continues to help, so many people.

Turning it into a slagging match undermines what this thread is an all about and will potentially stop people coming on here who may need it.

There’s been 69 pages until now without issue. I’m not for one second suggesting that people whose mental wellbeing isn’t in the best place don’t post on here, but I think that referencing other posters/threads from this forum will naturally bring the conflict on to here.

Along the same lines, if you ever get grief off another poster referencing something you’ve posted on here, I’m sure the mods will take appropriate action.

This thread should be about a place for support and a safe place to discuss how you’re feeling.

If @RTGAdmin thinks this post is inappropriate, please feel free to delete it.

Aye I agree this isn't the thread to talk about conflicts from other threads.

 

[87 Others]

Does anybody have any experiences of taking anti anxiety drugs? I am already or Sertraline but my GP has said they think Propranonol might be useful for me at the minute.

I use it for situational anxiety, mainly when I have to present at work in front of a decent number of people.

No obvious side effects for me apart from I can’t exercise the day I take one. Tried running a couple times after taking it on the morning and my heart rate can’t get out of zone 1 and entire body just feels off, so I’d avoid that if you do take it

 

[Rhubarb]

Good evening folks.
Hope we are all as well as we can be and still fighting the fight as we always will!

Everyday is a fight struggling with this depression malarkey. But we are not alone. United we stand!!

Anyway I’ve not posted about my issues for a while. Been a bit of a funny one really.

I posted this months ago. So from lying in bed with a massive knife to my throat like a Penshaw Rambo haha. And wanting to crash my car into a lamppost every morning on way to work.

I’ve had good spells. Then had bad spells masking it with drink sometimes as well.

Then lately a bit Meh. Had a chat with HR at work and that helped a bit. But I still just want to sleep my days away when I’m off.

Never ending this shit is it? Hard and draining fighting the blackness and invisible thing.

Take care folks. Love Rhubarb. X

 

[CPLforever]

Good evening folks.
Hope we are all as well as we can be and still fighting the fight as we always will!

Everyday is a fight struggling with this depression malarkey. But we are not alone. United we stand!!

Anyway I’ve not posted about my issues for a while. Been a bit of a funny one really.

I posted this months ago. So from lying in bed with a massive knife to my throat like a Penshaw Rambo haha. And wanting to crash my car into a lamppost every morning on way to work.

I’ve had good spells. Then had bad spells masking it with drink sometimes as well.

Then lately a bit Meh. Had a chat with HR at work and that helped a bit. But I still just want to sleep my days away when I’m off.

Never ending this shit is it? Hard and draining fighting the blackness and invisible thing.

Take care folks. Love Rhubarb. X

I always think getting out of bed is my first major victory of the day.

Haven't been able to leave the house since last Friday but going to try tomorrow.

Like you say, we are not alone. Tomorrow is going to be a good day.

 

[Rhubarb]

I always think getting out of bed is my first major victory of the day.

Haven't been able to leave the house since last Friday but going to try tomorrow.

Like you say, we are not alone. Tomorrow is going to be a good day.

That’s the spirit lad.
I work continental shifts so long days. Out the house 13 hours. But get days off.

Been wasting them lately. This is the daft thing. I can get up at half four five in morning. Work til six no bother at all.

Days off I can sleep all bloody day! Pissed me off.

Well today I can say fuck you haha. Up at four and took bairn fishing for few hours.

 

[Swindon On Tour]

I always think getting out of bed is my first major victory of the day.

Haven't been able to leave the house since last Friday but going to try tomorrow.

Like you say, we are not alone. Tomorrow is going to be a good day.

One of the best posters on this forum.
Stay strong xx

That’s the spirit lad.
I work continental shifts so long days. Out the house 13 hours. But get days off.

Been wasting them lately. This is the daft thing. I can get up at half four five in morning. Work til six no bother at all.

Days off I can sleep all bloody day! Pissed me off.

Well today I can say fuck you haha. Up at four and took bairn fishing for few hours.

How did it go?
I blanked yesterday, not even a bite however the river is like a pond (my excuse is final ).
If you are down this way pm me and will get you and your lad a free day on a Reservoir where you will catch carp and decent size as well. Equally if you are up for a Winter Pike session would glady lend you my rods and fingers unhooking the crocs.

 

[The soap powder]

Hope everyone is doing ok, Keep this thread going with good stuff lads and lasses

Hate bullies so lets have none of that and lets help each other the way we always have

Anybody who is feeling down keep talking and most of all dont sit in silence

Reach out and someone will hear you and talk to you

 

[Springwell Mackem]

Andy's Man Club were at the Armed Forces weekend in Seaburn and had 100+ lads come up talking about depression, anxiety, etc and the following Monday we had a few new faces across our Sunderland, Houghton and Souter Lighthouse groups.

It's great to see lads opening up more and talking, if we can get one person to talk then it's a win.

 

[Amber]

I use it for situational anxiety, mainly when I have to present at work in front of a decent number of people.

No obvious side effects for me apart from I can’t exercise the day I take one. Tried running a couple times after taking it on the morning and my heart rate can’t get out of zone 1 and entire body just feels off, so I’d avoid that if you do take it

Propranolol has been a life saver for me, I wish I had been prescribed it sooner. My panic attacks were out of control to the point I was hating my life. I was quite frightened to take them tbh but they’ve helped so much.

 

[mackem1989]

Sorry about this post and yes I am getting help

However I really think the end of my battle is soon just thinking about chucking it in I’ve still went on and got on with it but it’s creeping in on me.

Feel so dejected and fed up of the world don’t even feel emotion anymore.

 

[Gennaro Savastano]

Sorry about this post and yes I am getting help

However I really think the end of my battle is soon just thinking about chucking it in I’ve still went on and got on with it but it’s creeping in on me.

Feel so dejected and fed up of the world don’t even feel emotion anymore.

I feel in a similar position myself mate. Just can't see a way things will improve for me. This isn't the life I was trying to build for myself and my kids. I just feel useless at the moment.

 

[D.A]

Fellas, there's nothing I can say or do that'll make you feel better but I can't imagine that is the answer. You've both got families that love you. Please don't give up.

 

[lucky]

When at the bottom it's so hard to see a life but please please please keep battling .

 

[Gennaro Savastano]

Fellas, there's nothing I can say or do that'll make you feel better but I can't imagine that is the answer. You've both got families that love you. Please don't give up.

Kids are the reason I keep fighting mate and I will keep fighting for them aslong as I can but it's just existing not living. Being a part time dad was never in my plans. I wouldn't have had kids if I thought this situation was a possibility.