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PeteFTM said:
That’s really helpful, thank you. I think remembering other people have experienced it is and come through and got on with things helps, which was what made me think about posting on here (reluctantly as I never like to admit I’m struggling, but the SMB is great for serious stuff). I do think time will help, we’re thinking of having a break away with the kids as I think it may help refresh my brain, but then I don’t know if that’s trying to run from it.
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A break might help.

The last time my daughter saw my Dad, she was bouncing around his hospital bed like a loon as I'd got return tickets for a concert she wanted to go to but we'd missed out on the initial sale. Dad was pleased she was going. He passed a couple of days later and it didn't seem right going to a concert when I was grieving for him but my Mam insisted we went as he would have wanted us to go. Those few hours, just switching off from the grief and funeral planning and all the rest of it did help a lot and it was good seeing the bairn so happy.

PM me if you want to chat. Look after yourself mate xx
 
Becs said:
A break might help.

The last time my daughter saw my Dad, she was bouncing around his hospital bed like a loon as I'd got return tickets for a concert she wanted to go to but we'd missed out on the initial sale. Dad was pleased she was going. He passed a couple of days later and it didn't seem right going to a concert when I was grieving for him but my Mam insisted we went as he would have wanted us to go. Those few hours, just switching off from the grief and funeral planning and all the rest of it did help a lot and it was good seeing the bairn so happy.

PM me if you want to chat. Look after yourself mate xx
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Thanks Becs, I’ve been trying to think along a similar line of what they’d want me to do/not do and what their advice would be, as they’d be the person I’d want advice from in this situation. I definitely know they wouldn’t want me to be wasting time feeling down and not enjoying my life, I think we will arrange a winter break, maybe a different environment will help refresh and dig myself out. We’re taking the kids out today for the day for non-family stuff which will be good, I’m also off work over Christmas which I don’t think has helped as I’ve had too much time to think!
lucky said:
Mate that is amazing and you will get so much support here , I know I have done and still do from so many on here.
We all behind you mate ❤️.
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It’s a god-send this place really, I don’t like to admit I need help, but having somewhere like this to turn to where it’s anonymous and full of people who genuinely want to help is incredible. Hopefully I can return the favour in the future where I can.
 
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PeteFTM said:
Thanks Becs, I’ve been trying to think along a similar line of what they’d want me to do/not do and what their advice would be, as they’d be the person I’d want advice from in this situation. I definitely know they wouldn’t want me to be wasting time feeling down and not enjoying my life, I think we will arrange a winter break, maybe a different environment will help refresh and dig myself out. We’re taking the kids out today for the day for non-family stuff which will be good, I’m also off work over Christmas which I don’t think has helped as I’ve had too much time to think!

It’s a god-send this place really, I don’t like to admit I need help, but having somewhere like this to turn to where it’s anonymous and full of people who genuinely want to help is incredible. Hopefully I can return the favour in the future where I can.
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Ahhh mate that is lovely and yeah it's a great place at times , we can all argue on politics, football decisions etc on different threads but as soon as you on this thread everything just changes and everything is forgot about and everyone is here to help , if only life was like this it would be so much better and easier ❤️ .
 
PeteFTM said:
Thanks Becs, I’ve been trying to think along a similar line of what they’d want me to do/not do and what their advice would be, as they’d be the person I’d want advice from in this situation. I definitely know they wouldn’t want me to be wasting time feeling down and not enjoying my life, I think we will arrange a winter break, maybe a different environment will help refresh and dig myself out. We’re taking the kids out today for the day for non-family stuff which will be good, I’m also off work over Christmas which I don’t think has helped as I’ve had too much time to think!

It’s a god-send this place really, I don’t like to admit I need help, but having somewhere like this to turn to where it’s anonymous and full of people who genuinely want to help is incredible. Hopefully I can return the favour in the future where I can.
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I never asked for help before but felt this time I needed something. You’ve taken the vital first steps.
 
shadowplay said:
FFS no one knows me here. Outside of my birth family I'm a stranger in my own hometown. All my old friends have left, all my lovers have been from elsewhere.

Please don't reply with more sage life advice, I'm done.
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I've found @CPLforever to always be thoughtful, compassionate and provide good insight which I, and I'm sure others, have found useful.

Its only advice, thoughts and perspectives which you are free to take or ignore as you please. I'm sorry if you're frustrated. However, I wouldnt want to discourage people from sharing ideas and advice on here, especially when it comes from a good place because, while you might not find it helpful, others might.
 
Jacksnuts said:
I’m not in depression but I’m struggling with my ex kids etc and I’m at the edge
Enough to be posting this message
I talk to my mates about it and whinge but it’s always in drink
I dunno just feel down
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Do you feel comfortable posting your worries on here? If not, you can PM one of the regulars. Talking helps and it's not whinging. Look after yourself mate xx
 
Jacksnuts said:
I’m not in depression but I’m struggling with my ex kids etc and I’m at the edge
Enough to be posting this message
I talk to my mates about it and whinge but it’s always in drink
I dunno just feel down
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You done the right thing mate as things can snowball quick , we all there for you ❤️.
@Becs just read that Alex Mcleish been awarded a O.B.E for raising awareness for Crohn's disease 👏.
 
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Jacksnuts said:
I’m not in depression but I’m struggling with my ex kids etc and I’m at the edge
Enough to be posting this message
I talk to my mates about it and whinge but it’s always in drink
I dunno just feel down
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As others have said it's not whining but discussing it whilst out drinking you probably won't get the best response or the support you could probably do with. Do you trust any of your friends or family to have that chat sober..If not keep talking on here. The people on this thread are fabulous.
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No idea what's happened with the reply formatting there 🤣.
Try again.......As others have said it's not whining but discussing it whilst out drinking you probably won't get the best response. Do you trust any of your friends or family to have that chat sober..If not keep talking on here. The people on this thread are fabulous.
 
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