I would say onsies and quality street sounds the best bit mate
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CPLforever
Winger
I think it is perfectly normal to feel anxious with a baby on the way. So try not to get too anxious or stressed about your anxiety (if you know what I mean).
Good luck at the work meeting, hopefully won't be as bad as you are expecting.
Stress is a trigger for the crohns. Looking forward to the weekend already and it's only Tuesday!
Got an Oodie that I'm going to hide in for two weeks
Fred
Striker
My best friend has crohns as well Becs and he is currently going through a stressful time with his kid being in and out of hospital with an undiagnosed condition. His crohns keeps flaring up because he is struggling to cope with work and keeping family life together, so I can completely understand what you are going through as he explains it to me in detail almost every night.Stress is a trigger for the crohns. Looking forward to the weekend already and it's only Tuesday!
Got an Oodie that I'm going to hide in for two weeks
I know how it is almost impossible to control and it can take weeks to suppress the flare ups and get back to normal. I think I remember him saying they tried him on the steroids at first but the flare ups were lasting longer than they hoped so they put him on immunosuppressants.
70s traveller
Striker
The over-riding and most important thing by far is that you look after yourself. Take that break & consider the current situation. Something positive employment wise will turn up.
Have you ever considered selling your baking to earn if you like & enjoy doing it? That's something you could control the amounts & when you do it.
Stress is a massive factor in everones' general health & wellbeing. It lowers your systems ability to fight things off so you are more susceptible to all sorts of things that end up getting gradually worse.
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I'm not sure if I can do that with the current kitchen. It's from the 80's and it's literally falling apart! It's clean and ok for family and I haven't poisoned anyone, but I don't think it would pass a council food inspection.
All the trim is peeling off through wear and tear. The stopcock is in the cupboard under the sink. It had a slight leak on it which I didn't know about until I noticed a manky smell under the sink and realised the chipboard was wet and swollen. That cupboard is all warped and split now from the water damage. The cupboard under the boiler is damaged as it had to be removed when the boiler broke and the cupboard back had to come off it to access the gas pipe. The drawers are plastic. They've all gone brittle and the runners don't work properly anymore. I was just looking at drawer kits recently to see if I can salvage the drawer fronts and put new drawer boxes and runners in as I'm sick of the drawers kind of like balancing on top of each other and keep jamming.
That's the hardest part - juggling work and running the household as there's nobody else here to pick up the slack.
I'm already on the immunosuppressants long term. If the steroids don't work this time, they're talking a week in hospital on IV steroids
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70s traveller
Striker
You don't need to do it on an industrial inspection scale yet, just a few orders to help you out. If you have a clean working oven, benches, utensils & decent clean food handling knowledge the drawers can wait. Any friends/family you could borrow or loan a kitchen off?
Got the knowledge. I was a food microbiologist in a previous job so my hygiene is spot on!
70s traveller
Striker
If you have that knowledge you're more than half way there, consider looking into it.
By the way, we're heading into Xmas cake & festives bakery season (££££). You could put a free ad for them on here. Becs Bakery possibly on the agenda?
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kyle's left foot
Winger
Had awful day today, barely slept last night, struggled thru work.
Was at QOTSA gig at Stockton last night, daughter (no) felt unwell as they came on stage, literally had to leave to take her home after 2 songs.
Shes ok (time of the month..which I know is hard for her at 14).
Was so so so so looking forward to it, cant get it out my head, I know I had to look after her and shes my gigbuddy and my world but i feel so flat and gutted and disappointed ive missed the gig
Sorry I know this is trivial in the context of other peoples problems, but its all it takes to just knock you completely off sometimes. Id looked forward to it for so long
(helps to get this off chest, as the ex would just moan at me if i dared say anything)
Just feel totally done in
Was at QOTSA gig at Stockton last night, daughter (no) felt unwell as they came on stage, literally had to leave to take her home after 2 songs.
Shes ok (time of the month..which I know is hard for her at 14).
Was so so so so looking forward to it, cant get it out my head, I know I had to look after her and shes my gigbuddy and my world but i feel so flat and gutted and disappointed ive missed the gig
Sorry I know this is trivial in the context of other peoples problems, but its all it takes to just knock you completely off sometimes. Id looked forward to it for so long
(helps to get this off chest, as the ex would just moan at me if i dared say anything)
Just feel totally done in
70s traveller
Striker
I foresee a board warning for onesie abuse unless you go more upmarket then QS.
This is a place to get things off your chest when things build up.
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kyle's left foot
Winger
I know, and its great.I foresee a board warning for onesie abuse unless you go more upmarket then QS.
This is a place to get things off your chest when things build up.
Got loads of great stuff planned myslef and with kids, just need to stop my head from whirring about last night
She was so upset and wanted to stay just for me even tho she was really struggling bless her
LIFE! always something man
70s traveller
Striker
Well stick it on here to help you out of the bad journeys
The littlest thing can start me off so I know exactly where you coming from , hope you and your daughter is OK. Please don't ever apologise mate as little problem's snowball and become massive problem's. I always say and think now everything happens for a reason ( I'm not religious btw) but you make sure your next gig together is amazing.
Regarding the kitchen I used to work on the sites and in the show homes they used to sell them off for next to nothing as the new owners had picked a different colour or something. But I've saw lads walk away with brand new worktops and cupboards etc for so cheap (less than £100). Maybe see if anyone on the sites on here can maybe keep an eye out for you mate.I'm not sure if I can do that with the current kitchen. It's from the 80's and it's literally falling apart! It's clean and ok for family and I haven't poisoned anyone, but I don't think it would pass a council food inspection.
