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Depression thread continued...


Shambo said:
Amazing how I find i go from either feeling great about everything to a day or 2 of getting out of routine, not sleeping correctly, not eating correctly (this is the big one for me), and before I know it I am in an unpleasant cycle and the black clouds are swirling overhead. Got to push hard to fix things today.
Amazing how I find i go from either feeling great about everything to a day or 2 of getting out of routine, not sleeping correctly, not eating correctly (this is the big one for me), and before I know it I am in an unpleasant cycle and the black clouds are swirling overhead. Got to push hard to fix things today.
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Something that keeps tripping me up is I think things are going well then something happens which makes me realise I've misread the situation and I'm back to square one. I never seem to learn my lesson though.
 
matt228 said:
Lately it's just felt like one thing after another.

Bit of context. I'm 33 now. When I was 18, I started having back pain, mostly in the upper-right section although occasionally in other areas. Across the last 15 years, I've seen the GP, various physios, a chiropractor, an osteopath, an acupuncturist and a couple of masseurs. Mostly, I've regulated the pain with exercise, swimming being the main thing that's helped over the years but also yoga and Pilates.

A couple of years ago, I started to get pain in my left knee while training for the GNR (the one and only time I did it). This year, I've started with pain in my right wrist and forearm after extended mouse/keyboard use, both shoulders and often the other pains are spreading to my neck.

On Friday, I had to see an emergency dentist because since Thursday night I'd been having the most extreme pain in one of my teeth, it felt like there was a huge amount of pressure on it, likely linked to a cold/sinus issues. The dentist took x-rays (accidentally dropping the arm of the x-ray machine on my forehead in the process) and found that the nerve inside that (already broken) tooth has died and I need root canal and a crown. Through antibiotics and painkillers (just paracetamol as I'm asthmatic and can't take oral antiinflammatories or aspirin) I managed to improve quite a lot over the weekend, but I'm still not back to work today as I woke up and just felt totally rubbish and unable to go in. My nose isn't nearly as blocked as it was, my tooth isn't hurting at all today and physically I don't think I could really find a justification for being absent, I just felt like I needed the extra day.

This morning, I've also had a phone consultation with a physio for the pain that started about 2 months in my left foot (which the GP thinks it's tendonitis). I have in-person physio booked in which hopefully will help with that aspect.

Sorry for the word vomit, I think I just needed to get it all out on the page.

Mental health and physical health are the same thing, so I suppose it's no wonder that poorer physical health has led me to poorer mental health of late.
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Are you local to Sunderland?
 
Well its a month for the old man on Saturday which hit me today. It seems like it's flown by but dragged at the same time. Ontop of that I asked an adorable little Polish girl out last week and she turned me down (even though it was kamikaze after such a massive life event) you have to be brave and try it.. it's what makes life worth living. There's a nice lass in another office who I feel we do click to an extent and said she might go to our Christmas party cos im going :lol: .

I'm on a week's holiday since Tuesday and saw her on Monday but my over thinking clicked in because she wasn't joining in on my wind-ups or laughing when I was messing with her, i'm being selfish there like as she's had a tough time since started working in my place. hope you're alright life is blooming complicated!
 
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Mr Redknapp said:
Well its a month for the old man on Saturday which hit me today. It seems like it's flown by but dragged at the same time. Ontop of that I asked an adorable little Polish girl out last week and she turned me down, even though it was kamikaze you have to be brave and try it.. it's what makes life worth living. There's a nice lass in another office who I feel we do click to an extend and said she might go to our Christmas party cos im going :lol: . I'm on a week's holiday since Tuesday and saw her on Monday but my over thinking clicked in because she wasn't joining in on my wind-ups or laughing when I was messing with her, i'm being selfish there like as she's had a tough time since started working in my place. hope you're alright life is blooming complicated!
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Life has always been damned complicated where females are concerned, anyway good luck with trying and attracting a Xmas fish of any nationality. :lol:
 
70s traveller said:
Life has always been damned complicated where females are concerned, anyway good luck with trying and attracting a Xmas fish of any nationality. :lol:
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Cheers 8-)

I'm glad I put myself out there though, you can't do more than that. The other lass is English but she has great banter it's really complicated because she mentioned a bf when she joined a few months back (which would kill it dead, no point going after someone that's not available) but then a co-worker said "a nice lass there for ya tho". tbf i'm grateful for the distraction since losing the old man 🤣
 
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matt228 said:
Lately it's just felt like one thing after another.

