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If it was me, I'd try and get work off shore.

Wife and kids stopped me getting into it.

Tons of cash, loads of mates.
 
The Rat said:
Got to be honest struggling a bit here.

No social group, feel like no mates, or at least not in one place all together.

Back in a mundane job, work from home, so no interaction with anyone. Jobs going nowhere, shite money, feel way behind my peers. But I’ve got no plan of what I wanna do or progress.

Nae Lass, nae plan, nae motivation, absolutely nothing planned till Christmas Day, literally

I’ve thought about many things over years, going to work remotely from abroad which maybe I could do, or all this type of shite, but not sure I’ve got any confidence left to do out.

Im 31 and I just feel like it’s going nowhere and I’m wasting me life and have wasted it so far. But no motivation to do fuck all. Feel totally alone but at the same time finding it hard to motivate to wanna talk to anyone.

Fed up!
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It’s a shite miserable time of year mate. Take some comfort from that.

Pick one really small thing that you can achieve. Anything. Smaller the better. Do it.

Then keep going, another and another.
 
Play live poker. It can be as sociable as you want it to be, or not, so you can socialise at your own pace without it being awkward

Poker players talk to anyone as you’re in such close vicinity

Some pub games are good introduction games if you don’t know how to play, and it’s only a fiver

Search for ‘redtooth’ and enter your post code
 
WildTurkey said:
Play live poker. It can be as sociable as you want it to be, or not, so you can socialise at your own pace without it being awkward

Poker players talk to anyone as you’re in such close vicinity

Some pub games are good introduction games if you don’t know how to play, and it’s only a fiver

Search for ‘redtooth’ and enter your post code
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Great. Now he's going to be miserable and skint.
 
The Rat said:
Got to be honest struggling a bit here.

No social group, feel like no mates, or at least not in one place all together.

Back in a mundane job, work from home, so no interaction with anyone. Jobs going nowhere, shite money, feel way behind my peers. But I’ve got no plan of what I wanna do or progress.

Nae Lass, nae plan, nae motivation, absolutely nothing planned till Christmas Day, literally

I’ve thought about many things over years, going to work remotely from abroad which maybe I could do, or all this type of shite, but not sure I’ve got any confidence left to do out.

Im 31 and I just feel like it’s going nowhere and I’m wasting me life and have wasted it so far. But no motivation to do fuck all. Feel totally alone but at the same time finding it hard to motivate to wanna talk to anyone.

Fed up!
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go to NZ and try and find that lass you met in Rome
 
oROSSo said:
with no commitments I'd be off. Dunno where, but I'd just go.
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i get his thing of knowing where he's gone wrong and what needs doing but no motivation . I Get like that but that's the 20% of time i'm not living a great life so I don't stress over it .Must be a lot harder with nothing to feel good about . I 've never been one for overthinking stuff mind.Job,money,lasses etc ..just enjoyed myself best I can with what I had
 
If its doing the same job I dont see the point of working remotely abroad doing it.

Look into a hobby? Something that gets you out and about. Loads of people say the gym, bust something specific like boxing/fitness/martial arts club. Easy way to make mates if your interested in that type of thing. Suppose itll be the same for any hobby/interest you have. These will more likely have social nights rather than joining a franchise gym.

Then look at jobs/careers. At 31 I was just finishing uni :) plenty of people older than me doing the same.
 
Strange thing it is working from home like. I do it now 3/4 days a week.

Some I can make 50 phonecalls but not meet a soul. You often feel like you havent grafted bizzarely too.
Dont think its for everyone.

Good luck.
 
LewisLad said:
This is an issue. Everyone thinks working from home is great (which it can be) but when you haven't got much going on outside of work during the week the day can really roll into one.

If a change of job isn't practical at the moment, try mixing up your routine. Why don't you look on the diet & exercise forum and join a game of footy each week or take up a new sport / physical challenge.
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Agreed. I found it tough working from home until I made good connections through daily or weekly calls with my colleagues.
 
The Rat said:
Got to be honest struggling a bit here.

No social group, feel like no mates, or at least not in one place all together.

Back in a mundane job, work from home, so no interaction with anyone. Jobs going nowhere, shite money, feel way behind my peers. But I’ve got no plan of what I wanna do or progress.

Nae Lass, nae plan, nae motivation, absolutely nothing planned till Christmas Day, literally

I’ve thought about many things over years, going to work remotely from abroad which maybe I could do, or all this type of shite, but not sure I’ve got any confidence left to do out.

Im 31 and I just feel like it’s going nowhere and I’m wasting me life and have wasted it so far. But no motivation to do fuck all. Feel totally alone but at the same time finding it hard to motivate to wanna talk to anyone.

Fed up!
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Feel for you mate....think I felt much the same as you do at your age...don’t think that everyone’s life is perfect...there are a lot who would rather be in your shoes that they are in their own...you’ve got to make the effort to Chang your life but dont go thinking that every change is going to improve your life...don’t give up...be bold go make the changes...some you will win but also some you will loose...chin up mate
 
A lot of the problems you’ve described can be solved easily mate. The best way to get out there and find mates and meet lasses is to get out there and find mates and meet lasses. Your life is as exciting or boring as you want it to be. It’s easy to drop into a hole and just accept it’s where you are, but it’s also easy to join a club or a team in something. I moved away from home to somewhere where I knew about 3 people and now I’ve got a big social circle.

Another good tip, don’t wait for things to come to you. You want to go out but nobody is asking? You ask! I arrange stuff all the time when I’ve got fuck all on.

Also take a vitamin supplement. Shite time of year with no sun.
 
RossTheNinja said:
Agreed. I found it tough working from home until I made good connections through daily or weekly calls with my colleagues.
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In my opinion it's not enough, unless you can't wait to get out of bed and log on because your job is your passion, you need to go out of your way to get out the house during the day and on an evening or you can go a bit crazy. At least in my experience.

OP sounds like he needs to make a change and start getting out a bit more. Being cooped up and feeling miserable isn't good for you.
 
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