Last time I was referred to Talking Changes for help dealing with trauma from past abuse, the counsellor decided to look for other stuff to deal with. We spent three sessions discussing my childhood with a fine tooth comb as he was desperate to find some childhood trauma. There wasn't any.
He then moved onto day to day life and how I manage juggling work, physical health issues, parenting etc. He was probing about my housework and I told him I always do the essentials, like cleaning the kitchen and bathroom as that's a health hazard if you let jobs build up there. If I'm unwell, I'll put off jobs like hoovering for a few days until I get irritated by the dog hair and less essential jobs like cleaning the windows or washing down doorframes and skirting boards just get put off altogether. For some reason he fixated on the windows. He wanted me to draw up a plan where I allocate half an hour a day to cleaning one or two windows, and then by the next session I'd have cleaned all my windows and my life would be much better.
Had several sessions overall with the aim of tackling the scars of abuse, but every time I mentioned my ex, he changed the subject and wanted to talk about something else in my life. Never actually did any work dealing with the issues I referred myself for. Then he suddenly proclaimed I was better and discharged me against my wishes.