Bit of context. I'm 33 now. When I was 18, I started having back pain, mostly in the upper-right section although occasionally in other areas. Across the last 15 years, I've seen the GP, various physios, a chiropractor, an osteopath, an acupuncturist and a couple of masseurs. Mostly, I've regulated the pain with exercise, swimming being the main thing that's helped over the years but also yoga and Pilates.

A couple of years ago, I started to get pain in my left knee while training for the GNR (the one and only time I did it). This year, I've started with pain in my right wrist and forearm after extended mouse/keyboard use, both shoulders and often the other pains are spreading to my neck.

On Friday, I had to see an emergency dentist because since Thursday night I'd been having the most extreme pain in one of my teeth, it felt like there was a huge amount of pressure on it, likely linked to a cold/sinus issues. The dentist took x-rays (accidentally dropping the arm of the x-ray machine on my forehead in the process) and found that the nerve inside that (already broken) tooth has died and I need root canal and a crown. Through antibiotics and painkillers (just paracetamol as I'm asthmatic and can't take oral antiinflammatories or aspirin) I managed to improve quite a lot over the weekend, but I'm still not back to work today as I woke up and just felt totally rubbish and unable to go in. My nose isn't nearly as blocked as it was, my tooth isn't hurting at all today and physically I don't think I could really find a justification for being absent, I just felt like I needed the extra day.

This morning, I've also had a phone consultation with a physio for the pain that started about 2 months in my left foot (which the GP thinks it's tendonitis). I have in-person physio booked in which hopefully will help with that aspect.

Sorry for the word vomit, I think I just needed to get it all out on the page.

Mental health and physical health are the same thing, so I suppose it's no wonder that poorer physical health has led me to poorer mental health of late.
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I certainly feel your pain on the toothache front mate, had it start Saturday morning right through til Sunday night. Took the day off on Monday to try and get an emergency appointment through the NHS but expectedly was only the odd private appointment available, rather be in pain😆 will try again on my next mid week day off.
 
Mr Redknapp said:
Cheers :cool:

I'm glad I put myself out there though, you can't do more than that. The other lass is English but she has great banter it's really complicated because she mentioned a bf when she joined a few months back (which would kill it dead, no point going after someone that's not available) but then a co-worker said "a nice lass there for ya tho". tbf i'm grateful for the distraction since losing the old man 🤣
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You have to put yourself out there because often things happen unexpectedly when a friendship is being made. There are a lot of people out there that would happily accept a new relationship. Basically, you have to knock at a door for someone to open it where relationships are concerned. Don't lose faith, it's out there.
 
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70s traveller said:
You have to put yourself out there because often things happen unexpectedly when a friendship is being made. There are a lot of people out there that would happily accept a new relationship. Basically, you have to knock at a door for someone to open it where relationships are concerned. Don't lose faith, it's out there.
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Yep I think you're speaking wise words there.

I'm 39 and been single all my life but tbh, i've not been ready for a relationship until 5 years ago so i'm taking the positive of not being desperate and just getting a random lass preggers (who wouldn't be a good match) and settling down. Like with your advice if I keep plugging away a lovely lady will be thrilled for me to take them for a luxury Greggs' festive bake ;)
 
Raker said:
I certainly feel your pain on the toothache front mate, had it start Saturday morning right through til Sunday night. Took the day off on Monday to try and get an emergency appointment through the NHS but expectedly was only the odd private appointment available, rather be in pain😆 will try again on my next mid week day off.
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I sat through tooth issues for over a year. I went to a private only practitioner and got sorted in a day. Not cheap, but I would say if you can afford it, just go private. I hadn't realised how much aggro it was causing until the same night when I ate a meal without all of the hassle I had been getting from it.
 
