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Lisbon said:
Message me anytime If your this low, just have a rant about what is hurting you if need be.

Depression is something that can be beat. Enjoy your drink and have a bit look at the funny craic on this board. No matter what it looks like your not alone fella.
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cheers

I hate how I feel just because someone who I loved to bits could this to me. But what I hate more is that I'm 32 and left to start life again with nothing. I gave everything up for her. I worked nights and wonder how long she was cheating on me for. my brain is fucked completely I feel like going on a rampage but we're will that get me ?

What does my head in more is I've friends who have suffered worse, losing kids to cancer and that . So why am I letting this control my life when it doesn't even come close to that

Maravilla said:
Get yourself out of the pub now mate, as easy as it is to kid yourself that you'll feel better after a few drinks it makes things 10 times worse.
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Thanks fella I'm going to now . I'm sorry for writing stuff on here
 

Maravilla said:
Get yourself out of the pub now mate, as easy as it is to kid yourself that you'll feel better after a few drinks it makes things 10 times worse.
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This. A thiusand times this. Same offer as everyone else has made marra. My inbox is there if you need to rant
 
efcarentwe said:
cheers

I hate how I feel just because someone who I loved to bits could this to me. But what I hate more is that I'm 32 and left to start life again with nothing. I gave everything up for her. I worked nights and wonder how long she was cheating on me for. my brain is fucked completely I feel like going on a rampage but we're will that get me ?

What does my head in more is I've friends who have suffered worse, losing kids to cancer and that . So why am I letting this control my life when it doesn't even come close to that


Thanks fella I'm going to now . I'm sorry for writing stuff on here
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You can't stop your brain asking all the questions and revisits to memories of which you realise you were cheated on. Remember that women who cheat are scum and you deserve better!
There's one positive already, your out of something which wasn't right.
your a young pup at 32 and and things will get better mate.
You really need to hit gym or something, do something positive and regain confidence in yourself.

P.s you deserve better
 
efcarentwe said:
What does my head in more is I've friends who have suffered worse, losing kids to cancer and that . So why am I letting this control my life when it doesn't even come close to that
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It still hurts though. You still need to go through a kind of grieving process over what you've think you have lost. In reality, you've had a lucky escape from someone who wasn't treating you properly and you deserve much better than that. Time is a great healer though, trust me on that as I've been where you are and I'm still here! Never think you are better off dead though. That's really not the case at all. What are you travelling back to London for?
 
becs said:
It still hurts though. You still need to go through a kind of grieving process over what you've think you have lost. In reality, you've had a lucky escape from someone who wasn't treating you properly and you deserve much better than that. Time is a great healer though, trust me on that as I've been where you are and I'm still here! Never think you are better off dead though. That's really not the case at all. What are you travelling back to London for?
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im still stuck working there , I hate the place

Thanks a lot for advice ,. This board has helped me a lot.

becs said:
It still hurts though. You still need to go through a kind of grieving process over what you've think you have lost. In reality, you've had a lucky escape from someone who wasn't treating you properly and you deserve much better than that. Time is a great healer though, trust me on that as I've been where you are and I'm still here! Never think you are better off dead though. That's really not the case at all. What are you travelling back to London for?
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thanks for the help

Lisbon said:
You can't stop your brain asking all the questions and revisits to memories of which you realise you were cheated on. Remember that women who cheat are scum and you deserve better!
There's one positive already, your out of something which wasn't right.
your a young pup at 32 and and things will get better mate.
You really need to hit gym or something, do something positive and regain confidence in yourself.

P.s you deserve better
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thanks. I really need to sort my life out
 
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efcarentwe said:
im still stuck working there , I hate the place
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How about trying some ecotherapy? Have a read of this:
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There's loads of lovely parks in London. Find one and do whatever takes your fancy - go for a walk, watch birds on the water, have a picnic, sit and watch the world go by, read a book etc. I've found it really does help.

Have a go and see how you get on with it. If it doesn't work, you can come back and post "oi Becs that was a right load of bollocks" at me :D
 
Right, sorry my problems aren't as bad as many on here but find this thread a good place to vent none the less. I mentioned a week or so ago that my mam was ill in hospital. Well she got out on Friday but is still not well. She has a brain tumour. Drugs have taken down the swelling and the don't think it is cancerous but they aren't sure. She is at the RVI on Tuesday to try to find out more and see what the next step is treatment wise.

Obviously them thinking it isn't cancerous is a good thing but my mind is playing out all kinds of scenarios. I probably shouldn't have but had a conversation with my daughter about it this morning ( she's 2), I told her that nana was out of hospital but she was still very poorly. Seems daft but I was talking to her as if she was an adult. It is weird but more thanthe possibility of losing my mam I am worried about her losing her nana. Sounds silly to read this back but I know most in this thread will see it for what it is. Cheers people.
 
Sorry to hear about your Mam. Hope all goes ok on Tuesday and she gets the treatment she needs.

I've found honesty is the best way with bairns. Tell her the facts at a level she understands and encourage her to talk about her feelings. That goes for this and all the other awkward conversations you're going to have as she grows up. Builds a good relationship if you're open and honest with them and they know they can trust you when they need to.
 
becs said:
Sorry to hear about your Mam. Hope all goes ok on Tuesday and she gets the treatment she needs.

I've found honesty is the best way with bairns. Tell her the facts at a level she understands and encourage her to talk about her feelings. That goes for this and all the other awkward conversations you're going to have as she grows up. Builds a good relationship if you're open and honest with them and they know they can trust you when they need to.
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Yeah thats what I am trying to do. I have been lucky enough to get to 30 with 3 of my grandparents (one died months after I was born) and both parents alive. Nobody very close to me has died yet but now I am worried about how she will deal with it, probably better than I will to be honest. I have never been good about talking about my feelings. Our lass is worried sick about me because of how withdrawn I am. I am trying to put on a brave face and act normal but I am struggling. Don't know whether I am coming or going. God knows how my mam is feeling.