All the trim is peeling off through wear and tear. The stopcock is in the cupboard under the sink. It had a slight leak on it which I didn't know about until I noticed a manky smell under the sink and realised the chipboard was wet and swollen. That cupboard is all warped and split now from the water damage. The cupboard under the boiler is damaged as it had to be removed when the boiler broke and the cupboard back had to come off it to access the gas pipe. The drawers are plastic. They've all gone brittle and the runners don't work properly anymore. I was just looking at drawer kits recently to see if I can salvage the drawer fronts and put new drawer boxes and runners in as I'm sick of the drawers kind of like balancing on top of each other and keep jamming.
That's the hardest part - juggling work and running the household as there's nobody else here to pick up the slack.
I'm already on the immunosuppressants long term. If the steroids don't work this time, they're talking a week in hospital on IV steroids
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CPLforever
Winger
I think tho it is the little things sometimes. The big things we don't want to let us defeat us so we tackle them head on. The little things! Sometimes catch us unawares. Your daughter will always remember you left a much anticipated gig for her. Cementing her knowledge that you always have her back. That's great. And hey....she owes you one
70s traveller
Striker
The little things are just as big, if not worse, when they mount up.I think tho it is the little things sometimes. The big things we don't want to let us defeat us so we tackle them head on. The little things! Sometimes catch us unawares. Your daughter will always remember you left a much anticipated gig for her. Cementing her knowledge that you always have her back. That's great. And hey....she owes you one
Make your daugher pay!!!! Only joking (honestly), QOTSA gig? You'd have had a better evening at home watching the tv adverts so she was right
Yeah so true mate about daughter remembering what dad done. I am only getting the benefits now that my daughter realises all the things I have done for her and its so nice.I think tho it is the little things sometimes. The big things we don't want to let us defeat us so we tackle them head on. The little things! Sometimes catch us unawares. Your daughter will always remember you left a much anticipated gig for her. Cementing her knowledge that you always have her back. That's great. And hey....she owes you one
rey mysterio
Striker
Hope everyone is doing okay. I’ve been plodding along focussing on work etc looking forward to being paid this months wage with a ton of overtime on.
Mother once again, mouth before brain. “Your dads got to go to the doctors again, prostate trouble, needs to do a blood test”. She then turns to me and says “This will be because of you causing us stress because of your money” (because I asked him for a few quid to tide me over to payday, and she lost her rag with both of us over it)
After challenging her about it, she says “stress causes cancer, your uncles mate died from it and the doctor told the family stress causes it”
Not to sound selfish or anything, but the amount of stress I’ve been under with her, the kids, work, money finally getting a handle on my situation, then she comes out with that
Overused phrase but if I didn’t laugh I’d cry
Mother once again, mouth before brain. “Your dads got to go to the doctors again, prostate trouble, needs to do a blood test”. She then turns to me and says “This will be because of you causing us stress because of your money” (because I asked him for a few quid to tide me over to payday, and she lost her rag with both of us over it)
After challenging her about it, she says “stress causes cancer, your uncles mate died from it and the doctor told the family stress causes it”
Not to sound selfish or anything, but the amount of stress I’ve been under with her, the kids, work, money finally getting a handle on my situation, then she comes out with that
Overused phrase but if I didn’t laugh I’d cry
Keep going mate and hope everything goes OK with your hospital appointmentsHope everyone is doing okay. I’ve been plodding along focussing on work etc looking forward to being paid this months wage with a ton of overtime on.
Mother once again, mouth before brain. “Your dads got to go to the doctors again, prostate trouble, needs to do a blood test”. She then turns to me and says “This will be because of you causing us stress because of your money” (because I asked him for a few quid to tide me over to payday, and she lost her rag with both of us over it)
After challenging her about it, she says “stress causes cancer, your uncles mate died from it and the doctor told the family stress causes it”
Not to sound selfish or anything, but the amount of stress I’ve been under with her, the kids, work, money finally getting a handle on my situation, then she comes out with that
Overused phrase but if I didn’t laugh I’d cry
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CPLforever
Winger
That is an incredibly horrible thing to say....basically tho she will be worried and anxious and as is her habit (by the way you have described her), she is lashing out cos she can't face the situation. Someone HAS to be to blame and unfortunately you seem to be her punching bag.Hope everyone is doing okay. I’ve been plodding along focussing on work etc looking forward to being paid this months wage with a ton of overtime on.
Mother once again, mouth before brain. “Your dads got to go to the doctors again, prostate trouble, needs to do a blood test”. She then turns to me and says “This will be because of you causing us stress because of your money” (because I asked him for a few quid to tide me over to payday, and she lost her rag with both of us over it)
After challenging her about it, she says “stress causes cancer, your uncles mate died from it and the doctor told the family stress causes it”
Not to sound selfish or anything, but the amount of stress I’ve been under with her, the kids, work, money finally getting a handle on my situation, then she comes out with that
Overused phrase but if I didn’t laugh I’d cry
Whilst (as I read this back) I realise non of this actually helps you sometimes I think if we can understand why they behave the way they do it lessens the impact. Most of the time it doesn't and just drags us down regardless.
What can be done, learn to manage our feelings and emotions better so it doesn't affect us so much? Easier said than done.
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