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Porrohman said:
Cheers Tim, marra. Ah think that we have a kind of similar sense of humour. Imagine waking up and thinking what have I done? Think we have all been there once or twice before;). Anyway, this wake up is after a rather long sleep. Now, I know that there are some on here who would say that I am playing a victim card. I'm not. I have thought about killing myself every day for two years until about six months ago. It is a dark place. In the last six months my cousin was murdered and my pet was killed in the same week. I could deal with it ok, especially as my wife is with me. I have driven her to the ends of hell I suppose, although she has a canny way with words also. However, we are about to snuggle up and watch Shawshank together. Might even be a kiss and tongues at some point. We have been through a lot, but are on the other side.
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I'm pleased to hear it, marra. I don't suffer myself, but my wife does very badly, if you feel the need to talk, you are always welcome to PM me.
 

TimBirch said:
I'm pleased to hear it, marra. I don't suffer myself, but my wife does very badly, if you feel the need to talk, you are always welcome to PM me.
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Cheers, mate. You and yours are always welcome for dinner and a few drinks. Johnny
 
Alan BStard said:
Fella down the road says he's got depression, he's persuaded the GP to sign him off because he's got depression, his marriage is bust (completely his fault, cant keep his cock in his pants) and he says this is depressing him. He's 50 and got a back problem (which doesn't stop him doing anything he wants to if he feels like it) and this depresses him. There is more but I'll spare you. He's all over Facebook yakking on about his depression and how people who haven't had it don't understand.

Scuse me pal but I think you have an advanced case of feeling sorry for yourself, not depression....there's a difference. I kind of fancy those with proper depression don't run up and down the street telling all and sundry about it.

Or am I a cynic?
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Nope. When I was depressed I cut myself off from the world and just wanted to be alone. I used to take a knife upstairs and cut myself in bed and wake up next day with blood all over the sheets. Lived with my brother at the time and he ended up getting rid of every knife we had in the house because he was that worried I would go too far! I didn't post on facebook about it. I didn't tell anyone about it. When you feel alone you want to be alone.
 
Alan BStard said:
Fella down the road says he's got depression, he's persuaded the GP to sign him off because he's got depression, his marriage is bust (completely his fault, cant keep his cock in his pants) and he says this is depressing him. He's 50 and got a back problem (which doesn't stop him doing anything he wants to if he feels like it) and this depresses him. There is more but I'll spare you. He's all over Facebook yakking on about his depression and how people who haven't had it don't understand.

Scuse me pal but I think you have an advanced case of feeling sorry for yourself, not depression....there's a difference. I kind of fancy those with proper depression don't run up and down the street telling all and sundry about it.

Or am I a cynic?
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Depression can make people do/say things they wouldn't normally do- When you are in a depression you don't often realise it - others around you notice it first (if they are close to you) in my experience - You don't come across as being all that understanding if he turned to you for help
 
aruba said:
Depression can make people do/say things they wouldn't normally do- When you are in a depression you don't often realise it - others around you notice it first (if they are close to you) in my experience - You don't come across as being all that understanding if he turned to you for help
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You're absolutely right.
 
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Aye mate your right , fund the NHS fully and that would work , think 10x the cost initially though minimum , that's if we already had the medics .

The waiting list to see a "mental health doctor " is already months long once your identified and triaged , how long would it be if they were responsible for all initial diagnosis ?
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His voice is enough to send anyone to kip :lol:
 
aruba said:
Depression can make people do/say things they wouldn't normally do- When you are in a depression you don't often realise it - others around you notice it first (if they are close to you) in my experience - You don't come across as being all that understanding if he turned to you for help
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Depression doesn't make you shag about like.
 
In my experience its better to stay doing the normal things anyway. Getting time off work due to depression will most likely lead to you sitting around getting more depressed. I told no one about my situation as I wanted everything to stay the same, I didn't want people pussy footing around me and looking out for me as if I was on suicide watch.

These people pulling the leg in regards to depression want to suffer the real consequences. The ones who bleat so openly about it are just attention seekers, its the quiet ones you have to look for.
 
Alan BStard said:
Fella down the road says he's got depression, he's persuaded the GP to sign him off because he's got depression, his marriage is bust (completely his fault, cant keep his cock in his pants) and he says this is depressing him. He's 50 and got a back problem (which doesn't stop him doing anything he wants to if he feels like it) and this depresses him. There is more but I'll spare you. He's all over Facebook yakking on about his depression and how people who haven't had it don't understand.

Scuse me pal but I think you have an advanced case of feeling sorry for yourself, not depression....there's a difference. I kind of fancy those with proper depression don't run up and down the street telling all and sundry about it.

Or am I a cynic?
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Don't know the bloke or his situation really - just your interpretation of it. Maybe you are right but no one can judge from this.
 
I can only go from personal experience, from which my slant on it seems paradoxical. An underlying reason or trigger tends to be looked at for depression. Yet if I know something is making me feel sad, or down, I know it's not depression, and I make little life adjustments to counteract it, sometimes none too successfully.

Yet if I fall into the grip of depression, I don't realise it at all at first. I simply lie in my bed, too fatigued in mind and body to even want to get up, or maybe in my dressing gown in the living room, unshaven, unwashed, no tv or radio on, eyes looking towards the floor, letting the voice in my head wash over me, telling me how worthless I am, how the world wouldn't miss me and would actually be better off without me.

It doesn't even occur to me at that time, that I'm even unwell. Usually it's a few days of being like this, eating minimally, not going out, shutting myself from the world, that it finally clicks that I'm not right. Earlier this year it took getting in touch with Samaritans to realise it. I wasn't going to take my life that day but plans in my mind were at the point of 'It's settled, on this day, you do this, gives you time to say goodbye then'.

Clearly I can't speak for others and judge if they have depression or not. Perspectves and knowledge of situations can be wildly varying. The common strand, however, is that your mind has to be in a pretty dark place. I wouldn't wish that on anyone and hope those that do suffer come out of their latest bout of it as soon as possible.
 
Harry Monk said:
I work with some people who bring it up how they suffer from depression at the drop of a hat to everyone and anyone who will listen.

Not sure if I'm being harsh but this really annoys me
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aye, that type get on my f***ing wick anarl , when i pick them up " off work then , holiday? " na i don't work mate i suffer from depression", " aye ok mate, what was the pub you wanted dropping off at again on a tuesday afternoon ":rolleyes: i don't believe in it anyway , just weak willed
 
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