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Sunlun79
Midfield
Absolutely
Ciro_DiMarzio
Striker
I'm ok. The kids will always stop me doing something stupid (I hope). There just doesn't seem like anything to be optimistic about anymore.
Sunlun79
Midfield
Small steps mate, deep breaths, take each day as it comes.
I honestly thought my life was over when my relationship broke down, I was a mess, not eating or sleeping.
I’m not going to lie, It’s a hard and rocky road, but your kids will get you through it.
If you can stay amicable it will be easier, but unfortunately sometimes it’s just not possible.
Five-Quarter
Midfield
Good post
I think like it's almost unwise to underestimate the impact it can have. Sometimes unexpectedly
I don't think I recognised it and it manifested in all manner of ways
Suppose am trying to say in a clumsy way that acceptance of not feeling brill might be kinder on yourself
I dunno!
Sunlun79
Midfield
The impact it has is unbelievable, almost like grief for the life you thought you would have.
Hardest part for me was trying to hold it together for my 15 year old. I would just wait until I went to bed or I was in the bathroom so he couldn’t see how broken I was.
But absolutely be kind to yourself and accept you won’t feel class overnight.
Five-Quarter
Midfield
Maybe that's it. After the initial shock of finding myself in a 2 bed flat by myself, it's still shaped my life for the past few years
Which will be why am sat on my own in a wee bungalow almost relying on this place for interaction some days (
)It's just 'different' I guess.
Perhaps Mr Ciro is also a bit overwhelmed if there's big changes possible too. I might be overstepping it there to make assumptions
All I know is I don't understand a lot of this and sometimes I bumble on a bit too much as a result
Don't think anyone understands a lot mate all we do is try and help and @Ciro_DiMarzio sending all my loveMaybe that's it. After the initial shock of finding myself in a 2 bed flat by myself, it's still shaped my life for the past few years
Which will be why am sat on my own in a wee bungalow almost relying on this place for interaction some days (
It's just 'different' I guess.
Perhaps Mr Ciro is also a bit overwhelmed if there's big changes possible too. I might be overstepping it there to make assumptions
All I know is I don't understand a lot of this and sometimes I bumble on a bit too much as a result
and please message on here if you need anything as you got so many people on here who will help in anyway they can.Ciro_DiMarzio
Striker
You're right mate. Its not just potentially losing the lass I have loved for 20 years that is scary it's the living alone in what will be not a very nice rented property. Seeing my kids as and when I'm told I'm allowed to, having no spare cash at all to do nice things. I know people who have been good dad's who split with their partner and despite both being nice people the split has brought the worst out in both of them and ultimately it's the kids who suffer. My mam and dad split up when I was a teenager and it still effects me negatively now. Our lasses parents are still together so she doesn't realise just how big am impact it can have. I'm aware that staying together just for the sake of the kids is also a bad thing to do though.Maybe that's it. After the initial shock of finding myself in a 2 bed flat by myself, it's still shaped my life for the past few years
Which will be why am sat on my own in a wee bungalow almost relying on this place for interaction some days (
It's just 'different' I guess.
Perhaps Mr Ciro is also a bit overwhelmed if there's big changes possible too. I might be overstepping it there to make assumptions
All I know is I don't understand a lot of this and sometimes I bumble on a bit too much as a result
Ahhh mate it's an awful feeling I ended up in a bedsit at Eden Vale in shared accommodation it was a shock to everything but I just had to try and keep going. Don't ever hide away or get stuck in a rut however hard it will be. If you need a rant just rant on here and if you ever wanna message feel free and same goes to everyone.
Five-Quarter
Midfield
It's no help but I probably echo what lucky said a bit - though not the shared accommodation bit
Hmm. Kind of a lot what you've said in that post happened
Kids - difficult. Have never ever despite continuous attempts been able to come up with a proper regular arrangement.
But my ex was and is very controlling. It'd be embarassing to describe how it showed in the marriage but she's also just difficult and perversely enjoys it. We seperated twice before the final break.
It was hopeless and me going back and then away again didn't do the kids any good either.
Not like I was running off with other women it just couldn't work. But I don't know what the kids make of it all really. I hope it's not negative like you've experienced
Chances are, your partner won't be that bad to be fair
Has it got bad just recently? I don't know you at all but you must have masked this quite well on here
No wonder your heads all over
Ciro_DiMarzio
Striker
About 3 months ago I noticed something wasn't right. A change in the way she was acting around me. 5 weeks ago I asked what was going on and she said that things hadn't felt right for about 6 months so those first 3 months she was unhappy I was oblivious. I fully admit I took my eye off the ball and became complacent as a boyfriend. Staying up late, drinking too much and not giving her enough attention I suppose but she never spoke to me about it until I brought it up.
I was initially worried that the change in behaviour may have been that there was somebody else but I've asked her repeatedly and she says there isn't and I am 99% sure she is telling the truth. Its just a really weird situation. We've spoken on the phone today and agreed to make an effort to talk through this properly as we have been avoiding difficult conversations for weeks. Will just have to see what happens.
Five-Quarter
Midfield
Wouldn't beat yourself about that. It maybe wasn't your complacency. Stuff like that just happens to even the most sorted couples
Sounds like you're not at home.
A bit time apart and a good talk may well readjust things and see where you go
MustardAndOnions
Winger
fuck me, bad day internally that like, probs why I have posted like 100 times on any topic today just to keep my mind distracted.
Day by day mate. dont look too far ahead. just try keep it simple as you can for the minute. I realise this is easier said than done, many have been through the same, and have get through it, just like you will do too marra.
Day by day mate. dont look too far ahead. just try keep it simple as you can for the minute. I realise this is easier said than done, many have been through the same, and have get through it, just like you will do too marra.
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Ciro_DiMarzio
Striker
I use this place as a distraction as well. Post some utter shite just to pass the time.
Five-Quarter
Midfield
Aye I do that of late
I've posted a lot recently. Though have been in quite a good mood lately I've been pretty stressed so it could be that
MustardAndOnions
Winger
aye big time, if you ever see me talking shite then least you know why!
S.S.R..
Striker
The more I hear about failing relationships, the more I think being on me Todd is the way to go. Don't think it's good to have stuff like where I live and how much money I get to spend on myself hanging by a gossamer thread on the whims of another - potentially flakey - person.
Every day looking for clues in someone's behaviour to establish whether you might have to look on Zoopla in three months and walking on eggshells in case you upset them. Seriously, fuck that.
Every day looking for clues in someone's behaviour to establish whether you might have to look on Zoopla in three months and walking on eggshells in case you upset them. Seriously, fuck that.
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Five-Quarter
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