Mr Redknapp said:
Yep I think you're speaking wise words there.

I'm 39 and been single all my life but tbh, i've not been ready for a relationship until 5 years ago so i'm taking the positive of not being desperate and just getting a random lass preggers (who wouldn't be a good match) and settling down. Like with your advice if I keep plugging away a lovely lady will be thrilled for me to take them for a luxury Greggs' festive bake ;)
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I would never ever suggest anyone goes in with all guns blazing, females that I was aware of anyway, prefer genuine honest blokes that they can spend pleasant time with that have similar interests. The rest falls into place around trust.

Joking aside, taking a lass out for a casual festive bake & coffee is a good starting point. If she asks for a cheese pastie beware though, no I'm joking. A casual quiet chat to get to know each other should be what you're looking for then gradually progress it from there if it suits both.
 
70s traveller said:
I would never ever suggest anyone goes in with all guns blazing, females that I was aware of anyway, prefer genuine honest blokes that they can spend pleasant time with that have similar interests. The rest falls into place around trust.

Joking aside, taking a lass out for a casual festive bake & coffee is a good starting point. If she asks for a cheese pastie beware though, no I'm joking. A casual quiet chat to get to know each other should be what you're looking for then gradually progress it from there if it suits both.
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🤣

She's someone who is comfortable taking the piss out of me and then when she said she might go to the work's christmas party because i'm going, i have no shame feeling excited as its on the 13th. would be typical of me to pull on a traditionally unlucky day of the year (Friday 13th...tbh mate my hormones make things so confusing :lol:
 
Mr Redknapp said:
🤣

She's someone who is comfortable taking the piss out of me and then when she said she might go to the work's christmas party because i'm going, i have no shame feeling excited as its on the 13th. would be typical of me to pull on a traditionally unlucky day of the year (Friday 13th...tbh mate my hormones make things so confusing :lol:
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If she's taking the mick it shows she's content with you to do it, also to see how you react - which tests your personality. She could be testing the water. Tell her Fri 13th has already been done as a horror movie so you won't be doing her in (probably). It's not necessarily YOUR hormones, she's in the same boat.
 
70s traveller said:
If she's taking the mick it shows she's content with you to do it, also to see how you react - which tests your personality. She could be testing the water. Tell her Fri 13th has already been done as a horror movie so you won't be doing her in (probably). It's not necessarily YOUR hormones, she's in the same boat.
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Agree with that 100%, lasses don't take the piss if they don't like you.

I love her winding me up (her blue eyes are flawless like 💘 ) which is why i overthought on monday when i told her not to miss me and cry when im on holiday:lol: . But she does like spending time with me and would like to spend time with her at the work's Christmas party in a couple of weeks.
 
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Mr Redknapp said:
Agree with that 100%, lasses don't take the piss if they don't like you.

I love her winding me up (her blue eyes are flawless like 💘 ) which is why i overthought on monday when i told her not to miss me and cry when im on holiday:lol: . But she does like spending time with me and would like to spend time with her at the work's Christmas party in a couple of weeks.
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From my interpretation of what you've posted it seems there's an oppportunity in there somwhere, don't blow it - play the gentleman, it's what she's looking for. Keep staring into her eyes, women like that.

Christmas party is on ❤️🤞
 
70s traveller said:
From my interpretation of what you've posted it seems there's an oppportunity in there somwhere, don't blow it - play the gentleman, it's what she's looking for. Keep staring into her eyes, women like that.

Christmas party is on ❤️🤞
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Thanks mate, that's why i'm getting a bit anxious, i don't want to bugger it up and i'm aware of my lack of experience. I felt i took the piss too much the last time i saw her. It was a monday though so she probably couldn't be arsed :lol:. i've been intimidated to accept women don't like simps.
 
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