Sorry for wittering on.
 
shogun1904 said:
Yeah thats what I am trying to do. I have been lucky enough to get to 30 with 3 of my grandparents (one died months after I was born) and both parents alive. Nobody very close to me has died yet but now I am worried about how she will deal with it, probably better than I will to be honest. I have never been good about talking about my feelings. Our lass is worried sick about me because of how withdrawn I am. I am trying to put on a brave face and act normal but I am struggling. Don't know whether I am coming or going. God knows how my mam is feeling.

Sorry for wittering on.
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Don't be sorry. Its better to let it out than bottle it up. If writing on here is that outlet, then please keep wittering on!

I know its easy to over think every option that might happen. If you can, concentrate on getting through Tuesday and leave the other worrying until you know if they are legitimate worries or not. Bairns are a lot tougher than we give them credit for.
 
becs said:
Don't be sorry. Its better to let it out than bottle it up. If writing on here is that outlet, then please keep wittering on!

I know its easy to over think every option that might happen. If you can, concentrate on getting through Tuesday and leave the other worrying until you know if they are legitimate worries or not. Bairns are a lot tougher than we give them credit for.
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I know, we clashed heads earlier on when we were playing and she laughed while I rolled about in agony. :lol:
 
efcarentwe said:
It's back with a bang for me again. Not got out of bed for 2 days . Up until now. Had to get out the house now sitting in the local having a pint . My lack of motivation is horrible. I've stopped the tablets but I think I need to take them again. Got to travel back to London tomorrow and the thought of it kills me , I f***ing hate myself so much I wish I was dead. I just can't be arsed with anything
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What is it you hate so much about London? Is it the place itself, the work you're doing, or is it just where you happen to be while you're feeling like this?
 
Felt shit for about 7 weeks or so now. Last time I felt pretty bad was around Summer but not for so long.

As I have said previously I am going between feeling horrendous for 30 minutes, then feeling alright for 1 minute. No matter how hard I try I can't keep negative thoughts out of my head, I have been doing anything I can possible to block them coming in but I'm just not strong enough to be able to do it. Weirdly enough I am at the point where I dread finishing work as I go home and do fuck all, same with weekends, I don't even look forward to them anymore as I only sit around doing nothing. I did start feeling much better a week or so ago then seen something I didn't want to see and it came crashing back in again and has felt exactly the same ever since.
 
GTG said:
What is it you hate so much about London? Is it the place itself, the work you're doing, or is it just where you happen to be while you're feeling like this?
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I've avoided this thread for a week . But in a week things have changed . I've packed in work and come home for good . I've been signed off for a month on the sick while I get my head together . A weight has been lifted off my shoulders and now I can fully move on and forget about my ex . Her sisters fella was my boss I had a run in with her last week Which made me decide to just call it quits.

It's not ideal being Out off work but needs must . I have a possible job in a months time as well . I've been in the gym every day since Saturday snd am enjoying it and went out with a decent girl on Saturday for a drink so I'm in a much better place.

Thanks to everyone on here for support as weird as that may sound .
 
efcarentwe said:
I've avoided this thread for a week . But in a week things have changed . I've packed in work and come home for good . I've been signed off for a month on the sick while I get my head together . A weight has been lifted off my shoulders and now I can fully move on and forget about my ex . Her sisters fella was my boss I had a run in with her last week Which made me decide to just call it quits.

It's not ideal being Out off work but needs must . I have a possible job in a months time as well . I've been in the gym every day since Saturday snd am enjoying it and went out with a decent girl on Saturday for a drink so I'm in a much better place.

Thanks to everyone on here for support as weird as that may sound .
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Well done you scouse git, glad things are looking better for you. (Seriously, I am.)
 
Plank said:
Felt shit for about 7 weeks or so now. Last time I felt pretty bad was around Summer but not for so long.

As I have said previously I am going between feeling horrendous for 30 minutes, then feeling alright for 1 minute. No matter how hard I try I can't keep negative thoughts out of my head, I have been doing anything I can possible to block them coming in but I'm just not strong enough to be able to do it. Weirdly enough I am at the point where I dread finishing work as I go home and do fuck all, same with weekends, I don't even look forward to them anymore as I only sit around doing nothing. I did start feeling much better a week or so ago then seen something I didn't want to see and it came crashing back in again and has felt exactly the same ever since.
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What would you usually do on a weekend, or what would you really like to do but have never got round to doing it? Find something small and do it this weekend. It's like a snowball effect and doing one small thing can lead to going on to do bigger and better things.

You can't stop the negative thoughts coming back into your head. That's human nature and you'll probably always get flashbacks to things that have happened to you. The trick is not letting those thoughts bother you. Try not to dwell on them and try and let the thoughts sort of wash over you and back out again. I know that is much easier said than done though.

efcarentwe said:
I've avoided this thread for a week . But in a week things have changed . I've packed in work and come home for good . I've been signed off for a month on the sick while I get my head together . A weight has been lifted off my shoulders and now I can fully move on and forget about my ex . Her sisters fella was my boss I had a run in with her last week Which made me decide to just call it quits.

It's not ideal being Out off work but needs must . I have a possible job in a months time as well . I've been in the gym every day since Saturday snd am enjoying it and went out with a decent girl on Saturday for a drink so I'm in a much better place.

Thanks to everyone on here for support as weird as that may sound .
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It is ideal being out of work if that's what you need to fix you! Really pleased that things seem to be looking up for you and hope you continue to get better xx
 
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